Western Dress for closeness

Originally posted by: nancy505

Nitya Bua Saah arranged a portrait occassion for Diya and Ratan. How sweet! KM is not impressed with Diya but still supporting her. So what I want to say is if family members support a marriage it can sustain. Let me tell you what my grand mother told me today.

After Diya and Ratan got married I asked many people(family members) "can a boy marry a girl older than him?" and guess what all said,"no, it can not happen", reason ? Same old answer, "mentality won't match". Than I thought lets ask someone very older and experienced and my grandmother answered,"Yes it can happen". I was surprised and asked her,

"Did you see any couple like that?"

"Yes I have"

"Did their relationship lasted?"

"Yes it lasted"

"How much gap they had?"

"Not much", she thought for a moment and said,"12 years"

"12 years, how is that possible? In this days that kind of relationship doesn't work out. And it was long ago. How they survived?"

MY grandmother smiled and said,"People were supportive that days, they never had any kind of problem with each other once they were married. They never questioned neither the boy nor the girl about anything. Not about color, not tallness, not how much work she can do. If parents thought the guy is OK or the girl is OK , we know than the next day they are married. Though I the couple I was talking liked each other and parents got them married"

What I want to say is the issue of western dress looked symbolic to me, the family member are trying to make them a couple. To make a successful relationship family actually matters. Bemeel shaadi main bhi meel ho sakta hai. That's why I shared the story. 😃

Originally posted by: nancy505

Nitya Bua Saah arranged a portrait occassion for Diya and Ratan. How sweet! KM is not impressed with Diya but still supporting her. So what I want to say is if family members support a marriage it can sustain. Let me tell you what my grand mother told me today.

After Diya and Ratan got married I asked many people(family members) "can a boy marry a girl older than him?" and guess what all said,"no, it can not happen", reason ? Same old answer, "mentality won't match". Than I thought lets ask someone very older and experienced and my grandmother answered,"Yes it can happen". I was surprised and asked her,

"Did you see any couple like that?"

"Yes I have"

"Did their relationship lasted?"

"Yes it lasted"

"How much gap they had?"

"Not much", she thought for a moment and said,"12 years"

"12 years, how is that possible? In this days that kind of relationship doesn't work out. And it was long ago. How they survived?"

MY grandmother smiled and said,"People were supportive that days, they never had any kind of problem with each other once they were married. They never questioned neither the boy nor the girl about anything. Not about color, not tallness, not how much work she can do. If parents thought the guy is OK or the girl is OK , we know than the next day they are married. Though I the couple I was talking liked each other and parents got them married"

What I want to say is the issue of western dress looked symbolic to me, the family member are trying to make them a couple. To make a successful relationship family actually matters. Bemeel shaadi main bhi meel ho sakta hai. That's why I shared the story. 😃

Originally posted by: Doc.love

Hii there.. Beautiful story!! Your grandmom told you something really valuable. 👏😊 Definitely a relationship like that can sustain. I have seen examples and in muslim history, the Prophet Muhammad's first wife Khadijah was also around 15 years elder than Him. He married her when He was only 25,and bachelor, while she was 40 and a widow too. But theirs was a beautiful relationship and He missed her dearly till His last breath. She respected Him and supported Him when He needed her the most. She was a very strong pillar of support for Him in all His thick and thin. He had 4 children with her too, and they were raised amazingly by her . And she was not an ordinary woman. She was a business woman, very rich on her own and belonged to a very elite tribe of Arabs.

So basically, its not unlikely to have a relationship with an elder woman and I think Ratan needs Diya's constant support to grow up into the strong and mature Daata Hukum that he should be one day.

I just dont like the meekness i am seeing in Diya since marriage. 😕 I want the tigress Diya to resurface, the one who used to handle Ratan's tantrums easily .. 😊

And by the way, I am Ayesha, and this is my 1st ever post in this forum.. Reason is that I just recently binge watched all the previous episodes of this show and finally got to the current timeline.. 😆

Originally posted by: Doc.love

Hii there.. Beautiful story!! Your grandmom told you something really valuable. 👏😊 Definitely a relationship like that can sustain. I have seen examples and in muslim history, the Prophet Muhammad's first wife Khadijah was also around 15 years elder than Him. He married her when He was only 25,and bachelor, while she was 40 and a widow too. But theirs was a beautiful relationship and He missed her dearly till His last breath. She respected Him and supported Him when He needed her the most. She was a very strong pillar of support for Him in all His thick and thin. He had 4 children with her too, and they were raised amazingly by her . And she was not an ordinary woman. She was a business woman, very rich on her own and belonged to a very elite tribe of Arabs.

So basically, its not unlikely to have a relationship with an elder woman and I think Ratan needs Diya's constant support to grow up into the strong and mature Daata Hukum that he should be one day.

I just dont like the meekness i am seeing in Diya since marriage. 😕 I want the tigress Diya to resurface, the one who used to handle Ratan's tantrums easily .. 😊

And by the way, I am Ayesha, and this is my 1st ever post in this forum.. Reason is that I just recently binge watched all the previous episodes of this show and finally got to the current timeline.. 😆

Originally posted by: Doc.love

😆😆 I know... this is a common reaction from people who hear the story of such a massive age gap between spouses/partners...

Chalien Prophet Muhammad ki baat alag thy.. but in this age and in this era also, I have personally seen such examples. A neighbor of mine was a divorcee, around 40 years old, and childless. She was a nurse and used to go and help in a church, where a college student saw her and fell in love with her. He was sooo crazy for her that he did not listen to any of the objections from his family, not even from my neighbor who was objecting his advances. Eventually, they got married. Now my neighbor 1st helped him in completing his studies, until he became a software engineer. My neighbor also too care of his family. She tried to conceive, but due to some complications, she miscarried. Her husband didnt even flinch at that. They simply adopted a baby and till date, they are a happy,loving family. I never saw the husband being intimidated by her, nor did she ever try to dominate him. They had an understanding and both of them used to support each other. He always took stand for her in public and in front of his family also.

Initially people thought that he married her because she was funding his education. But now that guy is very well accomplished and sooo many years have passed. They are still together and everything looks good for them.

So i think... what happens between two people is only known to them. Family plays a major role in nurturing a relationship, and even in destroying it too. But at the end of the day, its the husband and wife who are responsible for their relationship, because they are the ones who are dealing with each other.

What you said earlier, about Nithya Bua's attempt to bring Ratan and Diya closer was a perfect example of this and you were absolutely right. 😊

Originally posted by: NK1865

Hi Nancy, this was really beautiful. I really loved this post. I'm glad to see that the family members were so supportive in the past and people weren't so fixated on age. I hope they display this in RLHN as well. A supportive family would be truly unique as in most serials, family only adds more conflict and negativity to the story, than positivity. 😊

Originally posted by: nancy505

WOW! that's so sweet. It feels great nah when you encounter this kinds of true love and they make you believe that true love still exist. Hope they live happily ever after.❤️

P.S. I know it is not wise and very very bad to compare our Prophet with anyone and apply some incidents in this era but it freaks me out when some people believes some part of religion but ignores other part. When I question them they shuts me up and I give this reaction 🤔