Since many days I have come across posts contemplating on the idea of physical distance between Sameer and Naina.With Somani's proposal to shift to Delhi,the discussion has stirred vigorously.With Naina's ultimatum yesterday,I could see that CVs have planned a 'distancing'' away if not as a track but surely as a trigger point.With many assumptions of the idea of separation and distance with Sameer would make Naina realise ,I find that there are more risks in distance than the heart growing fonder.
As of now,Naina wants Sameer away from her life so that it's easy for her to forget. But it's difficult to control our emotions. It's difficult to predict exactly how distance will make us feel, exactly how it will manipulate our perspective in a romantic situation.
We've all seen relationships become broken down by distance, and we've all seen ex-lovers become strengthened by it.When it comes to romance, we've all experienced the unexpected. Love is impossible to predict.
It's true that not knowing which saying will be true is terrifying.
Not knowing whether you will spend the majority of your days missing the other person or the majority of your days forgetting the other person is what makes distance, in any sense of the word, so goddamn scary.
Some days, you might find yourself pining for the other person's warmth of care and love. You might find yourself crying, venting to anyone who will listen and clutching memories of good times in your head like they're the only things you have left of that person.
And Also---
You might find yourself getting caught up in your own life.And things get ambiguous here.You start coming to terms losing a part of your true self.All that starts growing is 'Mask''.You mask your identity,shut out the true personality which people close to you yet unaware of the turbulence in your mind classify'You have Changed''.
Consistency might become impossible, which is frightening. Distance means it's impossible to touch, listen to or simply be in the presence of the other person whenever you want -- all of which are ways human beings show affection. Going back to initial days,Naina has always listened to him more.The telephone conversations need no explanations.Even in this post bet phase they are listening to each other.But with the distance they would be thrust to a world of loneliness which is quite depressing and risky to core,considering their state as teenagers.
The worst part of distance is you will also have no idea how the other person will feel.
Because in addition to feeling anxiety about what will happen to your feelings, you'll also have anxiety about someone else's feelings.Is that person spending his or her time pining over you or letting you fade away? Is that person yearning for your touch, your voice, your scent or forgetting why he or she even needed it in the first place?Is the other person's heart growing fonder or is your removal from his or her sight removing you from his or her mind?
Most importantly, are both of your feelings aligning? Are you pining while he or she is letting you fade? Or vice versa?
This situation might feel impossible. How can there be two widely accepted ideas about distance: that it both cultivates and diminishes feelings?
It's tempting to listen to accepted ways of dealing with problems, especially ones like these that have no real psychological backing.
It's tempting to hope that whatever situation you're in will follow a perfect trajectory of either "fondness" or "forgetfulness."
'We want easy solutions to complex problems. We want to know we will be okay.'' So is Naina's state now.She feels her life would be back on track with his distancing away.Even Sameer's growing silence is indicative of his acceptance of going away to make her life back to track again.
But romance is not black and white, so in order to figure out if you'll be okay, you'll have to focus on the details of the situation -- all of the shades and colors with which the situation will be clouded.
This distancing away of leads to realise their affection has somehow got clichd.I would be very happy if the CVs just use this distance aspect as a trigger and not as track.In truer terms,distance of two people doesn't solve the problem.It only creates gaps and a gloom of loneliness and emptiness.I would not be wrong if I say with out communication on a daily basis the long distance relationship is synonymous with "The Long Silence''.
Hence the phase both Sameer and Naina are in ;distance has the least role to play in triggering the longing for each other.Staying together only can pave solutions and certainly can avoid unnecessary misunderstandings and toxicity in relationship.
I hope CVs forget the adages and throw away the clichs. Let both of them stay together to decide about how their lives should unfold.Which way they want to take journey forward.
It's okay if stuff is messy. Love doesn't have to be perfect. Just worth it.
Well this is my POV.đł Do share your opinions as well.
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