indian customs?

i'm just curious but what indian custom do u find the most annoying or pointless? 😛 and which do u enjoy the most and why?

i think i enjoy garba the most even though i'm south indian, and the one thing i hate is karva chauth, not because its a bad custom but because u dont see the guys fasting for their wives, then why should we do it for them?..

Most Indian customs are beautifull and special including Karva chauth.

I suppose what i find highly useless and irritating is a bengali custom - after the wedding there is a period of kaal ratri ( literaly black night ).Its the night after the wedding . Its when the bride and bride groom must not spend the night together . A stupid mythological story behind it . I find it annoying and pointless !! 😆

The rest are beautifull !!

Originally posted by: indygirl

Most Indian customs are beautifull and special including Karva chauth.

I suppose what i find highly useless and irritating is a bengali custom - after the wedding there is a period of kaal ratri ( literaly black night ).Its the night after the wedding . Its when the bride and bride groom must not spend the night together . A stupid mythological story behind it . I find it annoying and pointless !! 😆

The rest are beautifull !!

Yes that is not fun!!😆Very sad, especially for the male!😆

hehe i lubbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbb alllll the indian customs, although i dun believe in them that much, but i just love all of them anyways

Hmm..
You are not talking Indian culture but hinduism on the whole. The beauty of the Indian culture is the diversity it possesses. People from all the religions uniting is the most beautiful aspect. What I hate about Indian culture are those few people who divide and rule in this stance. As an NRI, freelance journalist and a keen observer, I find Indian culture the best amongst all the worldwide customs. They generate a universal feeling of love, compassion and trust unlike the other traditions where even the festivities are boring! I love it when Hindus celebrate Diwali and Muslim celebrate Eid together!!

Best wishes,
Fatmah

Accordign to me no festival is either boring nor annoying I just believe every festival has it's own means and only reasons of celebrating it therefore, we should try to take part in every festival. I agree with the bit about Karva chauth however, that why should women only fast what about the men! Anyways, I personally just agree with taking part in every festival because we celebrate each festival to show respect to our Gods and to show our love towards our religion. I am not 10/10 religious however, I do pray to god and make sure whenever, I can make it go to the guardwara. Festivals jsut show unity between all! Ilove Diwali not being baist and celebrating the Guru's birthdays.

i enjoy all most all the festivals as i have friends fr all community. 😛
No other place u can find what we have but though we do have drwabacks but still the good overshadows the bad 😛

Originally posted by: indygirl

Most Indian customs are beautifull and special including Karva chauth.

I suppose what i find highly useless and irritating is a bengali custom - after the wedding there is a period of kaal ratri ( literaly black night ).Its the night after the wedding . Its when the bride and bride groom must not spend the night together . A stupid mythological story behind it . I find it annoying and pointless !! 😆

The rest are beautifull !!

Hey you know, I find that custome very very useful. Let me tell you why I think that way:

The Bengali weddings are normally very long; it starts from the the day before the actual wedding when the bride and the groom have a special lunch party which is the last meal at their respective homes before marriage. In the evening, a neighbour or someone who is not related by blood arranges for the food. All this normally include a lot of festivity and the bride and the grooms guarantedly do not get any sleep till very late at night.

Next day, the ceremony starts before sunrise ( around 4 in the morning)when the wud be bride and groom are fed a terrible mixture of chera ( poha) and curd ( something on the line of karva chauth sargi - only it tastes yuck but is healthy) and then the whole day they both fast; No food, only some juice and water; The marriage normally starts at night. Goes late into midnight till early morning sometimes - this part is 'kanyadaan' and then a break and dinner.Then, neither the bride nor the groom is allowed to sleep and there is a lot of joking, singing and merrymaking by both the parties (mostly young people in the marriage) that is arranged in a special hall. This is called "bashor raat" . Then comes the final part of the marriage after the day breaks - it's called Kushum diga and this is when the groom puts sindoor on the forehead and the marriage s deemed complete.

Then a whole line of ceremonies follow including aashirwaad by the bride's family to the newly wed couple and then the vidai, which is mostly in the late afternoon.

At groom's place, the bride is welcomed with arti and some other usual ceromonies which take a a lot of time which is followed by the aashirwaad by the grooms family.

So by now, it's been a whole two days of lots of ceremonies and two nights of waking by the couple. Beleive me, at this juncture, inspite of the excitement, the bride and the grrom are dead tired. This is the night of kaal ratri and and in my opinon, this one night of blissful sleep does wonders for all the rest of the ceremonies that lie ahead the next day.

The night after kaal ratri is the "suhag raat". The wedding night is actually is much better after the resting period of kaal ratri 😉😳

I normally find most of teh Indian rituals useful and fun, though some superstitions drive me nuts. One of them is taking foot long gunghats which drives me nuts.

Originally posted by: Minnie

Hey you know, I find that custome very very useful. Let me tell you why I think that way:

The Bengali weddings are normally very long; it starts from the the day before the actual wedding when the bride and the groom have a special lunch party which is the last meal at their respective homes before marriage. In the evening, a neighbour or someone who is not related by blood arranges for the food. All this normally include a lot of festivity and the bride and the grooms guarantedly do not get any sleep till very late at night.

Next day, the ceremony starts before sunrise ( around 4 in the morning)when the wud be bride and groom are fed a terrible mixture of chera ( poha) and curd ( something on the line of karva chauth sargi - only it tastes yuck but is healthy) and then the whole day they both fast; No food, only some juice and water; The marriage normally starts at night. Goes late into midnight till early morning sometimes - this part is 'kanyadaan' and then a break and dinner.Then, neither the bride nor the groom is allowed to sleep and there is a lot of joking, singing and merrymaking by both the parties (mostly young people in the marriage) that is arranged in a special hall. This is called "bashor raat" . Then comes the final part of the marriage after the day breaks - it's called Kushum diga and this is when the groom puts sindoor on the forehead and the marriage s deemed complete.

Then a whole line of ceremonies follow including aashirwaad by the bride's family to the newly wed couple and then the vidai, which is mostly in the late afternoon.

At groom's place, the bride is welcomed with arti and some other usual ceromonies which take a a lot of time which is followed by the aashirwaad by the grooms family.

So by now, it's been a whole two days of lots of ceremonies and two nights of waking by the couple. Beleive me, at this juncture, inspite of the excitement, the bride and the grrom are dead tired. This is the night of kaal ratri and and in my opinon, this one night of blissful sleep does wonders for all the rest of the ceremonies that lie ahead the next day.

The night after kaal ratri is the "suhag raat". The wedding night is actually is much better after the resting period of kaal ratri 😉😳

I normally find most of teh Indian rituals useful and fun, though some superstitions drive me nuts. One of them is taking foot long gunghats which drives me nuts.

Minnie , Nooooooooooo way i DISAGREE , i hated that so much .......see when i got married ( i had a love marriage) , though me and my hubby dated for 7 years , i was never very familiar with his family . Infact they made me nervous .😆 And when i had my " vidai " finally ,i was so SCARED , yes inspite of dating my hubby for 7 long years . And that night i had to sleep with my sister - in law( the horrible kaal ratri ) .......I started to have panic attacks, i had to take sleeping pills , but i was still very very very uncomfortable 😳😳, but i was dead scared to sleep in the room with my nanad !!! I was so releived to be with my hubby the next day ( since i am only comfortable with him) and even now i have issues sharing a room with any one except hubby or my mother !!
So maybe if you have a arranged marriage , it may be a different situation as you are not comfy with your hubby .

Hey Minnie, i didn't know you were a Bong too !!😊

Originally posted by: Minnie

The night after kaal ratri is the "suhag raat". The wedding night is actually is much better after the resting period of kaal ratri 😉😳

minnie, 😆 i agree with you on this.