Family compatibility in relationship

How much family and friend compatibility required for any relationship to be successful if it is required in the first place.

if you are in a relationship where parents or friends of your partner are not approve of you or vice versa, should that relationship needs serious thoughts for continuation?

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

dewey, what if one is compatible with all - family and friends - but not with the spouse......are they truly scr**d then 😆

i feel with in our indian context, family compatibility is crucial to the success or happiness of one's marriage 😊 kaheen kuchh adhoora adhoora sa lagta hai naheen toh.

😆 😆 Good one Gauri..

Seriously , some arranged marriages are like that, one family finds the other family nice, reputable, and all that while not quiet paying much attention to boy or girl. ..

Every family is annoying 😛 as long as it is not your own.

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

How much family and friend compatibility required for any relationship to be successful if it is required in the first place.

if you are in a relationship where parents or friends of your partner are not approve of you or vice versa, should that relationship needs serious thoughts for continuation?

It is real imprtant to gel with your spouse's relatives and friends, but not being one's apple of eye should not bring up doubts of marriage continuation.

at the end of the day if you are happily married , then why care what khala thinks and chachi bluffs...😊

Originally posted by: rockstallion

RS, I don't think many wld fret over what chachi or khala thinks but what the mil, fil, sil, bil thinks and what the spouse thinks of them matter a lot😊

most won't all het up if spouse is not compatible with friends and extended family but immediate family matters a lot....just my pov here😊

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

How much family and friend compatibility required for any relationship to be successful if it is required in the first place.

it helps a lot. can hit on more folks for money, can shack up in more homes, have more sets of baby-sitters, have more potential opportunities to be a bum and inherit well. and who needs the daily back-biting, saas-bahu dramas, if they can be avoided? TV mein dekhna ek baat hai, apne life mein another😊

if you are in a relationship where parents or friends of your partner are not approve of you or vice versa, should that relationship needs serious thoughts for continuation?

depends on what that relnship is. if it's a casual relnship, then it can and shld remain casual. no point strengthening it since there's always someone hassle-free waiting around the corner. 😉

if it's a serious relnship, then that's another factor to weigh. flip a coin?😛

if it's a committed relnship and is otherwise doing good, then i suppose u're in for mauling over the long haul.😉 only serious thought has to be about how to ignore the external noise/ make things better, not about continuation.😊

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

RS, I don't think many wld fret over what chachi or khala thinks but what the mil, fil, sil, bil thinks and what the spouse thinks of them matter a lot😊

most won't all het up if spouse is not compatible with friends and extended family but immediate family matters a lot....just my pov here😊

yes immediate family matters a lot and agree with ur pov but my point here was - for example

if me and my sister-in-law don't get along , why should i reconsider my idea of marriage with my husband. i mean ofcourse i want to continue as his wife till death , no way i am thinking of breaking marriage because of unwell terms with her. would compromise, would talk it over, (become dheet 😉) but not leaving hubby. 😃

now if my hubby thinks i am wrong and his siter is right, and proving vice-versa would swaha my marriage, then i would agree that i am wrong.

The bottom line is , Marriages are no joke, and discontinuing it should have a good reason not petty misunderstandings with hello hi friends and near dear relatives.

samji gauri... ..itni shidat se patey hai hubby ko, sambhal kar rakhengey yaar....😃

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

How much family and friend compatibility required for any relationship to be successful if it is required in the first place.

if you are in a relationship where parents or friends of your partner are not approve of you or vice versa, should that relationship needs serious thoughts for continuation?

Sometimes it helps to listen to what others have to say especially close friends. They will evaluate the person more objectively than the one who has nothing but stars in her/his eyes. It will save one from a lot of hassles and heartaches later on. (I speak from personal experience 😛)

Originally posted by: Insanity

I think it's helpful to be liked by the family.. obviously. 😆 But it's not required, unless you and your partner don't trust each other very much. You don't have to be liked by your partner's family or vice versa in order to continue the relationship. The relationship is essentially between you and him or her, not the rest of the family. 😳 😊

I completely agree with you, it is good to be liked by the spouse's/partnets familiy but it is not mandatory to be liked by them. If it is so, in long course of life, many relationships might have been ended. The success of relationship is based on the integrity and loyality of the persons deirectly involved in it .