So, my papa was 20 years old and Mumma was 18.😳 At that point of time, they lived in a very small town in Uttarakhand and papa's side of the family weren't quite as rich since dadu passed away when my father was just 14 years old. But, because my grandfather was a zamindar they had enough property and a big kothi. My father was a typical guy who did nothing else other than roaming around with his friends all day.😆 so, my dadi thought it would be nice to chain him up in responsibility hence, the idea of shadi crawled in her head.
my father agreed to meet the girl dadi had chosen for my papa. he met a few girls but no one could touch his heart even a bit. And, then one-day dadi took him along to visit my mother's house. My nani's side of the family was living each day as it is a result of a family feud over property in which my nanu was not given anything because he was too bhola to pull up a fight.😭 they weren't well off and could hardly make ends meet and dadi wasn't happy because they culdnt match her so called status.🤢 My nani thought that this rishta wouldn't even happen because of the huge status difference.
But, god had different plans. So, papa was sitting with my nani and other members and then mom comes with the tea.(the typical arranged marriage set-up)😆 he didn't look at her directly and when she offered him tea and he happened to look at her and he was awestruck at her simplicity. he fell for her and it was love at first sight for him.😳
So after every thing was said, asked and done. he agreed to the marriage but dadi didn't seem very happy about it. She was worried about the society and relative and what not. so, the news of my father's wedding reached up to my 'evil' bua who rushed back along with her husband to see what was happening and who was 'the' girl that her brother was getting married to. Dadi and bua cooked up a plan🤢 my bua without informing my father went to my nani's place and said that they dont want to go through the rishta as her brother and her family would never bring home a girl from a such a poor background. with such an insult thrown at face, my nani wasn't keen either to go through the rishta herself. she told my mother what happened and that the rishta has been called off. my mother didn't ask any further.
after a few days, nani and mumma were in market running some errands when dad came to mumma and gifted her a bangle set. she didn't take it because the wedding was off and she couldn't take a gift from a man who was now no one to her. she simply refused and my dad gave a very confused expression.🥺 my mother and nani thought that why was he acting like nothing happened when actually the wedding had been cancelled. This happened again, dad gifting mom something and she refusing to accept it. This made dad furious and he kept asking nani and mom why were they behaving like this. He made quite a scene and my nani told him that his sister had cancelled the wedding.🥺
papa was furious like anything.😡 he rushed back home and confronted his sister. he went straight up to my fua ji and said "you wanted to get married to my sister, right?. fua ji said yes. my father continued and we did give her hand to you, right? fua ji again nodded in yes. my father exasperated said then I want to marry that girl and no one else. I just want to get married to her only. if that doesn't happen you all have no idea what I will do.😆😃👏
So dadi was left with no other option and agreed to their alliance but my mumma wasn't in love with him. she would do anything that her parents would ask for. But, when the wedding rituals were going on and they were seated on the mandap. my father leaned onto Mumma😳 and whispered: " phero k wakt mera hath dhang se pakadna thik hai na?... dhyan rakhna choothna nahi chahiye... dheere-dheere chalna taki hath na fisle...me nahi chahta ki hamara sath kabhi bhi choothe.😳☺️ my mum just nodded in yes and was too shy to even look at him.❤️😳
My parents have been married for 32 years😳 and both have endured every pain together to build a name and a good life for us (their kids). he has given me relationship goals. my mom is a moody one in the family but my father has pampered her with all he has.😳 I have seen him following her from the kitchen to every other corner of the house when she would get angry at him and start giving him the 'silent treatment' which he could never bear and keep asking her to speak to him as he can not endure her not speaking to him.😳 I used to just laugh at them thinking they have kids who are all grown up and they still act like teenagers in love.😆 They would sneak out for long rides on 'bike' when we were in school and enjoy each other's company. sweet surprises here and there. we would come back home and search for them then my eldest sister would call them up and they would tell us they are in Nainital as it was snwoing and mumma wanted to be there.😆 and we would be like you do remember you have kids na?😆 (dont judge them because they did all this only when they arranged for my masi/mami/tai ji etc to babysit us although we weren't babies and my eldest sis was around 18). My father flirting with her every chance he gets, even in public and her getting all worked up saying he doesn't know how to act in public😆 and what will people say🤢 to which he would reply that he is with his wife and he doesn't care.😳 uff! I wish to find something like this one day😳.
Even though my father passed away two years back, he hasn't left my Mumma alone and always comforts her through his memories. I had given up on love but, then the life journey of my parents tell me that love is a beautiful thing.
I hope I didn't bore you guys.😆
Naagin 7
