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Hi everyone.
Sorry I haven't been able to post more or reply on posts. I had two work deadlines, and I've finished one but am still working on the second. So will have to return when I'm done with them.
I haven't seen all the episodes, and I understand that I may not know as much about Rhea's character as those who have seen the entire show. But I felt terrible for her in yesterday's episode and here's why: no mother should tell their child that they are unfit to be married. And the other thing that her mom said "Rhea is my daughter but if I had a son I wouldn't want them to be married to Rhea,"
Here's the thing: marriages are not formulaic. Nor are they entirely predictable. You never know who will turn out to be a great partner, and who will not. The ideal person may make you miserable, and a seemingly self-centred person may turn out to be just the right sort of different from you, and make you happy.
I feel very strongly about this. I am not a conservative person, and through my life I've had opinions and ideas that were different. And I too heard that I wouldn't make a great wife. And it does stick in your head even if you try to not let it bother you.
And here's the happy ending. I got married, and one of the things my husband loves about me are my opinions and my ability to intelligently express them. That may not be what his parents would have looked for, or my family thought as my greatest asset. But it matters to him and I love that it is important to him. And because it is important to him the fact that we have great conversations and respect each other's opinion has become one of the basis of the strengths of our marriage.
It may not be the same thing for everyone. But, as I said, you never know what the other person is looking for, and what is going to make one marriage work over another.
