Asha ' hidden soul

Mother-in-law can be a mother or just remains an aunty? This question can be addressed from our favourite show. Wait, I am not going to compare Asha and goddess Ishu. It will be between Sona's Daadi and Dev's Maa Ishu.

I thought about this after seeing Asha's expression towards Bijoy's question in yesterday's episode. Was Bijoy too bad towards Asha? We can't answer this w/o seeing any episode mentioning about any incidents in their early marriage life. But one think is very evident from the start of show that daadi was/is always a pillar of support to Asha rather than for Bijoy. Thus this means Asha has not traced a path of life like that of Sona. Hence no comparison between Asha and Sona.

Coming to main MIL's of the show, both are illiterate (daadi comparatively better than Ishu, I think so😉), strongly dependent on their respective sons. Daadi was never shown as one who was so possessive of her son. She didn't even interfered with Bijoy-Asha treating Asha's niece Elena as their own daughter whereas Ishu can't even tolerate Dev being close to his wife's relation in pre-leap session.

So my bottom line question is, even after daadi being so good to Asha, she is unhappy for some unknown reasons in Bose family maybe because she didn't receive the support from Bijoy as she expected. She is a hidden soul and does she expects her beloved daughter Sona to experience it yet again? Why the hell she wrongly advices her? 😡

there could only be one possibility that boses have tortured asha in last 7 years becoz pre-leap she was upset with them for not causing any troubles in her married life

Originally posted by: SecretSuperstar

there could only be one possibility that boses have tortured asha in last 7 years becoz pre-leap she was upset with them for not causing any troubles in her married life

She did not advice anything to sona. She supports so as decision of divorce and supported her decision of living with Dev for soha. None knows Wat she suffered till sona turns 25. We all know soon Dev-sona will reunite and ishwari will also say sorry and this family would be perfect family till soha turns 25.. If someone see them at that point, they won't know so as struggles.. Similar is the case with asha. We don't know what happened and what she went through. May be dadi was not that supportive or may be she was supportive but still bijoy had big temper problem. And it's quite evident that Bijoy does have some anger issues at this age so I am assuming it would have been much more when he was young. So why belittle Asha's struggle only to glorify sona more? Sona has struggled a lot but she did hve choice to walk out, good supporting parents? Can you tell how were asha's parents? May be they weren't supportive, may be asha did not have choice to walk out even if she wanted because as she said at that time divorce was taboo so nobody thought about it. So it would be totally wrong to belittle Asha's struggle only because we have seen sona'S and not hers.

And the way asha behaves like not judging people too quickly, alwyas giving them second chance I feel life has taught her a lot. Because at some point she did give bijoy second chance and her relationship second chance ..

Originally posted by: kankabhor

She did not advice anything to sona. She supports so as decision of divorce and supported her decision of living with Dev for soha. None knows Wat she suffered till sona turns 25. We all know soon Dev-sona will reunite and ishwari will also say sorry and this family would be perfect family till soha turns 25.. If someone see them at that point, they won't know so as struggles.. Similar is the case with asha. We don't know what happened and what she went through. May be dadi was not that supportive or may be she was supportive but still bijoy had big temper problem. And it's quite evident that Bijoy does have some anger issues at this age so I am assuming it would have been much more when he was young. So why belittle Asha's struggle only to glorify sona more? Sona has struggled a lot but she did hve choice to walk out, good supporting parents? Can you tell how were asha's parents? May be they weren't supportive, may be asha did not have choice to walk out even if she wanted because as she said at that time divorce was taboo so nobody thought about it. So it would be totally wrong to belittle Asha's struggle only because we have seen sona'S and not hers.

And the way Asha behaves like not judging people too quickly, alwyas giving them second chance I feel life has taught her a lot. Because at some point she did give bijoy second chance and her relationship second chance ..

Originally posted by: kankabhor

She did not advice anything to sona. She supports so as decision of divorce and supported her decision of living with Dev for soha. None knows Wat she suffered till sona turns 25. We all know soon Dev-sona will reunite and ishwari will also say sorry and this family would be perfect family till soha turns 25.. If someone see them at that point, they won't know so as struggles.. Similar is the case with asha. We don't know what happened and what she went through. May be dadi was not that supportive or may be she was supportive but still bijoy had big temper problem. And it's quite evident that Bijoy does have some anger issues at this age so I am assuming it would have been much more when he was young. So why belittle Asha's struggle only to glorify sona more? Sona has struggled a lot but she did hve choice to walk out, good supporting parents? Can you tell how were asha's parents? May be they weren't supportive, may be asha did not have choice to walk out even if she wanted because as she said at that time divorce was taboo so nobody thought about it. So it would be totally wrong to belittle Asha's struggle only because we have seen sona'S and not hers.

And the way asha behaves like not judging people too quickly, alwyas giving them second chance I feel life has taught her a lot. Because at some point she did give bijoy second chance and her relationship second chance ..

Originally posted by: IFfreak

She gave Bijoy a second chance, but she herself led a very sorry life with no love and lot of adjustments, it seems.

Also at present the way she treats Bijoy and talks to him, it is obvious she has a lot of resentment against him and her struggles have made her very bitter.

Still she wants to push Sona for a third chance wit Dev. This is what bothers me.

@bold: Exactly. Why she wants Sona to sacrifice her self-respect for Soha's happiness. Will Soha be happy after knowing the entire truth of Dev and Ishwari? If Soha ask Sona to move away from Dev after knowing about Ishu and Dev, will Asha support Soha and advice Sona to think for about it for Soha again?

Originally posted by: IFfreak

She gave Bijoy a second chance, but she herself led a very sorry life with no love and lot of adjustments, it seems.

Also at present the way she treats Bijoy and talks to him, it is obvious she has a lot of resentment against him and her struggles have made her very bitter.

Still she wants to push Sona for a third chance wit Dev. This is what bothers me.

I did not see anywhere that she told sona to stay with Dev or get married to him. Sona took decision of living with Dev for soha and se supported it. 7 years ago also I did not see anywhere where she told sona not to divorce or go back to dixits..

Maybe it's perceptions but I don't see asha as resentful but see her as more accommodating for people. She does not judge people from their mistakes or when they r at ther low. She is not blind and sees her loved ones mistakes also. Instead of saying bijoy sona are perfect she just thinks everybody is at fault and not perfect.

Didn't Asha complain to Dida and Bijoy at one point for not giving her any troubles in her married life? This was when she was trying to take a stab at writing a book..

Originally posted by: kankabhor

I did not see anywhere that she told sona to stay with Dev or get married to him. Sona took decision of living with Dev for soha and se supported it. 7 years ago also I did not see anywhere where she told sona not to divorce or go back to dixits..

Maybe it's perceptions but I don't see asha as resentful but see her as more accommodating for people. She does not judge people from their mistakes or when they r at ther low. She is not blind and sees her loved ones mistakes also. Instead of saying bijoy sona are perfect she just thinks everybody is at fault and not perfect.