what if the roles were reversed?

What if Arjun was the one who was obsessed and controlling with a bad past and some illness?Would his wife have abandoned him,flirted or tried to kiss other people or wanted a separation?No ways .The wife would have fought the whole world ,found out the best of doctors in world,kept fasts till death😆 and god knows what all to save her husband.Because as per Indian TV that is a wife's duty but not husband's.No i didn't want Arjun to got unrealistic lengths to help Maya but atleast some thing.Like i said if the roles were reversed will the wife really be behaving the way Arjun is .No ways

Generally (both on India TV and US) we get stories where the flawed/arrogant/bad male character falls in love with this simple,nice ,goody two shoes female character who then changes the guy into some one better and even good.Then the guys true love for this simple nice girl redeems him.Most of the stories are this only and lets be honest we do like these stories where no matter how terrible the guy has been we want the girl to change him.I mean even centuries old murderous vampires change because of love of a girl.😆Just saying hope you guys get my point.

But we rarely ever get a love story(i know few on US TV but none on Indian TV) where the girl is flawed/bad/arrogant and the guy is simple and nice and the guy changes the girl or the girl gets redeemed because of her love for this guy.I mean we never get this.Because on Indian TV female characters can either be great and 'Mahaan' and ever sacrificing or just be vamps and villains there is no middle ground.

I was really hoping Beyadh would change this.That we would get for the first time a bad girl and good boy love story where the female character is grey and then it ends with her redemption.But no like i said Indian CV's know only two things either female character is Mahaan and sacrificing like they tried to show Maya after marriage or they are villains like they are trying to show Maya now.

I like the current track since that's what I signed up for to see Maya's obsession. My only reason is they might make Maya villain, and that's not what they promised. So it's hard to watch the show in peace knowing most likely they will give a wrong message on so many levels and make the female lead as a villain. What will be the difference between this show and other shows then? We have already seen thousands time villains as obsessed with the other lead and after them for love, and the white character comes and save the lead except that here Saanjh isnt even white yet they think she is. And they call this unique when we see this everyday on other shows.

Excellent post. If the roles are reversed, Maya would do everything to heal him. Even if he has hidden the fact & married her, she would still be loyal to him. This is how the Indian women are! The Indian women are known for their dedication. That is the reason why even the foreigners prefer them. They cling to their spouses no matter how they treat her be it like a doormat or beating or manhandling. In the current track, Maya's obsession is seen but the positive side of this obsession is her loyalty and dedication. She is dedicated to him though she is controlling him and keeping an eye on every petty thing like installing the cc camera in the entire house including the restroom. Even the restroom is not spared. I know this is too much and it is very much toxic that makes Arjun suffocate and break off everything. But loyalty and dedication are there. Plus Arjun is getting all the materialistic things here. He always wanted a luxurious life and was ready to to to any extent to get it. Now, it is the same person who wants to get rid of Maya who is giving him what he wants though his movements are restricted. The question is if Maya divorces him, will he hand over her property to Maya or leave her without returning her property? She can leave Arjun if she makes up her mind. One of her dialogues, log yahan apni marjee se aate hain lekin mere marjee se jaate hain. It means that she will leave him only when it comes to her heart. So this is the similarity between the original role and the reversed role. So if Arjun was facing these issues, Maya would still be dedicated to him.

Simply wow... Nice write up

Originally posted by: _Darling_

Excellent post. That's what I said in other post too.

I like the current track since that's what I signed up for to see Maya's obsession. My only reason is they might make Maya villain, and that's not what they promised. So it's hard to watch the show in peace knowing most likely they will give a wrong message on so many levels and make the female lead as a villain. What will be the difference between this show and other shows then? We have already seen thousands time villains as obsessed with the other lead and after them for love, and the white character comes and save the lead except that here Saanjh isnt even white yet they think she is. And they call this unique when we see this everyday on other shows.

There are many happy with this track as for them this will mean Maya is a villain and their Saanjh can be the herione and they can get Saajun as end game. They are used to typical Indian shows and want the same here. They can't handle Mayas character as grey, so for them she's a villain and if she's not right now , they want her to turn that way.

However, some are genuinely happy with this track as for them that's what they were promised with which I am happy too, but they don't get why some like me are at the same time complaining even if we like the track. It's for the exact same reason that CVS are trying to make the show like other shows and diverting away from what they had promised. Showing obsession is fine as we want that and we're promised that but not at the expense of Maya's character and the show's concept. Majority don't want Maya as a villain. This show runs by Maya and her character. And if they ruin that to make her a typical villain, the show will be gone too.

And like you said, if the roles were reverse, I can bet majority wouldnt want the wife to leave such a husband and change him like we have seem thousand of times in other shows. But when the wife has problems, many want the husband to leave the wife and even justify physical abuse. Honestly, I don't blame Arjun except the part about physical abuse and all. Anyone in Arjun's place would feel suffocated. But I don't understand why is he not taking her to a doctor or getting her helped. He's her husband and that's the least he can do instead of abusing and torturing her like that. That's sick and low. Seeing Maya's condition, she doesn't even know she's doing anything wrong. For her it's normal to love her husband that way, so how can he torture her when she doesn't even think she's doing any wrong and thinking she's just loving him. What were those promises for? Is this what his so called love for? But then I could expect this from him. He used to manhandled Vandana and Saanjh too and did the same with Maya once in office. That's why I used to hate those scenes even though Vandana and saanjh were wrong and Sanjh deserved that slap and more but from her mom, not from Arjun. I knew at those times he will be the same with Maya too if he can do to them whom he has know for life. He loves himself in the end and doesn't know how to work for the problems when they arise. He instead wants to run away, gets angry, have ego, and all.. Remember how he had all the dreams of being successful and rich but just didn't want to work for it. He would quit the jobs for one reason or another. It was mentioned in the beginning of the show by Saanjh and she had to drag him to stick to his new job. He basically just wants an easy life, don't want to work for anything, and just don't want any stressful situations to deal with. Basically an immuture, egoistic, and shallow guy.

what's obsession?

Not talking about this forum but generally people love how Edward stalks Bella ,how he keeps staring at her while she sleeps in Twilight.That is passion, great and true love.

People even ship Chrisitan Grey and Anna from 50 shades of Grey no matter how terribly he treats Anna.

If these guys after their obsession or passion whatever one wants to call it can get love and happiness then why not a female character who is obsessed or has flaws get love and happiness.

I am telling you this is nothing got to do with Indian psyche but its a universal thing.

I have no issue with Saanjh .She is normal and fine.But i hate this bias where grey male characters can get redeemed but grey female characters must be unhappy and die.

There is a difference in being grey and being a villain.Unfortunately when it comes to female characters CV's cant draw that line.

So when u don't accept when male character stalks and harasses female how would u accept a female doing the same.

@sabyata watch South Indian movies in Malayalam or Tamil of late 80s, 90s, you will really see strong female characters. Even the Hindi shows of 90s had strong female characters. By strength I dont mean the obsessive perception of strength of a character like Maya, but really strong women who takes decisions.

Originally posted by: tanvismile

So when u don't accept when male character stalks and harasses female how would u accept a female doing the same.

Whether a male or female the relationship is toxic.

Bold -but when did i say that i accept or don't accept?

My post is about universal treatment of grey male characters and female characters.How they are written or shown in various mediums nothing about my personal opinion.Universally, grey male characters do get redemption and happiness when they fall in love but grey female characters rarely get that chance.This is a fact not an opinion.

Now for my personal opinion i like any normal girl i do like bad guy good girl love story😆.Yes may be not to the extend of other's like i can never ship Christian grey with any one but there are relationships that i ship in which male character is grey or has done terrible things and female character is good..So i do like those stories but i just feel that a bad girl good boy love story will be something different.Since its very rare to read about it or watch it onTV. Personally i prefer flawed characters to perfect ones as i relate more to flawed characters male and female both.

excellent post.. !!! 👏👏👏

@sabhayata even I prefer imperfect characters both male or female. Because human nature comes in them mostly.