Interference

Some days back , one survey was on air about happiness factor among different people of various cities in Canada. They found happiness un related to wealth. however better neighbour hood where people know each other and help each other was one of the factor directly related to happiness.In big city this is clearly absent. However What do you think how much interference from neighbours is acceptable for you. For eg, if you heard husband-wife conflict and also you heard husband started beating his wife , would you try to stop it or would you maintain your distance.

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

if you heard husband-wife conflict and also you heard husband started beating his wife , would you try to stop it or would you maintain your distance.

I guess it would depend on the nature of the conflict. If it's just a matter of them throwing words out loud at each other, I'd probably mind my own business...because a lot of times when people try to get in the middle of a couple's arguments, they only make it worse for the couple. Better for them to deal with it on their own, in their own way. But I guess if the conflict was much more violent, then I'd call the cops on them. I dont know if I would want to interfere in it myself, because I really wouldnt know how. It would be better to let someone experienced in the matter handle it.

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

Some days back , one survey was on air about happiness factor among different people of various cities in Canada. They found happiness un related to wealth. however better neighbour hood where people know each other and help each other was one of the factor directly related to happiness.In big city this is clearly absent. However What do you think how much interference from neighbours is acceptable for you. For eg, if you heard husband-wife conflict and also you heard husband started beating his wife , would you try to stop it or would you maintain your distance.

It is nice to have good neighbors who you can connect with. Even count on them in emergency situations. But everything is great in moderation. No one should be interfering in one's personal life which can become nuisance. We have relatives for that 😉 😆

Abt neighbor beating up his wife or she beating him up I would definitely call police and report it. No one needs to go thru the spousal abuse.

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

No one should be interfering in one's personal life which can become nuisance. We have relatives for that 😉 😆

Abt neighbor beating up his wife or she beating him up I would definitely call police and report it. No one needs to go thru the spousal abuse.

@highlighted part: 😆

Originally posted by: rockstallion

Love thy neighbour is the rule, and i always want to go with it.

yes. of course it helps if she also happens to be pretty.😉😆

but like always, nothing should get between husband and wife.

😊😉

Only here, i feel neighbours should mind their business.That would be interference

otherwise i love it when my door bell is not used and tomatoes, sugar pass by... 😃

but then how does one find out about the items that are in short supply? what if someone deals in commodities and just has to know such things?😆

ok since everyone's saying that folks should mind their own business, maybe there's something wrong with that view. 😉 here's how. i think most folks would agree that intereference is called for if there was violence involved. but there's often just a short fuse between verbal abuse and the physical one. cant wait till someone gets shot to pay a friendly neighborly visit.

i can imagine a situation where someone gets even more upset if their partner has ratted on them and called the neighbors. but not if the third party drops in by themselves. sometimes that just might help the couple calm down knowing there are folks around who really wanna know. almost like the ref getting in and separating two brawlers. stops more fights before they turn uglier😊

cant be supporting abuse just for the sake of maintaining sham privacy and decorum.😊

Originally posted by: chatbuster

ok since everyone's saying that folks should mind their own business, maybe there's something wrong with that view. 😉

...mind their own business in case of a verbal fight and not invited to act as a middleman....now what's wrong with this view😕

here's how. i think most folks would agree that intereference is called for if there was violence involved. but there's often just a short fuse between verbal abuse and the physical one. cant wait till someone gets shot to pay a friendly neighborly visit.

hey, if it looks real bad, call the cops. they usually come in real fast and are trained to handle such situation lot more effectively than aam janta😊 one shd be doing that especially if one suspects a gun is involved and a possible shooting might result. this is a situation i wldn't want to aggravate any further.

i can imagine a situation where someone gets even more upset if their partner has ratted on them and called the neighbors. but not if the third party drops in by themselves. sometimes that just might help the couple calm down knowing there are folks around who really wanna know. almost like the ref getting in and separating two brawlers. stops more fights before they turn uglier😊

there's a difference between a street fight between brawlers and a fight between a couple. i personally think that in most cases it'd upset BOTH the partners if the "third party" drops in by themselves...uninvited...and starts meddling in their personal life...given it's just a verbal fight within their own home😊.

cant be supporting abuse just for the sake of maintaining sham privacy and decorum.😊

hmmm....where does one draw a line then? how do u know it's not just a "lovers' tiff"? how does that make one different than that mohalla ki shanti chachi who runs around making everyone's business her own and ends up getting on everyone's nerves bigtime. her intentions are not bad...u see...it's just her judgement which, at times, is a result of some overzealous imagination and a feeling of self importance!!!

i still feel that one shd call the cops rather than interfering themselves if the matter seems to be getting outta hand. this is definitely not "supporting abuse". it's just handling abuse better😊

hey, i'm totally with u on not supporting the abuse at all. i just have a different view on when to interfere and how to interfere.....a diff. methodolgy for helping out that abused neighbor😊.