Y do people except female lead to heal male lead? - Page 2

Originally posted by: dlavanya

Bhai aise questions forum mein mat pooch .. log tujhe woh "F" waaala gaali denge...

Pata hai na kounsi arey wahi "feminist "
Ppl think that you have to be a female to be feminist and then also they think being feminist is a bad thing... abb socho

Originally posted by: dlavanya

Bhai aise questions forum mein mat pooch .. log tujhe woh "F" waaala gaali denge...

Pata hai na kounsi arey wahi "feminist "
Ppl think that you have to be a female to be feminist and then also they think being feminist is a bad thing... abb socho

Originally posted by: jigsaw1234

Here are the reasons:
When she was a lonely sad flower in a big garden full of beautiful flowers, he chose her and said "I love you as a man loves a woman".

When she was getting engaged to Ritwick, the dim boy from Kolkata who couldn't even afford a building for his business without a huge loan, he wrote the best parting letter any man ever wrote to his love; and when it all got too much he drank in his sorrow and almost killed himself losing his balance.

Although he knew she can't handle all his love and they will need children to deal with his love, when he heard that she has only 7% chances of bearing a child, he sacrificed his dreams, hope and future to marry her.

When he knew her dad's big mouth and arrogance, he allowed them to serve non-veg food at their wedding.

Every time he met her parents he took their favourite sweets from the 'best Bengali shop Dixit can buy' (for everyone else there is halva)

Even when his mum told him in a round about way that she is his only mother, he still addressed FLs mother as 'ma'.

He always values relationships more than names. That is why when she kept calling him "mumma's boy", he still valued her as his wife (and kept addressing her Miss. Bose even when she reminded him that she is Mrs. Dixit now).

When his hand accidentally touched his FILs cheek (it was an accident, I have proof. If it was on purpose and hard, Bijoy's glasses would have flown away) and the FL made a fuss, he ran all the way to the door behind them and apologised.

When FL, out of absolute arrogance, decided to mortgage everything and return Rs 5Cr. he took (gently holding her upper arm) her to their room and tried to tell her nicely that with her 'ghas bhus' knowledge she can never pay it back.

When FL said 'your mum wants us to separate' he kept quiet.

When FL said 'you should have helped MIL and DIL bond, instead you kept lying and distanced us' He spoke the absolute truth ' Yes, I shouldn't have loved you and married you'.

When the FL purposely pushed his mother to the floor, while she herself stayed upright, he very politely told her to leave the house, no harsh words, just tears that she pushed his mother.

I can go on but phew! isn't that enough already?!

P.S: All tongue-in-cheek and in good humor :-)

Originally posted by: dlavanya

Bhai aise questions forum mein mat pooch .. log tujhe woh "F" waaala gaali denge...

Pata hai na kounsi arey wahi "feminist "
Ppl think that you have to be a female to be feminist and then also they think being feminist is a bad thing... abb socho

Originally posted by: DiscoDhokla

I am hating the fact that Dev has 0 redemption and is still taunting and bad mouthing sonakshi

Woo-hoo my favorite topic. Glad u pin pointed it.

Originally posted by: deepakloveskat

Y everyone says female lead has to change male lead n understands his pain?? Repair him or deal with his anger. Or his manhandling.. What abt female leads pain? Is it her duty to sacrifice her self respect n everything?? What abt her pain??

WOW !! Yeh kisne kisko kab kaha??

Expectation will be there ..every man and woman can have their own expectation...but in reality what happens so different...its like the other post...husband lifting his wife in a romantic way...seeing Dev and Sonakshi...every one will expect this to happen after they are in a relationship...and to some extant you might get too...but once responsibility starts things change...for better taking a different route altogether...love will be there betwn the couple but not so expressive...

So coming back to your question...the concept is ...a woman teaches to love, care and share...when a child is born...it is the mother who introduces the child to his/her father and other member of family and also teaches the social norms...so when this theory is explored and romanticized ...then we get the statement "a women can heal a man"...

That's theory...

Now comes Practical world...

Both husband and wife try their level best to change each other ...and want the spouse to be in line with their respective thoughts and habits ...how far this will work??...not much...probably 2 or 3 habits we might change for the other...regarding the rest ( 100s of them ) will be the same...the only difference is that ...as years go on...they learn a new term called "adjustment "...and then both just sail thru...

Hope this made sense... 🤣

Its not about male lead or female lead.
Its about the character. Sonakshi is a character who has patience and power to heal. Not by the virtue of she being a female but by virtue of who she is. As a nutritionist, she is able to handle most difficult of patients. She can make a child follow diabetic diet and an old stubborn lady like Ishwari follow diet only bcoz of her patience and enrollment power.

Dev on other hand is very impulsive and has a tubular vision in life. He cannot see and think beyond what Ishwari makes him think. He is not very gud at handling individuals. Dev has always been dependent on Sonakshi for looking at things in different and a broader perspective.

They love each other, accepted each other with all their flaws. There are those qualities of each other that attracted them. For Sonakshi, it was the way he respected women and took care of his family that attracted her the most. For Dev, her independent thinking, patience, supporting nature that was most attractive.

Thats y we expect Sonakshi to heal Dev, not FL to heal ML. At the same time we want Dev to realise his mistakes and Sonakshi's importance in his life.

The first close to rational argument I have ever read of why exactly there are women in this forum who expect Sonakshi to be the more understanding, more patient, more giving one. Thank you!!

Originally posted by: dbrk

Its not about male lead or female lead.

Thanks again for this. Takes away the perception that the line between actors and characters might be blurred.

Its about the character. Sonakshi is a character who has patience and power to heal. Not by the virtue of she being a female but by virtue of who she is. As a nutritionist, she is able to handle most difficult of patients. She can make a child follow diabetic diet and an old stubborn lady like Ishwari follow diet only bcoz of her patience and enrollment power.

Dev on other hand is very impulsive and has a tubular vision in life. He cannot see and think beyond what Ishwari makes him think. He is not very gud at handling individuals. As a frience, Dev has always been dependent on Sonakshi for looking at things in different and a broader perspective.

I have highlighted 2 sentences above. I have taken the liberty of qualifying the second sentence because I think, before they fell apart the first time, we saw many instances of Sona and Dev being supportive friends and probably none after they got married.

In both cases, there is an explicit understanding. One, she is a nutritionist where people have with a problem, want her to help solve it. And she goes all the way. In the second instance, as a friend again when Dev expresses a problem, she does her best to help bounce off his ideas and give a broader perspective, as you say rightly.

In both cases she enters the relationship with an explicit understanding of the nature of the problem and her remit.

Dev and Sona's husband and wife relationship did not work because Dev did not set the expectations. At the first instance when he realised his mother wasn't happy with Sona in his life - he should have explained to her what he sees, how he feels and even to the extent of "I accept it is difficult. I can't change her straightaway but lets muddle together". Like they laughed about Bua-dadi? " Bahuriya lali". When she knows he thinks the same, she happily went along.

I am sorry that he saying he is complicated, she promising to be with him forever, he claiming he loves Sonakshi more than her child bearing abilities, etc.. were all just words said when they were overwhelmed in their situation. It had no bearing to their day-to-day behaviour.

His silence at crucial times is his biggest weakness. That makes him a complacent person in the relationship. The fact is she is at his home among his people; She is the inexperienced one in understanding his home and family and the upper hand was with Dev.

It is unfortunate for them. It is important to accept that both tried and failed and it is time to move on. Dev is only showing himself in bad light by his choice of words and actions with Sona openly after all these years.

They love each other, accepted each other with all their flaws. There are those qualities of each other that attracted them. For Sonakshi, it was the way he respected women and took care of his family that attracted her the most. For Dev, her independent thinking, patience, supporting nature that was most attractive.

Thats y we expect Sonakshi to heal Dev, not FL to heal ML. At the same time we want Dev to realise his mistakes and Sonakshi's importance in his life.