Atharv suspecting Vividha

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Posted: 9 years ago

#11

Whether someone who is insecure about you deserves your love is not the question. Whether the person who is insecure about you has any logical reason to be insecure about you is the question. If answered then you know that Atharv is not wrong, neither is Vividha and they'll talk it out and solve their problems.

Love should never be blind. Love comes after exposing your true self completely to someone else and expecting them to take the good and the bad and the ugly and reciprocate the same feelings anyway. That is the love Vitharv share. It is not conditional. It is accepting of the fact that neither of them are perfect. But they still love each other and only each other.

Infatuation on the other hand is completely blind. It comes from a first sight of someone good looking or an initial introduction to someone...infatuation is something that one feels without truly getting to know that person. That is not at all the equation between Vitharv.

But if you were to argue why Atharv and Vividha who know each other so well are having misunderstandings? Where there is love there are expectations. And when those expectations are not met there is anger and disappointment.

Where there is infatuation, there is little expectation because everything is explained away by making illogical excuses for the object of the infatuation, on their behalf without any conversation or clarification being sought...because we like our fantasy world to remain perfect.

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Karaali

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Posted: 9 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: Get-Lost
My question of last week is still not answered;
Does Atharv even love Vividha?
Answer, You love someone when you mistrust that person. Love has many shades, accusing one of infidelity is a shade too.

Instead of making me change my question or opinion about Atharv's love, CVs have somehow managed to further make him doubtful. I don't know who could clear his insecurities when Vividha his lover herself is giving explanations despite not being wrong.

When love is not love but a mere infatuation based on stalking and physical relation and not on understanding, it doesn't take much time for it to turn into a conflict.

I will take their love as given at this time. I am questioning their ability to build a life together.

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Karaali

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Originally posted by: ViTharvforever
vividha had the same insecurity once just for a phone call...now atharv is having aftrall vividha is married with a guy for 3 months n v clearly see vividha's mujhe waqt chahiye n kk's tricks r confusing him...cz he wants to know wat actually vividha wants a lyf with him or her married lyf...for him her loving ravish is not the pblm...her pretending to luv him is the problem..
when u say this type of MUs can never be cleared...i have to say TV's iconic jodi arshi had the same MU ...arnav misunderstands kushi when shyam forcefully hugged her ...he married her on a deal...ipkknd was a saga of love...no1 question arnav there cz there shyam was villian...

just cz ravish is good that doesnt means vividha left this sooo nice guy for flawed atharv is a sin...people shud understand ur sister or mother is urs whether they r gud or bad u cant just throw them away u accept them with flaws. .same goes for love...vividha n atharv has flaws n they both love each other with those flaws...they r not in search of a selfess person to shift their love...

Arshi - another forced marriage. that MU was solved because Shyam and evil intentions were exposed. Let us suppose - a few after the marriage, Shyam had died in a car accident. Would Arnav have ever believed that Khushi was innocent? He didn't believe her when she told him. He believe her after he went through hell during the kidnapping and SHE proved Shyam was the culprit. Is there any such witness or proof of Vividha's love? Is Vividha explaining him everything is enough.

Another big difference between Arnav-Khushi and Atharv-Vividha is the stage of relationship. Arshi were just stealing glances at each other and did not know each other very well when the MU happened. Here it is much later.

Anyway, let us put aside the logic - I am fully aware that TV jodis have amazing amnesia and ability to forgive each other. I don't think MUs are this easy to solve in real life.

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Karaali

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Posted: 9 years ago

#14

Originally posted by: -JC-
Whether someone who is insecure about you deserves your love is not the question. Whether the person who is insecure about you has any logical reason to be insecure about you is the question. If answered then you know that Atharv is not wrong, neither is Vividha and they'll talk it out and solve their problems.

Love should never be blind. Love comes after exposing your true self completely to someone else and expecting them to take the good and the bad and the ugly and reciprocate the same feelings anyway. That is the love Vitharv share. It is not conditional. It is accepting of the fact that neither of them are perfect. But they still love each other and only each other.
Infatuation on the other hand is completely blind. It comes from a first sight of someone good looking or an initial introduction to someone...infatuation is something that one feels without truly getting to know that person. That is not at all the equation between Vitharv.

But if you were to argue why Atharv and Vividha who know each other so well are having misunderstandings? Where there is love there are expectations. And when those expectations are not met there is anger and disappointment.
Where there is infatuation, there is little expectation because everything is explained away by making illogical excuses for the object of the infatuation, on their behalf without any conversation or clarification being sought...because we like our fantasy world to remain perfect.

@bold - if this is true, where is the scope of mistrust? With this level of understanding of each other, you can "misunderstand" someone actions or intentions but how can you mistrust their fidelity or loyalty towards you?

Expectations are a part of EVERY relationship - boss/employee, bf/gf, mother/child. Vividha is walking on egg shells so that he is happy - she is doing only things that would meet his approval. What more is expected out of her to please Atharv?

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@-JC-

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Posted: 9 years ago

#15

I think right below the paragraph that you bolded, i gave my perspective on that argument.

As for Vividha walking on egg shells...I don't think so. She might have done that first day after he returned as there was concern about his delicate psyche. But she herself took the risk of trying to tell him the truth and eventually all truth did come out and now there is not need to be on egg shells. If she was still on egg shells she wouldn't have asked for some space and time to sort herself out.

However, she feels the need to clarify her stance because the recent events are sufficient to create a seed of doubt in anyone, Vividha knows that. She is logically not expecting Atharv to not mistrust her...the reason being, not that he doesn't like Ravish...the reason being that Atharv doesn't know the Vividha that has emerged out of the 3 month of mental separation that they have had and are still continuing to have. It is Vividha's conviction that she feels is being questioned...and it is not just Atharv who was questioning her...it is her mother, it is Sujatha. So she expects that Atharv will have the same questions.

But so far, it was only on Vividha's own actions that he has questioned her convictions regarding their relationship. He has asked her to express her desire freely without being confrontational or cornering her or accusing her in any way. But once she clarified her stance and declared what she wants he hasn't questioned her after, even though there were two incidents purposefully crafter to create a confrontation between them. He no only didn't question her but he didn't even dwell on it...but why would he then dwell on that letter and why would he be angry about that?

Is is a build up of the multiple events? Or is it something else that he is angry about? Can't wait to find out in today's episode. Watching them fight will be so exciting. They are a true match in every sense and I want to watch Vividha blast him if he is doubting on her. :D

Edited by -JC- - 9 years ago

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ViTharvforever

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Posted: 9 years ago

#16

@karaali...s arshi was about to propose their love when MU happened...depending on that arnav needed proof to belive kushi ...he believed only aftr he saw the true face of shyam.

here since vitharv are far from that stage...vividha's breakdown is more than enof to solve this...n one more thing here vividha was married to another man for 3months wen atharv is mentally absent...so it needs tym for him to cover those days...kk is succeeding in his tricks v all know...he didnt doubt vv just lyk that...vividha herself rooted first when that is solved kk is rooting..they have already promised that theyl solve the MU before sun sets...they didnt promise they wont MU...so obviously it shows theyve accepted each other with their flaws...

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