Why marriages fail - Page 3

Originally posted by: sajinifaby

Beautiful subject n superb questions
Standing ovation for an amazing post!

Thank u very much 😃😃

This show is an open insight to this question?
Thank u for this post.. I tel u am fed up supporting one or defending one at any cost..

Same here...😳

Me no advocate of Dev or sona but only love.. which I had seen in Devakshi but that wasn't enough!!

Now to ur Q

I can give u answer from my life -

1) Marry only when ur able to be responsible
Frankly Devakshi marriage was untimely n both were not prepared for it
Kabhi fursath mein bataoongi its details

Yes,I too feel that they were not mature enough and took the decision wearing rose tinted glasses.Some possible future issues were staring at them in the face,but they could never see it. However,would love to hear your POV..Please do elaborate if you have the time😊

When 2 people r not ready such things are bound to happen

2) communication is must but it shud not be provoking but be wise n not vulnerable

Words that come out of ur mouth in anger is a subconscious one that is fed into them.
Never speak when ur angry.
Devakshi again did that n still provoking n taunting

Love this part.So very true..👏👏..I agree that communication is a key,factor but communication in anger can be devastating.No communication is better than communication in anger.I had mentioned a similar point in an earlier post 😊

3) ego should be kept away coz that's loving urself n real love is sacrificial
There is no u n me.. its we n ours...equal partnership
Clap is wen 2 hands hit each other .. so if a marriage fails it's mutual or if it is successful again it's mutual
Devakshi 2.0 is everything but love I.e ego n Devakshi 1.0 was more of love but ego

True again..Their sense of me and you played more than the "we" part.Their egos,ambitions,ideas of self came in between them

4) balancing life is beneficial as ur added with more responsibility n new members are joined suddenly as families who are not blood related.. so it's being more human accommodating.. so increase ur tolerance factor.. as they might not be of ur taste..
Learn to ignore than ignite !

Beautifully worded...👏👏..I too believe that ignoring where necessary is an art,but it is normally learnt with time and experience.I think they had neither the maturity nor the experience to balance between ignoring and speaking.In fact,by the look of it,they have still not understood the balance😉

Hope I make sense to u 😊

U make perfect sense.Thank you for your views.Very interesting and insightful

Originally posted by: ALUJNA21

There are so many countless reasons for every couple who has a failed marriage the reason is unique and different.

I better think it happened because these two people were not meant to be together, though couples are made in heaven and marriages are celebrated on earth among human beings, who are not perfect so the marriage was a mistake.(MY POV)

Originally posted by: svpg

My 20 years of marriage has taught me that it is very important that as a couple you determine the boundaries of your marriage and make it clear that no one can cross those boundaries, not even parents.When the family understands that you are a team, then nothing can separate you

Well said..The key is to understand that the two are a team and a third person has no business there

Dev often gave mixed messages He agreed to arrange his cupboard before Sonakshi, then asked his Mom to do it! Wrong message! Giving job to Vicky, wrong message! Not standing up against Mami, wrong message!While Ishwari is the main culprit, Dev is at a greater fault for not setting the boundaries. People barging in to their room at all times, trying to please all are just a couple of examples.

I agree..Dev didn't set the boundaries clearly,but I do feel that Sonakshi tried to bring too many changes too soon..One step at a time would have done it for her

While Sonakshi is the mature one, the patient one; sometimes you just have had it. At that point when there was a rift between Bejoy and Ishwari due to money, She could have handled it a bit differently by first getting on the same page with Dev. While I love my parents a lot, sometimes in the initial days of marriage just for the sake of keeping the relationship alive, you have to be the bigger person. Unfortunately Women are more mature! Some ground rules had to be laid! For that open communication was necessary. Instead they let money,other people take over their relationship! In a marriage there is Lakshman Rekha. Never let anyone , even your own children or parents cross that and enter your side of the boundary.

I agree..too much outside interference,especially in the initial stages of a marriage can be fatal to the marriage

I hope they show Sona and Dev uniting soon and show how they do things right this time around! That would be the real end of the show! I hope they don't just show them uniting after another 2 years and say The End! Then where is the growth ? Where are the lessons learnt?

Yes,CVs are capable of doing this..That would be the last nail in the coffin..Hope they make some sense soon.