Open question to All mothers ! WHAT will each of you Do ??

Originally posted by: naaju

Hmmm..First of all I dnt have a son n neither Im married.

so I dnt knw Im eligible or nt to comment...

But yes in future wen I will b a mother of a grown up kid of 25yrs ..times wud have changed a lot...ppl mindset n laws might have also changed..

So I wud first make an assessment whether d person in question feelings is genuine or its just d influence of changing lifestyle.. becos many bisexuals r nt really bisexuals bt dey just want to try something different or have some fun...Many believe dey r gay or lesbian becos dey r mentally disturbed at dat point of tym...bt dey r nt...

I wud try to reason out wid dem abt d repercussions of such an act..n wat impact it wud have on dem , their siblings n parents...

But if dey r firm on their decision I wud let dem free to do watever dey want...becos I wud never want dem to lead a suffocating life..

Originally posted by: tejaswiniwenham

wow mummy here with 3 sons. if one of them is gay, i would be a bit taken aback but i am open minded enough to accept that, if i can accept that then why would i be unable to accept my son marrying or being with an intersex woman? if he was 'straight' and then suddenly fell for an intersex woman, i would be shocked. i would counsel him for an explanation. hopefully my son will grow up with a comprehensive enough sex education to understand their options, medically speaking. if they dont want to approach them then i would explain the possible sexual and personal repercussions as well as the societal backlash they would have to face. if they are still happy with each other then why not? i dont view love as sexual deviancy- not that close minded. neither do i think im a special enough snowflake to NEED my family line to go forward. if my son married a woman who couldnt conceive, would i tell him to get rid of her and get a new one? no. so why should i empathize more with a woman who cant have kids than an intersex woman who cant have kids?

but then again this is the perspective of an educated millenial mother who understands the intersex condition and doesnt view blood as crucial to be family. i would love adopted grandchildren no less than "real" ones. but i think you are looking for an answer from a more conservative mother who would perhaps understand preeto. the thing is, i may not like my son being with a kinnar, but my problem will be my son, i wouldnt torture the other person whilst showering love on my son. i know many homophobic parents who havent spoken to their son in years since he came out. but those people have a problem with their son. not someone else's kid. they dont hurt or conspire to kill someone else's child. the problem is between me and my son. i would be mad at him. not direct it at someone who hasnt done anything to deserve mistreatment.

Originally posted by: tejaswiniwenham

wow mummy here with 3 sons. if one of them is gay, i would be a bit taken aback but i am open minded enough to accept that, if i can accept that then why would i be unable to accept my son marrying or being with an intersex woman? if he was 'straight' and then suddenly fell for an intersex woman, i would be shocked. i would counsel him for an explanation. hopefully my son will grow up with a comprehensive enough sex education to understand their options, medically speaking. if they dont want to approach them then i would explain the possible sexual and personal repercussions as well as the societal backlash they would have to face. if they are still happy with each other then why not? i dont view love as sexual deviancy- not that close minded. neither do i think im a special enough snowflake to NEED my family line to go forward. if my son married a woman who couldnt conceive, would i tell him to get rid of her and get a new one? no. so why should i empathize more with a woman who cant have kids than an intersex woman who cant have kids?

but then again this is the perspective of an educated millenial mother who understands the intersex condition and doesnt view blood as crucial to be family. i would love adopted grandchildren no less than "real" ones. but i think you are looking for an answer from a more conservative mother who would perhaps understand preeto. the thing is, i may not like my son being with a kinnar, but my problem will be my son, i wouldnt torture the other person whilst showering love on my son. i know many homophobic parents who havent spoken to their son in years since he came out. but those people have a problem with their son. not someone else's kid. they dont hurt or conspire to kill someone else's child. the problem is between me and my son. i would be mad at him. not direct it at someone who hasnt done anything to deserve mistreatment.