Arjun -free bird whn maya is around / bird in cage when sanj is around

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Posted: 8 years ago
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We are noticing that Now, because Sanj is creating scene for every thing, Arjun started lying to her, started telling her meeting hai.
she made him feel Lie to me else ill fight with you, this is what he is doing, he wants to keep peace so lying to her. she knows he is lying to her, she feels bad her trust is shaken but who needs to change here? is it her or is it him>?
actually i ask myself, Arjun claims to have many girlfriends b4 and if so, why didn't sanj tell him by then that hello I love u, she kept it hidden, What if it was serious then, so it doesnt matter is it maya or any other girl, Sanj would not let her stay.
In maya case, maya is stronger, she knows what she wants, she wants arjun but not forcing herself on him, giving him freedom but controlling him without letting him feel it wasn't his choice, someone else made that choice for him,. he is not aware of it. he feels like a free bird when maya is around and feel like bird in cage when sanj is around.

sanj trying to protect him, she is smart she sees the danger but her approach is such that she is not helping him, she is actually pushing him into it.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I agree. I also feel the approach is wrong and this is what will cause Arjun to move more towards Maya. No one wants to feel like their being preached to all the time. The worst is when you have to lie to your friends about where you are and who your with etc. That is a signal of trouble. The day you can't be honest coz you think honesty will only get you a lecture or be judged, then Housten we have a problem!


Arjun is choosing the easy way out by hiding things from Saanjh. He wants to avoid another confrontation with her. The worst was that he pretended he went home and didn't tell her he went to see Maya. Like a kid hiding their deeds from a school principle! For once, Saanjh's Mother made sense when she told her to leave Arjun alone and he will come in line on his own. But Saanjh doesn't think he is capable of thinking for himself. Neither Saanjh nor Arjun's Mom has any faith in his judgment. Maybe they have a point, but if they don't give him the opportunity he will never learn.


Anyways, I feel Saanjh's approach will only worsen matters and push Arjun towards Maya. The opposite of the result she is seeking. Her brother though younger is a lot more practical and uses his rationality more than Saanjh does. She needs to stop giving her whole life's importance to Arjun, because it won't take him long to move forward leaving her behind!
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Posted: 8 years ago
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So well said, I totally agree with you.
Arjun with maya I can see him enjoying himself and she is making him feel happy making him feel loved and special.
Sanj love him but if he loves hr back that is a question becasue he is not sure. he is not aware of his feelings.
even if he gets married to maya that might be of attachment but love at this point i guess one sided. he is loving guy why would a girl let him go.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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It's very wrong to say he isn't free around saanjh ...and his free around Maya

Till so many years of life wasn't he free ?Every relation has pro and cons ...you won't get everything in one person

Maya as of now can't afford to put conditions on him ... she doesn't have that status in his life ..
Once there get into relation Maya will make him so lonely ...he would literally caged like jhanvi

I must say Maya is extremely smart manipulating women ...but that type of facade doesn't last long .
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: tanvismile

It's very wrong to say he isn't free around saanjh ...and his free around Maya

Till so many years of life wasn't he free ?Every relation has pro and cons ...you won't get everything in one person

Maya as of now can't afford to put conditions on him ... she doesn't have that status in his life ..
Once there get into relation Maya will make him so lonely ...he would literally caged like jhanvi

I must say Maya is extremely smart manipulating women ...but that type of facade doesn't last long .


Yeah that is also true but now that sanj trying to force him listen to her won't help either because he will feel she is putting him in some cage, he won't feel that maya is going to put him in cage now, Maybe in future yeah.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Couldnt agree more, her fighting is whats pushing arjun more towards maya as he dxnt have to give any explanations for his actions to her lyk he has to with sanjh, as far as arjun's previous gfs are concerned i think they themselves wud hv backed out by seeing how close arjun is to sanjh, i mean no gf lyks her bf having another girl this close, Maya is the only one who stood up and is taking the matter in her own hands instead of giving up n crying, this is why sanjh is feeling insecure cuz she hasnt faced a strong competition yet 😉
Edited by Choco_Mishti - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
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arjun has been a free bird always, other can say what they want, saanjh, his mom, whoever, he do what he want. even he is with maya like this for his own sake, let's see maya can manipulate him or not
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Great post!

The fact that he is now lying to his best friend shows that there is something wrong. And the reason for him to lie is because he feels bounded when he is around her. that means that lying makes him feel better when he tells Saanjh about maya...
on the other hand Arjun doesn't lie to Maya, in fact he straight up says he doesn't think it will work...
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I agree to a certain extent.
100% Saanjh needs to change her approach. Even though its for Arjun, he is too thick skulled to see anything. And from his POV, he will start to feel as if he needs to hide things from her now.

You post I think makes sense for Arjun's POV. The reality is that he has no freedom with Maya. He is being handled by her but he just doesn't know it. While Saanjh's approach is so "in your face" which makes him feel as though he may not be free.

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Posted: 8 years ago
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In this chakkar of being caged temporarily Arjun is feeling he is caged bcz of saanj but little he knows that with maya he is going to be caged permanantly like jhanvi... saanj was correct to say that he only sees outer things and gave chand shine example... Arjun USB like that he can't go beyond outer things and think what's actually happening around him... seeing how maya have hidden Arjun visit to her house from her loving mom(till now I didn't know why she has hidden from her) I don't have hopes that she will set her heart inside out to Arjun ... maya love is like that how much ever she loves a person whether mom or Arjun she has restrictions and can't give herself completely... in love we have to surrender ourself to other

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