Scrolling through d live updates of jndsd in Twitter I saw many tweets on Ravish being the nayi soch.Then came my personal favorite 'Ravish vashisht nayi soch' montage.So I asked one of them why do u think Ravish is a nayi soch.It was a legit question , not a mockery,so I got a genuine reply
"He is strong,a man of his words,he is the one who never bows down in front of difficulties.Ravish faces all difficulties without doing victim drama, he does not hold bitterness in him. He is doing good of everyone without expecting anything in return."
I agree with everything thing she says. But be honest, isn't this the character of almost all the heroines of saas bahu serial from stone age. Only thing new here is that it is portrayed by a man. He faces almost same difficulties and take d same decisions. Don't we have enough of this type of 'nayi soch' from d age of pamphlets? Yes, it is good to know that this unrealistic collaboration of traits are still d benchmark in judging a person. After all everything good should prevail. But where is the 'nayi soch' in this? All I see is an old wine(Ravish) in a new bottle and we all know how that tastes like.
To me 'nayi soch' is something that has never been portrayed before. It is something that questions the way we live and the rules we follow. It could be good ,bad or shades of both.So let's talk about 'ek chutki sindoor ki kheemath'. I am an Indian girl and I know the sanctity of sindoor and mangalsutra. To me it represents the promise of commitment and to love one another no matter what. The keyword here is 'REPRESENTS'. Why do we need a representation for a promise that binds two heart? Is it that weak a bond that it will disintegrate without the binding of a thread. Obviously in an era where a maiden can't look at a man more than a few seconds without being blackmarked require such nurturing. But what if the nurturing does not require such a binding? Well I am not wise enough to question the existence of eons old system like marriage. But can I question the origination of such a system? Being a romantic at heart I would love to believe that marriage started as a declaration of promise of love and commitment. Now this declaration has grown so strong that only the people who are married will have a valid promise of commitment and love. One of the arguments that Vividha should stay with Ravish was that they were married. Did marriage become that strong to dictate who to declare our love? I get that they are really selfish people who doesn't care about others feelings using the same argument to disolve marriages. But do we have to categorize a girl whose circumstances resulted in a forced marriage using the same argument as 'cheap'. Can't we afford a little leave in this case. Or has marriage become that rigid that it is irrevocable. Then why is divorce legal in India? I understand that almost 90% of the marriage are successful ,but what of the rest? Does a majority have to suffer to make some compensations in a system? Why ,is the majority that weak that it will be broken by the minority? Can't it be acceptable that Vividha could leave Ravish and still have dignity?
Another argument was Ravish is a good guy he deserves the heroine.Note that it is heroine they want not Vividha as such. Can I ask u something, Is it mandatory that a girl should fall in love with every nice guy in her life? Can't she have her own feelings and wishes? Does have to fall in love with a guy that society deems is right?
Isn't this issue worthy enough to be a 'nayi soch'. Yes, as u all can guess Vividha is a 'nayi soch' for as of now. Should only the old values made at old times still be set in stone can't it evolve with time? This is 'nayi soch' for me. But the question is are ready and brave enough to ask the same questions?