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Posted: 8 years ago
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we can never be happy with Dev's character if we expect the below from him .

1.When Sona makes a mistake : He should not point her mistakes but should let it go .Nothing wrong in pointing out or discussing

2. Keep praising her at every occasion.Not possible at every occasion .Its should be both ways

3. Accept changes brought by her without questioning

4. Smile and accept all her taunts when it's totally not needed (referring to mama's boy comment after he aplogized ,what's was the point )

5. Apologize for her mistakes as well

6 .Should not have Difference of opinion.Every husband and wife will have fights and difference of opinion

7. Should not have small misunderstandings with her in laws .

8.Gladly accept all the taunts from his FIL without feeling bad about it.He was wrong in calling Asha as Maa but Bijoy was not mature either .Similarly Sona doesn't have to accept all taunts from her in lead

9. Should not fall sick lol..😆

10.Should not make mistakes in life ever .Accepting one fault and not repeating it again is what makes someone a good human being .There is no one in this earth who haven't committed any mistakes


I think if we expect the above from him he can never be a good husband nor we can be happy with the CVs .If the above happens it's a toxic relationship where one person's feelings is kept above the other.Its impossible to find such a person in real life .If they show this then I can say RIP KRPKAB ..you are showing impossible and Please add a disclaimer ...it happens only in teleword
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Thanks for the post. I always get agree with you.

Yes if we are accepting the above from Dev, then we will never find him right.

I didn't found it cool that how Bijoy called Dev, Bhatija in front of all, I can understand that Asha got hurt and it is natural, but she want to handle the situation maturally and not by giving tit for tat as Bijoy did today.

For God's Sake, he is your SIL, In front of the new relatives you are keep calling him...I really didn't like it.

And yeah sona Mamma's boy sentence doesn't go with the situation today, in that scene I can see Ishwari shadow in her as she is keep taunting Dev, even though he realised his mistake.

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: yyy

we can never be happy with Dev's character if we expect the below from him .

1.When Sona makes a mistake : He should not point her mistakes but should let it go .Nithing wrong in. Protecting or discussing
2. Keep praising her at every occasion.Not possible at every occasion .Its should be both ways
3. Accept changes brought by her without questioning
4. Smile and accept all her taunts when it's totally not needed (referring to mama's boy comment after he aplologizes ,what's was the point )
5. Apologize for her mistakes as well
6 .Should not have Difference of opinion.Every husband and wife will have fights and difference of opinion
7. Should not have small misunderstandings with her in laws .
8.Gladly accept all the taunts from his FIL without feeling bad about it.He was wrong in calling Asha as Maa but Bijoy was mature either .Similarly Sona doesn't have to accept all taunts from her in lead
9. Should not fall sick lol..
10.Should not make mistakes in life ever .Accepting one fault and not repeating it again is what makes someone a good human being .There is no one in this earth who haven't committed any mistakes


I think if we expect the above from him he can never be a good husband nor we can be happy with the CVs .If the above happens it's a toxic relationship where one person's feelings is kept above the other.Its impossible to find such a person in real life .If they show this then I can say RIP KRPKAB ..you are showing impossible and Please add a disclaimer ...it happens only in teleword

@yyy can you please give specific examples of each of your 10 points?
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: .kashishbano.

Thanks for the post. I always get agree with you.


Yes if we are accepting the above from Dev, then we will never find him right.

I didn't found it cool that how Bijoy called Dev, Bhatija in front of all, I can understand that Asha got hurt and it is natural, but she want to handle the situation maturally and not by giving tit for tat as Bijoy did today.

For God's Sake, he is your SIL, In front of the new relatives you are keep calling him...I really didn't like it.

And yeah sona Mamma's boy sentence doesn't go with the situation today, in that scene I can see Ishwari shadow in her as she is keep taunting Dev, even though he realised his mistake.


Thanks dear 🤗.I cannot handle so much negativity in the forum nor can understand the expectations people have from Dev .

Well Bijoy came across as a immature person and was not amused by his approach .Being a elder person he could have handled the situation maturely but he came across as a childish and the tamasha was uncalled for .He is nice only to people who agree with his daughter .He cannot think from other's POV and he doesn't realize the the impact it would have on his daughter .Appreciating him is like appreciating RR 😆😆.

Like father , like daughter .That so called "Mumma's boy" was not needed after he apologized .She is not right always and this is the best example .


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Originally posted by: baijubavra

@yyy can you please give specific examples of each of your 10 points?


I gathered these points after going through almost all the discussions in the forum .I have seen Dev being praised as along as she overlooks Sona's mistakes and does things to please her .The moment there is some difference of opinion between them Dev is blamed even if he is not the one to make mistakes .😳
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Agree with u...and there is no need to call bhanja in front of new people... Bijoy is old but not mature...
Well sona have both quality of her parents... Mixture of bijoy and asha...first react like bijoy and then understand everything like asha.
And there is no need to call mama boy again n again if he already apologize for that.
That's why ishwari speak today...she is silent from last 2 days when she understood meaning of mama boy but she didn't say any single word to sona but today maybe she doesn't feel good after hearing again n agian.
CVS r Really doing great work in storyline because also in today life, when son follow or close to her mother, then wife have tendency to say mama boy similarly, goes with mother for whom her son is life for her...she feels happy to help her children until she is alive... And this circle between milf and dil will continue forever in real life also

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Posted: 8 years ago
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The reason Sonakshi called him mamma's boy again is because inadvertently Ishwari revealed that she is the reason why Dev called Asha as "aunty". When Ishwari said the things she said in the last episode about Dev being uncomfortable calling someone else as mom Sonakshi understood that it was Ishwari who was not happy with Dev calling her mom as Maa.

When initially Ishwari told Dev about her feeling sad, he could have explained how he cannot call Asha otherwise and also by calling Asha as Maa his love for Ishwari will not become any less. When a child throws a tantrum it is the responsibility of the parents to teach the kids the right and wrong. But Dev did not even bother to think about anyone beyond his mother and hurt not just Sonakshi, but her family too.

Even though he then realized the mistake and came to ask sorry, he does not still realize that he needs to not repeat such mistakes again. I mean this was one just thing where he gave into his mom's tantrum. But what will stop him to not give into her other tantrums without stopping to think whether it is right or wrong. Hence her comment of mamma's boy.

Till he stops doing things without thinking through, about the hurt his actions can cause others, Sonakshi will call him that. She wants him to grow up!!!

That's all... Just my POV...
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: rahulvats12

Agree with u...and there is no need to call bhanja in front of new people... Bijoy is old but not mature...

Well sona have both quality of her parents... Mixture of bijoy and asha...first react like bijoy and then understand everything like asha.
And there is no need to call mama boy again n again if he already apologize for that.
That's why ishwari speak today...she is silent from last 2 days when she understood meaning of mama boy but she didn't say any single word to sona but today maybe she doesn't feel good after hearing again n agian.
CVS r Really doing great work in storyline because also in today life, when son follow or close to her mother, then wife have tendency to say mama boy similarly, goes with mother for whom her son is life for her...she feels happy to help her children until she is alive... And this circle between milf and dil will continue forever in real life also


What's wrong in calling him mam's boy twice when Ishwari keeps reciting her rant every single day 😆
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I am not sure if I agree with you or not, but here r my thought!! I enjoyed Bijoy's way of tackling the situation. Sometimes one needs to be witty and assertive in order to make a point and with Ishwari oh God you need that! However, I didn't enjoy the extra word of "momma's boy" when Dev had apologized. From Sona's point of view this guy makes mistake says sorry and does it again without thinking!
I disliked Ishwari's speech! May be she and Dev can go to long tirath yatra together rather than sending Dev/ Sona for honeymoon. I think the first couple seems to have lots of historical energy that only God can take care of. Don't like Ishwari sulking all the time looking at Dev and Sona together. I feel it comes from her lonely life. I hope it becomes easier for seniors in India to search for a partner or date if they wish to or feel lonely. May be a track where they find a date for Ishwari would be nice.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: yyy

we can never be happy with Dev's character if we expect the below from him .

1.When Sona makes a mistake : He should not point her mistakes but should let it go .Nothing wrong in pointing out or discussing


2. Keep praising her at every occasion.Not possible at every occasion .Its should be both ways

3. Accept changes brought by her without questioning

4. Smile and accept all her taunts when it's totally not needed (referring to mama's boy comment after he aplogized ,what's was the point )

5. Apologize for her mistakes as well

6 .Should not have Difference of opinion.Every husband and wife will have fights and difference of opinion

7. Should not have small misunderstandings with her in laws .

8.Gladly accept all the taunts from his FIL without feeling bad about it.He was wrong in calling Asha as Maa but Bijoy was not mature either .Similarly Sona doesn't have to accept all taunts from her in lead

9. Should not fall sick lol..😆

10.Should not make mistakes in life ever .Accepting one fault and not repeating it again is what makes someone a good human being .There is no one in this earth who haven't committed any mistakes


I think if we expect the above from him he can never be a good husband nor we can be happy with the CVs .If the above happens it's a toxic relationship where one person's feelings is kept above the other.Its impossible to find such a person in real life .If they show this then I can say RIP KRPKAB ..you are showing impossible and Please add a disclaimer ...it happens only in teleword


1. It is just the other way around. When dev makes a mistake it does not have a point to discuss it. Sona will here the famous " tum nahi samhjoge" dialog. Dev is doing whatever he wants, from.leaving sona for his mom, to get ranveer fired without even knowing what the problem was between him.and neha. With dev it is if HIS family is not happy nobody can be happy and must suffer. Dev makes mistakes, but is repeating the same mistake over and over again.

2. When is dev ever been forced to prais sona?? On the other hand he listen silently to every taunt HIS family is giving Sona. He never directly said to mami or neha ir ishwari that this is not done.

3.When dev himself said that sona can make changes to his room wgat wrong has sona done by bringing the swing?? If he is to immiture to speak to Sona honestly about it that he did not like it what is Sona's fault in this?? Why going to complaint about the swing to your mother behind your wifes back?? Because you promised her that she could make any change she wanted to? Because you said what makes you happy makes me happy?? Why making false promisses then?? Just be honest to ur wife. If Sona wants dev to become independent by arranging his own closet whats wrong in that??? And if dev can not do it why go and complaint to your mom??? Tell your wife honestly.

4.Every taunt HE gets???? OMG. Sona is getting taunts every day and Dev does nothing about it. Even if bijoy gives dev taunts(only happend when dev is treating sona and her family like they are nothing)Like when he called dev nephew. This opend devs eyes that is was wrong to call Asha aunty. And when dev can call asha aunty than why cant bijoy call dev nephew??


5.When has he appolagized for Sona mistake? Can you pls give an example?

6.Did you forget the scene where Sona said lets agree to disagree???Or how she handled his 12 a clock bday issue?? So where is dev being forced to adapt Sona's opinion. It is a diffrent matter if you talk about respect. If dev is wrong it is a wifes duty to let het husband know where he did wrong. Esspecially if it is about the respect a wife deserves. In all matters Sona is showing respect towards Ishwari. But Ishwari us crossing all lines with her behavior.

7.What do you call small misunderstanding?? Dev calling asha aunty??

8.Sorry to say but all taunts of bijoy has a reason behind it. And dev knows it! Look at the occasions that bijoy taunted dev and you will see dev did something much worse before that

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10. I agree every person makes mistakes. But what i am pissed about is that dev makes a mistake appologises whithout feeling regret and makes the same mistake over and over again. And most of the time it is to please his mom.

Like you said a relation becomes toxic when one realtion is put above the other. And that is exactly what cv's are showing now. First he chooses Ishwari over Sona by just riping her out of his life without giving it s second thought. Then it is Ishwari above asha whit the " Maa" matter. Dev does not know how to balance all his relations.

Everybody should respect his/her parents. Give them all the love. But a mother should also learn to let het son/daughter life their own independent life. And ishwari is not letting dev do this. This is very unhealty! She wants to be mom/ wife/ friend only she must exsist for dev. This is just my pov. Cannot see it any diffrent. Tough i do respect your point of view. And maybe we just have to agree to disagree😆

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