Originally posted by: xxZaaraxx
1. It is just the other way around. When dev makes a mistake it does not have a point to discuss it. Sona will here the famous " tum nahi samhjoge" dialog. Dev is doing whatever he wants, from.leaving sona for his mom, to get ranveer fired without even knowing what the problem was between him.and neha. With dev it is if HIS family is not happy nobody can be happy and must suffer. Dev makes mistakes, but is repeating the same mistake over and over again.
Lets not forget what Ranveer did to Neha .Who files a mental harasment case against his wife when they have differences .Filing for divorce is a choice given to a couple whereas mental harasment case is misusing law .Till now there are no scenes where Neha has tortured her in laws .
Both Sona and Dev have their own way of solving problem .Every time Sona cannot be right .It's Neha's decision to stay married to Ranveer or not .Whether right or wrong Sona cannot force her decisions on Neha .
If the issue is related to Dev and her then she has every right to advise , provide suggestions but when it comes to other people's life she cannot except them to always follow her advise or encourage her interference .
Has she shared her family problems with her husband ? Does he involve him in her family matters then why does she he except Neha/Dev to follow her advise or discuss Neha's problems with her .
Dev has done a mistake and he has realized and apologized for it .Are you saying Sona never did a mistake in her life ?She has taken some decisions without consulting him like fasting to impress Ishwari .
2. When is dev ever been forced to prais sona?? On the other hand he listen silently to every taunt HIS family is giving Sona. He never directly said to mami or neha ir ishwari that this is not done.
He is never been forced to praise Sona .He has always praised her on his own .As long as he keeps doing that on regular basis he will be spared .That's what i meant.
I have spent enough time on making a post explaining where Dev has stood for Sona and where he hasn't .If you are interested please go over that .
3.When dev himself said that sona can make changes to his room wgat wrong has sona done by bringing the swing?? If he is to immiture to speak to Sona honestly about it that he did not like it what is Sona's fault in this?? Why going to complaint about the swing to your mother behind your wifes back?? Because you promised her that she could make any change she wanted to? Because you said what makes you happy makes me happy?? Why making false promisses then?? Just be honest to ur wife. If Sona wants dev to become independent by arranging his own closet whats wrong in that??? And if dev can not do it why go and complaint to your mom??? Tell your wife honestly.
You can see that in two ways ..either as lying to or trying to adjust with the change .Yes he asked her to make changes in his room and he was not happy with the changes .He did not say anything to hurt her but was trying his best to adjust with the changes .If he really did not care for her then he would have not allowed her to make changes .He promised her and he tried his best to keep up his promises .He cannot force himself to like what she likes , he can try to adjust .
Here Sona was not completely right either .The room belongs to both of them not just hers yet we saw she did not keep his liking in mind when she started making changes .She could have been little considerate .SHe saw how he got hurt because of swing as it on the way .She could have moved the swing to a different corner or rearranged it .I still see her dupatas on railings so its not like all her changes were removed from his room
Coming to wadrobe issue .Dev did try to follow her advise .Did he start lying to her from the day one ?He could not manage and she did offer any help either .It started with arranging then slowly it led to washing ,ironing and folding .What's wrong if he buys a new wadrobe or takes some help from someone .If Ishwari is the problem then help him or ask Kichu to help .
4.Every taunt HE gets???? OMG. Sona is getting taunts every day and Dev does nothing about it. Even if bijoy gives dev taunts(only happend when dev is treating sona and her family like they are nothing)Like when he called dev nephew. This opend devs eyes that is was wrong to call Asha aunty. And when dev can call asha aunty than why cant bijoy call dev nephew??
Dev was wrong in calling her as Aunty .At the same time i did not like the way Bijoy handled the situation .He came across as a immature person .Dev realized his mistake before Bijoy's drama so OTT drama did not help anyone .
When RR or Ishwari taunts her she gives it back to them most of the times .Will you appreciate if Dev does that ?
5.When has he appolagized for Sona mistake? Can you pls give an example?
When she decided to fast and stay away from him for 15days .She did not talk to him as the decision was theirs not just hers but it was Dev who went and apologized.
During first night , the misunderstandings at the wedding happened because of her family as well .Even if it was event management who made a mistake , it was their responsibility to ensure everything went smooth .She lost her cool and accused him yet he apologized for both of them .
6.Did you forget the scene where Sona said lets agree to disagree???Or how she handled his 12 a clock bday issue?? So where is dev being forced to adapt Sona's opinion. It is a diffrent matter if you talk about respect. If dev is wrong it is a wifes duty to let het husband know where he did wrong. Esspecially if it is about the respect a wife deserves. In all matters Sona is showing respect towards Ishwari. But Ishwari us crossing all lines with her behavior.
I respect Sona for being so understanding .If she is wrong then she can always point out his mistakes but certain things like managing wadrobe , liking something doesn't fall under right/wrong category.Its preference and in Neha's matter Dev doesn't have much say so she can't expect Dev to listen to her advise .
7.What do you call small misunderstanding?? Dev calling asha aunty??
Did i say that ? Day to day misunderstandings which happen in every couple's life
8.Sorry to say but all taunts of bijoy has a reason behind it. And dev knows it! Look at the occasions that bijoy taunted dev and you will see dev did something much worse before that
I don't support Bijoy's approach .Its like saying RR was right when she taunted SOna when she spoke to Neha's in laws without her permission .
Insulting someone is not the way to correct others .If this holds good then Sona needs to be insulted every time she makes a mistake.
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10. I agree every person makes mistakes. But what i am pissed about is that dev makes a mistake appologises whithout feeling regret and makes the same mistake over and over again. And most of the time it is to please his mom.
He has genuinely felt bad for all his mistakes .It was not an eyewash .He has stood up for his wife against his mom .Details are in my old post i referred before so feel free to read if you are interested .
Yes he has made some mistakes and so does Sonakshi . The mistake is not something which cannot be redeemed .
Like you said a relation becomes toxic when one realtion is put above the other. And that is exactly what cv's are showing now. First he chooses Ishwari over Sona by just riping her out of his life without giving it s second thought. Then it is Ishwari above asha whit the " Maa" matter. Dev does not know how to balance all his relations.
He is learning and no one masters it in one day .I am sure if any other character is put in Dev's shoes they wont come out with flying colors on day one or in a month.He will make mistakes and will learn from it .That's life
Everybody should respect his/her parents. Give them all the love. But a mother should also learn to let het son/daughter life their own independent life. And ishwari is not letting dev do this. This is very unhealty! She wants to be mom/ wife/ friend only she must exsist for dev. This is just my pov. Cannot see it any diffrent. Tough i do respect your point of view. And maybe we just have to agree to disagreeđ
That's the whole plot of this serial ..Ishwari's insecurities .If its cured in 1 or 2 episode what will the makers show .Such complicated problems cannot be solved in a day or two .Its a long process and thats what they are showing the viewers .
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