Would you be able to tell your husband?

I'm sorry I keep making topics but I feel too strongly about this topic, even before JNDSD hence it really aggravates me!


Can we forget the characters for a bit and imagine a real life situation because these tragic incidents do happen in India everyday.


Take a real life situation where the girl is made to marry someone else (via honour killing). We all accept that happens right? So she's completely broken because she still loves her boyfriend. But her in laws and husbands are all very nice. What do most women in that situation do? They ADJUST! They try to move on right? Even though in her heart she still loves her boyfriend who was brutally taken away from her. Is she cheating the in laws? Would you judge her? Because this crap happens all the time. Are you calling all those women who hide the truth about their ex CHEAP? Would you be able to tell your husband or in-laws? You say it like its a piece of cake but right now there must be thousands of women out there who still think about their ex but are acting like the dutiful wife. They're all disgusting right?

But here the girl told the truth, quite early on. What did she do that's so wrong? She just said she doesn't want to adjust or COMPROMISE on her OWN desires.

Why can't a girl do that?

Honestly everyone is not accepting this change, these people are so used to the girls who keep quiet and let others take the decision that they can't deal with someone who can't do just that. They are used to those girls who do nothing and move on with their husbands. Vividha on the other hand is different than all those girls, she took her destiny in her hands and she was pretty straight forward when it came to her heart. She wanted Atharv and only him, no one could take his place in her life whether he was coming back or no and that's what she told her husband. Normally girls don't do that.

You know Vividha's situation is actually a perfect example of what's going on in the world right now. Idk if I should say this or not, but honestly this is what I am seeing it as right now .. the amount of WOMEN on this forum who are condemning Vividha's actions instead of supporting her shows exactly WHY girls are STILL forced into marriages. When our own kind don't support us in these matters then how do you expect women to speak up against this torture.

Regardless of who's fan you are, Vividha's actions should have been supported today at least by the women :)

its easier to just say but to actually do it requires lot of courage and time... I support vividha...it hasnt been easy for her..

no it's impossible for any girl to tell her husband about her past. It's possible before marriage but impossible after marriage because she has the fear of being rejected.

Believe me, we can keep on asking these questions but we are never going to get a honest or unbiased answer to this question ever! P.S to answer your question, a lot of girls just compromise and move on because they fear that they'll be rejected by their husband and in laws. I myself know a few people who have not opened up about their past because of the fear that they won't be understood but judged and stigmatized

I know, I know exactly why I won't get an honest answer because for that you have to drop your bias and actually BE HONEST!

You have to put yourself in the position of a girl who has been a victim of a forced marriages. You have to understand her mindset whilst living with a good family.

If she was rude to them, she's a b*tch
If she was kind to them, she's a cheater and leading them
If she's honest to them, she's insensitive (I've read more crap but won't repeat).

She won't win. However, I wish for once these fans could put themselves in the shoes of a woman who has been a victim of honour killing & forced marriage. But will they? Nope.

Nor will they bother to respond here

Originally posted by: _innocent_

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">Interesting topic (And Hello! Trust us to meet in a forum like this😆).</font>

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<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">People are very quick when it comes to judging others without putting themselves in that person's shoes. It reminds me of the saying that 'empty vessels make the most sound.' It is very difficult for someone who lives in countries where their a fear of backlash to express the truth about their past to their current spouse.Many girls are forced into marriages and to expect those girls to tell their current spouse the truth about their exes (if they had any) is ridiculous as anyone with even 1% of brain cell will understand that it would lead to that girl being tortured. No in laws will accept such truth.</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">From my perspective, it depends on the relationship one shares with their husband. If one's husband is open and want to know the truth without fear of him becoming paranoid, then sure one would share their past.</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">Anyways, unfortunately women are expected to suck it up and live as per society's rules. Women are not expected to find happiness, they are expected to be mere slaves of their husbands.Its sad but alas women are their own worst enemies🥱. No one ever forgets their first love, and only a few are brave enough to take the step of going back to their first love despite the situations they are in now. Those that do, I call them brave not cheap or a coward. To be able to fight against odds for the one you love, bore nothing but admiration for me.</font>

I'm just really happy to see you here again!!! Please stay, this forum needs sensible writers like you.

What can I say man? You all have said what I'm thinking. There's women out there in forced marriages, adjusting without having the SLIGHTEST intention of cheating their husband or in-laws. If they're not cheaters then why was Vividha when she was compromising? Why is she an insensitive b*tch now for being honest and apologetic?

Give me a justified explanation...someone from the other end!