Bijoy kind of parents Vs. Asha kind of parents

Sorry I had to make a post...my thoughts and brain is overflowing today. I am not well and unable to write much 😡 bt the positive me said chutku sa likh hi daal 😆 😉 ..this is like I got 2 marks questions but my answer length says its shud have been 10marks 😆. Neverthless I am sticking to 2 marks for now. 😉

Ok I think there are 2 tarah k log ..i mean parents here.. 😉 😆

I have always noticed this in parents..once their kids gets married..they are either the matured ones or they get highly irrational.

Bijoy is doing what many parents do. You want the best for your child but rather than explaining them and making them look at things with a view to understand things and changes and how to adjust "with" new people. Rather than giving suggestions on how it can be made better ..he's not giving suggestions bt imposing his thoughts on Sona and that too not for the better. Baba pls...SUGGEST her if u think she needs one but dnt TEACH Her what she should do. By doing that..aap apni "samajhdaar" beti se uski "samajh" le rahe ho. No wonder such type of parents start interfering in their kids life which is really dangerous. Ur making her efforts of making other happy go in vein Coz instead of trying to tell her she shud be herself and not try to be someone else ..u r actually telling her how she shud learn to say no to everything and think negative of others.

Pls koi uncle to samjhao "todna is very easy but jodna is really mushkil" ..aap to pehle se hi crack daalne aa gaye..

Asha will be different here. She showed me a jhalak of that today and will be doing what I said Bijoy shud do.

Different approach for both parents. Goal is one..Sona shud b happy.

PS: Bijoy is a good father to "Sona" not "for Sona". Bijoy is not a good father "to and for saurabh"
*Thank you English..u sometimes make it easy to explain.*

I agree with you. He agreed to his daughter's happiness and didn't accepted Dev. He is scared that dev might hurt sona again, but whatever he is doing right now is not justified. Instead of taunting and screaming he should talk to her daughter. If Ishwari kills silently, he stabs right in the heart. And all that our culture is the best rant is nonsense. If he cannot respect other's culture then why is he expecting Ishwari to do the same?

I agree with a lot u say. However, his distrust in Ishwari and lack of confidence in Dev's ability to protect or stand up for his daughter is not unfounded. He is voicing right concerns cause he knows his daughter. He doesnt want her to become a diff person which happens to a lot of girls after marraige. At least he is open about his feelings for dev unlike ishwari who is meethi churi!

Originally posted by: cscs

I agree with you. He agreed to his daughter's happiness and didn't accepted Dev. He is scared that dev might hurt sona again, but whatever he is doing right now is not justified. Instead of taunting and screaming he should talk to her daughter. If Ishwari kills silently, he stabs right in the heart. And all that our culture is the best rant is nonsense. If he cannot respect other'sculturethen why is he expecting Ishwari to do the same?

I cannot expect him to be as sensible as Asha as they both have contrasting nature. Asha understand Saurav and Sona completely. But Bijoy is different. his ocncerns may be valid but his way is not.

Ps- take care of your health, you are getting sick again and again.

U just gave an extension to my post. And Words are bang on!! Valid concerns bt way is not ...jst so apt.
Achha soch raha hai to achha ban bhi to ..hai bheii 😆

Puchhiii lele aaj to tu 😳...durr se lekin..beemar ni karugi 😳 😆 😉

PS: yes i will..thank you. Dengue hua tha ..taking time to recover fully...

Originally posted by: vibg

I agree with a lot u say. However, his distrust in Ishwari and lack of confidence in Dev's ability to protect or stand up for his daughter is not unfounded. He is voicing right concerns cause he knows his daughter. He doesnt want her to become a diff person which happens to a lot of girls after marraige. At least he is open about his feelings for dev unlike ishwari who is meethi churi!

See yaar..there is something called as present which is most important. I am not saying forget wat past showed or taught u bt if he really had so much issue den he shud hv really got adamant on Sona marrying Dev and not let her get married. But now that she is married, some changes are required and good. He needs to move wid time and see that situation has changed now. His lack of confidence wont do now. He shud hv got that confidence before marriage coz now its time to build that condifence (infsct shud have been increase by now) and not question it.

And as for that he dsnt want her to become different person I already mentioned in my post. He's actually making her dat. Read..


He is open abt his feelings bt there is a way to portray those feelings..
Sorry he's not way better than Ishu.
Ishu ko to pata bhi nahi wo kya kar rahi hai...her thoughts are like causing paralysis where brain dsnt knw abt it.
Bt Bijoy certainly does knw.

Agree completely diksha baby

agree wid u diksha
although bijoy's concern n doubts r valid but he needs to tone down a bit

take care of ueself ..get well soon

Originally posted by: dikshat

See yaar..there is something called as present which is most important. I am not saying forget wat past showed or taught u bt if he really had so much issue den he shud hv really got adamant on Sona marrying Dev and not let her get married. But now that she is married, some changes are required and good. He needs to move wid time and see that situation has changed now. His lack of confidence wont do now. He shud hv got that confidence before marriage coz now its time to build that condifence (infsct shud have been increase by now) and not question it.

And as for that he dsnt want her to become different person I already mentioned in my post. He's actually making her dat. Read..


He is open abt his feelings bt there is a way to portray those feelings..
Sorry he's not way better than Ishu.
Ishu ko to pata bhi nahi wo kya kar rahi hai...her thoughts are like causing paralysis where brain dsnt knw abt it.
Bt Bijoy certainly does knw.

I agree with u. But he never got a chance to xpt situation. As for Ishwari, she knows very well what she is doing and why she is doing. If she didnt.. she wouldnt treat sona different in feont of Dev and behind Dev. Bijoy has raised his daughter differently and he is watching her completely doing a 360. He watched her ruah into marrying dev too which he tried to stop too.

sometimes i think if asha is not there and he would have to raise sona and sourab alone.then his relation with sona would have same like ishwari and Dev. he would have attached to sona like ishwari attached to Dev and iam sure he would have completely ignore sourab just like ishwari ignored her other children. ishwari and bijoy is same but bijoy have asha to balance him where ishwari have no one to balance her.