Any kind of body shaming is wrong --- but people will be people ---
it's hard to make anyone understand how one feels unless they are in their shoes---- so such discussion only bring out diplomatic answers from most --- rarely we'll get to see someone being honest about it ---!!!!
Isn't it so easy to find others commenting on an overweight or obese person --- one look at a big person & things like *go hit the gym* or *go easy on food* or *stop being lazy* ---- etc start pouring out --- there are many who'll see someone big & end up with such expressions --- it's very easy to be judgemental ---- I am sure a lot of us have done so --- but who's to say the person isn't doing it already --? How do we know the person isn't lazy or goes to gym regularly & eats healthy yet doesn't have a desirable body --- who's to say the person may be having hormonal issue or even psychological like eating disorders ---- & the most that piss me off is when some say "we say it b/c we care & want so & so to be healthy" --- lolll --- as if the person who is already obese or overweight doesn't know what is right or wrong or they are stealing from ur plate ---- I know this b/c my BFF still continues to hear such things --- & funny enough not many know she suffers from *lymphadema* --- & even more irony is a common friend of ours would poke her consistently --- she would comment on her food when we would be at restaurants or any food place-- she would poke how our friend shouldn't consume such food or drinks --- as if she has no right to even take a break from her daily routine --- Such habits of friends & even family can be irritating --- !!!!
most overweight people are already extremely harsh on themselves --- ( I have myself gone through it all in my teens --- plus relatives are the biggest pain in the ass 🥱) --- so really don't see the need for sly comments or even comments on food or gym to make it worse for them --- Many make it seem they care so they say so --- But I say No, if u care just support ur friend or relative & give them the space than wasting ur hollow advice for them--- people are adults --- they know what is best for them --- !!
Edited by UntamableSpirit - 8 years ago
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