--Amulya-- thumbnail
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Posted: 9 years ago
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I'm about to share a small story of mine... I being a girl in the men's world (martial arts) had more than 50 guys around me throughout all my life... All my BFF's are guyzz and I've been accused many times in having a relation with them which is not actually the reality as those guyzz never considered me a girl, we were everything else but not a man-woman...

I'm lucky to have really good parents who encouraged me in everything I dreamt about... I used to ignore every comment people used to pass on me as I didn't feel the need to explain myself to every outsider... Until one fine day my maternal aunt started putting questions across... I didn't expect a family member to interrogate me and I was hella shocked at that moment... But I recovered myself in a few minutes and answered back that it's my life and I will live it only the way I want... I know I might have sounded harsh and disrespectful at that moment but there was never another question from any other family member... I felt sorry and explained it all to my mom and she understood me...

I really don't know whether I was really brave at that moment or did I just put a brave act across but I felt really humiliated when I was asked such a question by a dearest family member... I also know that some girls may not be able to handle such a situation unlike me and put themselves in a hollow shell of depression... It's highly disregarding that sometimes even the closest family members fail to understand us let alone the whole society...

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Posted: 9 years ago
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I understand your frustration.
Our so-called polite society! Why is it such a suspicious thing if a girl has guys as her friends?🤢 No matter what you say, they don't believe you. Even if they believe you, you still feel awkward and humiliated that they ask you the question in the first place.

Thank God for good parents. I too have understanding parents. But again, my other relatives are not so liberal. They question me about my guy friends too. At first it was so awkward. It's like if you have guys as friends, one of them is bound to be your boyfriend. It's frustrating.

I don't have a boyfriend. But now, when they ask me if I have a boyfriend, I just tell them : "Many" and change the topic. Effectively shutting them up.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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This happens Amulya, even i experienced the same .
From school I have many friends..when I joined +1 I used to hangout most with my male friends.MY parents never said anything as they know about me & my friends .
But to my utter shock , one of my bestie who is a Gal talked shit about me & my best friend.I answered her strongly but I didn't come over that for many days...it just depresses to very deep ..and once I had same with one of my relative too..she too pointed out me for every male friends ...
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Well done.. Sometimes back answering timely saves from lot of headache!

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