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Today's episode showed the difference of motherhood...
If he was as good looking as Sona, well, Dev won't look as much of a hero beside him.
Mothers are mostly the primary caregivers of their children.
And thus, a strong, independent woman raises strong, independent children and a weak, needy woman raises weak, needy children.
Take Ishwari. She raised her kids on her own. You'd think that would make her a strong woman and thus she will have strong, independent children.
Now there is Sona's mother who had full support of a loving family in raising her children while being a full time mother. Technically her children should have been more needy and dependent on her.
But what a difference in parenting makes... Great parenting can overcome any circumstances.
A parents' primary objective is to make their kids independent. Because every one knows that no one lives forever.
We all need our parents' support and guidance in life and we want them to be there. But if we need them like crutches to lean on and they need us like crutches, then that's a failed parenting. Even a bird pushes her chick off her nest so that he can learn to fly on his own. That's how nature works.
Ishwari raised all her kids, but she fulfills her needy nature through Dev and he reinforces that behaviour by touching her feet every day before going to work (seriously, who does that? What would he do when he has a kid and he needs to go take an exam? Tell the kid, wait. I gotta touch my mother's feet first?), calling her more often than even a newly married couple call each other and basically creating a little cosy nest where everyone including his sisters are outsiders which Neha notices being a smart girl.
If he even starts giving more time to his Mama or starts touching his Mami's feet as well in the morning, Ishwari would turn on them as well. Mark my words. Remember how she reacted on Mama's comment that Dev might have said something about Sona to him, but didn't tell her?
Now take another example of motherhood - Asha. Compared to Ishwari, she had a cushy life. But her quiet strength is respected and understood in her house.
She has a mother in law but both understands each other's space. Her mother-in-law treats her like a daughter and in return found a best-friend and partner in mischief. She in return treats her mother-in-law like her mother and found an ally and a mother figure in her husband's home.
Asha is not demeaned or treated like a second class citizen, an after thought. This is what made Saurabh a sensitive, independent and respectful man who is not only supportive but loyal and extremely lovable.
He won't do anything less for his family than Dev did except he won't dump the woman he loves for his mom. Does it mean he loves his mother less? No. That means he respects women more.
If he was as good looking as Sona, well, Dev won't look as much of a hero beside him.
Asha's gentle strength also produced a gem like Sona. She is strong, brave, honest and lives life on her own terms. What a woman!!!
They say if you want to know a woman look at her mother. She has inherited her mother's gentle strength, calm in storm attitude. She is not her mother's extra limb or an extension to her life. She is her mother's pride, her triumph of motherhood and a pat on her back for a job well done...
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