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Posted: 9 years ago
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It's the purest and the most highly regarded emotion throughout the world. The mother looks after every need of the child while growing up and watches proudly when the child starts flourishing.
Dev and Ishwari share a unique but strong bond. A lot of flashbacks have been provided to give an insight into their relationship. They are emotionally dependent on each other and their circumstances have been anything but favorable. But that changed for the good when Dev started doing well and he started taking care of his family. Yes, the scars are there but everybody is working on them. Everybody except Ishwari.

Ishwari is stuck in a place from where she doesn't want to move on. Her son is her world and she want him for herself forever. In normal circumstances, a mother insists on looking for a bride for a son or asks him to look for one himself. She teases him about prospective brides and pesters him to tell if he is seeing anyone. Ishwari doesn't do any of these things. The very concept of a new entity in Dev's life raises her anxiety.

A mother doesn't sit and mope that her kid doesn't relish the food cooked by her anymore. She knows that children change with age and she moves with the changes. Ishwari sulks and broods for the smallest of changes like her Dev forgetting her medicine.

A mother notices the change in their child's behavior when they fall in love. They are happy for their children and they take great joy in the fact that their kids have found someone for themselves. Ishwari is too lost in her selfish love for her son to notice that he has fallen in love. Her son who was immune to change is sporting a constant smile always and she still has no clue.

Being proud of the relationship that she shares with her son is good. But being arrogant and declaring that her son will first come to her as soon as he likes a girl is ignorance.

The show that is so realistic is not portraying a mother well. This is not how a mother behaves. Especially when the son is like Dev.

Sorry for the long post but Ishwari is turning into a clingy, morose, mopey and over attached mother and it is too much to watch


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Posted: 9 years ago
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Nice analysis.
Yes there comes a certain point in parent child relationship, where the child - grown up adult will not share everything with his/her parents, no matter how close the relationship is between them.

Somethings are private , especially when it comes to matters of heeart. You dont go and tell your parent immediately when you are seeing someone until the relationship is stable. Then you seek the blessings of your parent.

Finally Dev is a grown up man. Iswari should know that Dev does not need to seek her permission to fall in love.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Similar thoughts!

But the whole idea or storyline of the show is based on an highly possessive, obsessive mother (If you can call her mother) and how the story progresses from it. So what we are seeing is the beginning, more terrible things are ahead yet to see. Rarer but perhaps these kinds of people do exists.

Yes I too dislike Ishwari Character, she makes me sick.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Lovely analysis... 👏

But i have to slightly disagree that no mother can be like Ishwari when you have a son like Dev... Mothers are not expected to be so... but in this case she is...

i have detailed in my analysis today... Do have a read...

"MAA...insaan hi hai...bhagwaan nahi..."


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Posted: 9 years ago
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Wish our mothers would be like you say. Maybe you have not met with such moms.
Unfortunately I have a mother like Ishwari and it is quite common in mothers I noticed in India.

Let us hope the CVs show a good transition in her character as the story progresses.
Looking forward to it.

Good post.👏
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: fj2780

Wish our mothers would be like you say. Maybe you have not met with such moms.

Unfortunately I have a mother like Ishwari and it is quite common in mothers I noticed in India.

Let us hope the CVs show a good transition in her character as the story progresses.
Looking forward to it.

Good post.👏

Some mother's do behave weird or possessive when their son's get married and they become MIL's. But getting obsessive about your unmarried son is beyond craziness, its actually a deep rooted mental issue. Ishwari needs treatment.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Agree with your analysis about Ishwari . we can't say mothers are not like that we do have such mothers around, particularly when they have one son. Ishwari don't want to move on she was so partial to daughters from childhood particularly Neha still I would like to give her benefit of doubt may be with kind of awareness she had, she might have thought only boys can earn so invested in educating only Dev given the circumstances . Neha openly criticises her for this but gosh she doesn't want to move on .why cant she pamper them enough now ? Why can't she cook Neha's favorite food and feed her ? She is getting married and leaving for ever. when she could think of Dev like that why not for Neha.Even on the wedding night isn't it her responsibility to go check her other 2 daughters how they are feeling after their mother figure left.it was Dev who came and ishwari was busy about Dev reporting to her about his love. Now everything is fine they have every thing she should think of daughters and nurture them more, but nah nah .
I seriously don't have any sympathy for Ishwari and I tell you she immediately needs some counseling .
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Lovely analysis 👍🏼
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Posted: 9 years ago
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India is full of such possessive, obsessive moms who want to control their sons in a strong iron hold and feel jealous of any girl in son's life.
They are the same who later become dragon like MILs...spitting fire and hatred against their bahus. Only a few rare saas I have seen in real life who can behave normally with their bahu and treat their son's romantic relationships with respect.
Worse is yet to come for Sona...when Ishwari comes to know abt Dev-Sona love, she will show her real bad side. I think she will emotionally blackmail Dev into breaking off with Sona. Isnt that what they showed in the first promos before the show started?
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Trust me mothers like Ishwari do exist. Not only in India, but in every part of the world. The show is very realistic, they are trying to bring out the distinguishing characteristics of human being in a subtle way. There is no unnecessary sensational drama, yet it's still very gripping. Coming back to the mother-son relationship I was also finding it very difficult to figure out why a mother would lack empathy of her son's feeling and be selfish? Why is she so self-centered and a big manipulator? Why does she gets hurt easily for no reason and carry hard feelings? Why does she gets envious when any girl comes in her son's life? Like usual I started Googling and found lots of information in the Google world. The more I read about it, the more it was hard for me to believe that they are your very own parents- it was heartbreaking to think that it can be your own mom and dad and they are called "Narcissistic Parent". These type of parents like Ishwari can go down to any level to fulfill their wishes in their own way. Their feelings, wants and needs are very important and their own problems need immediate attention. They make you their emotional caregiver, and any small error from you can create enormous outrage. They always have to be the center of attention, like how Ishwari gets mad whenever she realize there is some personal relationship developing between Dev and Sona. We have heard her saying several times that Dev can never do anything wrong. He is not allowed to think about his own needs and choices. He is never allowed to have bad feelings or problems and he cannot share it with her. Only she thinks he does but we have never witness him sharing any personal problems with her. Even if he does try, she is not willing to listen to him, and diverts the topic back to her own issues. Only she can share her problems and bad feelings to him and he is always there to make it right for her. Ishwari will definitely move forward with her blame game, emotional blackmail and will attempt to convince guilt complex in Dev. Very sad😭 poor Sona will be the one to suffer the most without any fault of her.
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