Today Sita showed how a queen should be, how a mother should be, how a woman should be when she told she will take heat and asked agni to change its nature to cool for Hanuman.
If you look from Sita's perspective who is Hanuman. If she is a queen he is a sevak, if she is a mother he is her child, if she is a woman he is part of nature who has come to relieve her sorrow.
A person has come for her overcoming so many challenges on his own, a person has fought for the sake of her and today that person is getting punished. If someone do something for you, if someone is following you, if someone is doing their duty out of love towards you if a trouble comes to them Sita shows what you should be doing.
Take the heat on their behalf. Take the stress out of them so that they can do what they are intended to do. With a cool fire behind him, Hanuman goes and destroys the adharmi Lanka.
It is the same in our life. As power comes to us whether in personal or professional as we move up the ladder we need to understand we have to be more responsible not only for us, but also for others. If you are a manager and pressure comes from top you have to ensure you take the maximum heat and support your reportees in completing the task on time. If you pass the heat down you create fear tactics, but if you take heat you create respect and your reportees will go extra mile to complete task for you.
In your relations, if you are elder, if you have power learn not to pass the stress or power on others. Take the troubles coming from outside onto urself and direct others so that the task is completed, family is united.
Burn yourself to use the fire constructively for the destruction of wrong cultures, wrong traditions, wrong priorities. Ram and Sita sets that example. Their burned themselves for the welfare of the others. That's why a Lakshman follows Ram, a Bharath gives away the throne, a Urmila never complains and a Mandavi supports. That's why a Hanuman or Vibhishan comes to them. Ecosystem dont change them. They change the ecosystem.
Allow the fire in you to create constructive things and be the change agent starting from yourself