People don't want to hear the truth because they don't want their illusions destroyed. Just because it's all in your head doesn't make it any less real. Complaining about a problem without posing a solution is nothing but whining. All human unhappiness comes from not facing reality squarely, exactly as it is ( Gautama Buddha ).The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. We are only blind as we want to be... All problems are illusions of the mind.
For those in love with an illusion often refuse to accept reality. Our perspectives and perceptions affect so much of our individual realities. Pleasure may come from illusion but happiness can come only of reality. People don't want to hear the truth because they don't want their illusions destroyed. What we see often is only a fractional part of what it really is. Don't rely on just what you see, instead rely beyond of what you see...because the illusion is always outside and the reality definitely is inside.
We are more frightened than hurt, and we suffer more from imagination than from reality. Our life was just a momentary illusion, and someday reality would yank us back to the world we came from. Life is a balance of holding on and letting go. What we see in an illusion what we don't see is reality.
We all live in glass houses, and no one has clean windows. People are quick to judge others faults, but never quick to point out their own. Never judge someone without knowing the whole story. You may think you understand, but you don't. Don't judge someone just because they sin differently than you. Don't be so judgmental ...do judge your mental before you judge other people. Don't be so quick yo judge, you never know when you might just find yourself walking in that person's shoes. Don't judge someone's choices when you don't understand their reasons.
Chances are there not just to correct mistakes, but to determine worth. When nails grow long, we cut nails not fingers. Similarly when Misunderstanding grow up, cut your ego not your relationship. The worst distance between two people is misunderstanding. The ego hurts you likes this...you become obsessed with the one person who does not love you... Blind to the rest who do. Ego judges and punishes, love forgive and heals. Be careful the ego destroys. Be guided by spirit not led by ego. Ego interrupts intuition. Relationships never die a natural death. They are always murdered by attitude behavior, ego or ignorance.
Ego is your soul's worst enemy. Ego is the only requirement to destroy any relationship...so be a bigger person skip the e and let it go. Starve your ego and feed your soul. The ego is the false self born out of fear and defensiveness. Never try to dominate the one who apologizes for their mistakes. Because they understand, you are more important than their ego.
Life may not be fair but God is always faithful. It is not fair to ask of others what you are not willing to do yourself. Don't allow your wounds to transform you into someone you are not. It's unfair to yourself to keep trying to justify why you're holding on to toxicity. There are lessons in letting go and moving on. The only thing that makes life unfair is the delusion that it should be fair.
You can't spin a thread from a single strand of silk and you can't clap one-handed...It takes two hands to clap. It also takes both sides to build a bridge. It takes only one to burn it. Any relationship requires an equal amount of effort from both people. Effort will release it's reward only after you refuse to quit. If someone seriously wants to be a part of your life, they will seriously make an effort to be in it...no reasons, no excuses. The two things in life you are in total control over are your attitude and your effort. Realize what's real and what's not...who's worth the effort and who's not.
Both Dhani and Kamini have their own illusions about Viplav...the former thinks that Viplav has committed a mistake for marrying her and the later thinks that by removing Dhani she can gain Viplav's love for her. Viplav has apologized to Dhani and is asking her the reason for which she vanished from his life five years ago...her ego doesn't allow her to see the reality ie the genuineness with which he asks her, he still hasn't moved on as he still holds her and only her in his heart.
Viplav cannot read Dhani's mind so they need to have an open conversation to sort out the matter. Her refusal to have a conversation on that matter simply wastes her time as well as Viplav's time. She doesn't want to hear the truth from Viplav as her illusions may be destroyed. She has jumped to conclusions about Viplav without confronting him and asking whether what he has spoken is the truth or not if so what was the reason...be it now or five years back.
She needs to shed her ego aside and tell him the reason which he wants to hear...when she can listen to Km's lies why isn't she willing to give Viplav a chance. She knows pretty well that Km was equally involved in destroying her life they why does she care to listen to her in the first place ? Why give sympathy at all ? Where was all this sympathy when Viplav was pleading her to give him his answers when he clearly wants to resolve the matter ? Why can't she just imagine what he must have gone through all those five years living with just her memories ... When someone like Parshiya who knows nothing about Viplav can understand Viplav's plight why can't Dhani give him some consideration?
It takes two hands to clap similarly it takes two to build a bridge ...It just doesn't rely upon Viplav to make the relationship stronger, it equally involves Dhani's contribution as well. When Viplav is trying to make an effort to correct what went wrong she needs to consider this and she must realize to who is worth listening to is it Viplav or Kamini ? And who is putting genuine efforts to be a part of her life.
Do share your views.đ
This TOTD is the combination of the past three episodes. So sorry for the delay, was busy with work. I dedicate this song to Viplav which depicts his eternal love for Dhani.
[YOUTUBE]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jIDU26nzbIA[/YOUTUBE]
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Kyunki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi 2
