Indian city boys- Would you marry a village lady?

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Posted: 9 years ago
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My question is for guys who grew up in Delhi or Mumbai (or even in western countries). You know, guys who enjoy western music and tv shows. Would you marry a lady from a village?
Lifestyle can be very different as village women are more simple, lack good hygiene, may be illiterate, fashion sense can be different. But they definitely are more hard working and kind. Would you city boys be comfortable marrying one?

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Posted: 9 years ago
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if are from a city and you need to have a life-style which goes with it - then avoid a village girl. if you want a wife to be blending in to the family and all that goes with it.. village girl should be preferred.. it all depends on what you expect and what is your family life-style!
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Posted: 9 years ago
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What the person looks for in his future wife is important. i guess village girl is the one who is brought up in the village. She could not have got higher education and definitely not the professional education as professional colleges are mostly in cities only. Suppose a woman is brought up in village and then has studied engineering in a college which is in city and she was put up in hostel is she village girl or city girl?

Let's accept we have a village girl who was there only in the village and didn't have higher education. Definitely she is homely, hard working, adjusting and honest. But once in the city, she could feel like a fish out of water and this is quite possible missing the quiet and leisurely life of the village and living with a totally new set of adults who may not be totally sensitive to her feelings. This is the reason, they tell marriage has to have the boy and the girl who are of the same social status.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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My grandparents are staying in a village and I visit them once in 2-3 years. I see the village gals going to schools and colleges, getting educated and even going to the cities to do a job and earn money. Gone are the days when the village gals used to be unsmart, illiterate.I have seen lot of gals wearing tops and jeans and going out.Of course there are some gals who get married early and remain housewives but they too are smart and educated.
This is what I see when I go to my grandparents village.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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its weird that many posters here equate a village girl with unsmart, illiterate and unintelligent!! Not sure where that comes from. I think this needs to be sorted out before going into the other discussion. Village girls, with or without education are smart and have lot more practical intelligence than their city counterparts...Education doesn't make one smart.. it just makes them well informed.. how they use that information is part of their smartness. All that the village girls lack is their ability to be in step with where the world is going, knowing how to be western or those norms/etiquettes commonly used in city interactions. Now can these be acquired through learning?. I dont thinks so... it takes time .thats where rustic outlook to life loses to an urban upbringing. Nothing will stop a village girl, for eg.. from listening to music by Lady Gaga or flo rida. but she may not like that music... its the way she was brought up...
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Wat kind of question is dis? Almost all my relatives r 4m UP village. But I live wid my family near Mumbai. My father studied in hindi medium but later came to Mumbai n got a good job after passing some competitive exams which was very hard during 80s. My parents came to city for their childrens sake as city life is better. They enrolled us in english medium schools. Earlier, my parents were very conservative abt my clothes not even liking me to wear sleeveless tops but now I wear even shorts n spaghetti tops. Same way, not all village girls r illiterate n stupid. If properly educated then they will also bcum very modern n more intelligent. But lemme burst ur bubbles abt village girls if u think all r nice n simple. In villages too, there r bad n evil girls who does many wrong things like bitching abt anyone or harassing someone. My parents know some women like dat n they tell me sumtyms. They always say me dat its good dat u all r here not in village. If women in city r bashed for drinking n smoking cigarettes then village girls r not less. They always eat gutkas, paans n smoke beedis. Both my set of gradparents do dat n even some of our maternal uncle n aunts. I ask my parents how come they never felt d urge to try paan n beedi n they did not let us do it. They reply dat they will not do sumthn which is wrong n will not let us do d same. So, in a way we r better than our village relatives. Cumn to d topic, if a city guy marries a village for his own reasons so dat she respects his family n takes care of d house, it will be selfish of him as he can marry a maid then. Dat woman as one of d commenter said will surely feel like a fish out of d water.

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