You are the best sister, she is the bahu of this house - Page 2

Originally posted by: sp108

Nice post Shruthi!

But I was fuming at everyone in the Sinha family (barring Simmi) as well as on Swadheenta's parents.

Yes, the Sinha family is dealing with the loss of a loved one and that too in such a brutal fashion. But did even one of them, or at least Adarsh, put himself in Swadheenta's shoes? Forget Adarsh, did even Swadheenta's mother put herself in her daughter's place? Did Jaya even think twice before unceremoniously calling the brother-sister relationship as non-existent, put herself in Swadheenta's place? Doesn't everybody know about Asad's importance in Swadheenta's life? Were they not witness to the beautiful speech that Swadheenta gave after her wedding about Asad?

It is unfair for everybody to expect Swadheenta to forget the Gilani's and mourn for Abhay (not that she is not mourning his loss). And the poor girl can only mourn for her dead soul-brother in solitude, where nobody would hear her mourns. I wish Swadheenta's mom had shown a modicum of sensitivity and maturity. I wish she had given her a shoulder to cry on, to mourn for Asad. A girl can't build and sustain new relations without the support of the existing ones. Relationships are built in the heart, they are not easy to discard. Can't someone in her circle understand that much at least?

My heart goes out to Swadheenta, more so because everybody will understand Simi's grief, but no one will even bother to understand what is Swadheenta's situation. If each of the members of the Sinha family had put themselves in Swadheenta's place, they would have understood the amount of pain she is in. I just wish people around her could see her pain. Even if they believe that Asad is a terrorist, what stops them from sympathising with Swadheenta? Shouldn't they at least empathise with her because she has been faced with this cruel truth that her brother is a terrorist? All I see is everybody asking her to forget - as if forgetting is such a simple thing. And is it not shocking to find out that your brother is a terrorist? Wouldn't that be heart-breaking and traumatic to deal with? Can Adarsh not see it from that perspective at least, that his wife is in a kind of traumatic shock? I didn't see anyone lend a shoulder to her, no one.

I am not too sure if anybody will support her. As I see it, she might have a long lonely battle ahead. And I hope I am proven wrong.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@pom we need to know that Jaya is a traditional girl and knows the decorums that needs to be kept as bahu irrespective of personal turmoil. And to give credit to her she has kept the decorum perfectly as the happily married woman in public.

If you see Jaya closely, she does close the door and talk to Swa. And she expects her to maintain the decorum. She has to be there. Else tongues will wage. Where is the new bahu. And it will hurt swa only.

Though the words she spoke was harsh, I would say she did the right duty as the eldest bahu. She protected Swa's honor as she didnt tell anything else to anyone else. Jaya will guide Swa through the mess. And Swa needs one.

Yes Mano Asad did tell she will be best DIL also. And thanks you found relief in my post. But for the show no relief is in sight, tonight it is going to be more intense.