Pity on Raman!! - Page 4

Strictly speaking about the role of men regardless of the track, Indian TV has a crap place for men for the most part

They can be...

Jerks to be changed by FL
Doormats to be run over by the FL
Romancing items to romance and praise the FL

But in every major show - especially SP, the ML needs a woman to make him a better father, son, etc.

The very nature of soaps has an inherent bias against men bc by showing crap men they show mahan, near perfect, self-sacrificing women. So it pseduo-empowers (aka is regressive) about women at the expense of any integrity men.

Here whether it is to elevate the FL, Female vamp, or whomever...what it does is shift the emotional power to the battle and struggles of the women bc men are show as unable to handle situations.

So that's why this is shown & had made YHM #1 bc they did it much more obviously this time but this dynamic of men and women has played out since Sautan Sagas.

Even here people are watching to see jerk Raman suffer and learn his lesson. Thanks to the lines they give him, all of his legitimate emotions go to a largely unempathetic audience

It's people watching for IshRa who are left hanging bc they will NEVER show IshRa equally contributing to their relationship as Ishita will be percieved as ALWAYS doing more for Raman

So this dynamic is no where new to soaps - it's just harsher than seen in other soaps bc they are purposely withholding his full POV and decided to go OTT with the dialogs to where "he doesn't matter" to viewers

it's beauty vs beast in preleap n post leap also,before shagun left raman became stone hearted n ishita came n it's like wat happened btwn ishra is ishita bought raman back n post leap same raman pushed away ishita n she left n he became more stone hearted n history repeating nothing new 🥱 before raman was victim of infidelity now it's almost his self made after losing ruhi,he is responsible for his actions,he has his share of his mistakes n can't take his responsibility also n can understand his emotions but it's all his self made n doing silly bakwas emosanal atyachar n actually feel pity for d ppl around raman ,bhalla family n kids n society wale n me like poor viewers lol.

Raman has indeed been turned into a full fledged monster...

Originally posted by: kras

Lekin aaj mujhe laga tha ki shayad sabko raman ka dard samajh aaya hoga but aisa kuch nahi hua

Ishita ko pihu se mile hue 2 din hue h

Lekin she was crying today because pihu chose shagun and raman over her

And everyone felt her pain

Just because she was crying

But raman ka kya

Adi ne ishita ki khatir use jail pahuncha diya

Pihu jiske sahare wo 7 saal se jee raha h

Us pihu ko usse chenne ki baat ki gayi

Kya use takleef nahi hoti

Kya uska dil nahi tadapta

I don't know kyu humein sirf maa ka dard najar aata h

Kyu hum pita ki takleef ko andekha kar dete h

Ishita and raman dono ke dilo mein dard h

Bas use dikhane ka tareeka alag h

Ishita use rokar nikalti h

Kyunki wo apna dard baant sakti h

Mani bala apni sisters ke saath

But raman ne aaj tak sirf ishita ke saath apna dard banta h

And today he has none

According to him ishita betrayed him

Jo ki kahi na kahi sahi bhi h

Ishita was alive

But wo sabse dur rahi

Usne itna bada jhooth bola

Wo apni 1 din ki bacchi ko chod kar gayi

And raman is living in this pain

Wo apna dard rokar nahi nikalta

Gusse mein nikalta h

To sabko lagta h ki wo janwar h

Ishita ko deserve nahi karta

But reality is both have same pain

Jaise ishita ko takleef hoti h raman and shagun ko dekhkar

Waise hi raman ko takleef hoti h mani and ishita ko dekhkar

Jaise ishita ko dard hota h jab pihu uski jagah shagun and raman ko chunti h

Waise hi raman ko dard hota h jab adi ishita ke liye use nuksaan pahunchata h

Fark sirf itna h ishita ke paas Rone ke liye kandha h raman ke pass nahi h

Totally agree with you
Nice post
both are in pain but For Showing ishita's pain they Are making raman villian but I can see his pain .
I can see Pain Of both of them .
As always just for gaining sympathy for ishita , For ishimaa they sidelined the feelings of a father .
I don't know When will they give raman pov bcoz this is much needed now .

Originally posted by: mayasundar

Hi Aani,

I disagree with your point.

I don't have an ounce of pity on Raman. Raman pain does not affect me because for the sole reason he called her baanj.

I don't care for other words as couples usually in a fight say you are unlucky, bad omen, manhoos what not so I would have taken that it was his anger and hurt but calling her baanj which she has no control over and which is her biggest weakness is so cruel and inhumane.

so for me at least when you make use of a person disability( no matter it is through physical appearance or like infertile) to bring them down then you cease to exist as a human being for me.

it's SP. Sass-bahu slot. Where Bahu has to be a victor. It was never meant to be about IshRa.

Originally posted by: ishrafan_us

@maya - this is not Aani yaar. I wanted to let yo know. She uses new id: queserasera.

Agreed. CV put Raman in villian role completely now specially by giving him worst dialogue like " banj " .
I am having problem with dialogue writer of YHM since YHM 1.0 -cheap dialogue after Ishita , mihika molestation .


I don't know this Raman Kumar Bhalla and this IShita as well .
For me Raavan Kumar Bhalla was , is , will always be my favourite character .

Really disappointed with Raman at this point! I mean first he divorced Shagun and married Ishita, and now he is marrying Shagun again and hurting Ishita just because of his ego! If Raman was going to marry Shagun again anyway, then why did he marry Ishita in the first place ruining her life!

CV's have big time succeeded in portraying the ML as the villainous beast, they are so TRP hungry and egoistic that they forgot what was this show about. For me YHM has become a complete masala production. I curse myself for getting so attached to the characters and actors that its hard to ignore. But really bhaad am jaoo CV's , I never used curse words for CV's before but i feel that they money minded people and have no creative sense left in them . Itnay ugly dialogues given to Raman that really it hurts to hear them, and KP make it more hateful with his intense acting that one really want to slap the idiot. I agree with charminggene and other members who pointed out that to make the FL as the most sacrificing mother , daughter , wife , ever in the world. The only difference is YHM has got the cream of the TV industry ( minus some side characters and 2 main ones too, both dadies fail to act or show right kind of emotions when needed the most, I would give the young actors more points then them)