Nanaji's house, sleeper cell and Jai the trump card - Page 2

@shru i forgot to add this ... so sharing this last big point..

All relationships have a power dynamic, and it's usually clear who has the reins. When you have control, it's difficult to imagine it ever being any other way. Whether you're conscious of it or not, your ego inflates, and it seems almost instinctual to see how much you can get away with. Stupidly, you don't expect your partner could ever turn the tables on you. In some relationships, the power dynamic is more subtle, a constant ebb and flow of leverage. In others, the scales are not so even.

We all know the deal. Too often we want what we can't have, and we find people who are too available unattractive. Human psychology is embarrassingly simple that way. And as we get older and enter into more relationships, these tendencies become increasingly transparent, and thus easier to manipulate. And as childish as it may sound, we all still play these games"well into adulthood

Our romantic side hopes that relationships will never be about who holds the power, but the truth is the struggle to maintain a balance is always there, and no relationship is truly equal. Feeling like our partner holds more control or the "upper hand," whether or not it's accurate will often lead to the demise of a couple. Relationships are about comfort, trust, and feeling like you are putting in as much as you are getting back - and if either of you feel otherwise, then maybe it's time to regain the power in your relationship.

Why suha has a upper hand in her relationship with manohar and their kids

The most important thing in any relationship is confidence. If you have confidence and believe in yourself, then you don't need to play games. If the person isn't into you, then you should be confident and strong enough to walk away. "A confident woman is very powerful to a man, and one a man wants. So the more confident you are, the more power you can have in a relationship.. though suha has confidence but she lacks it too otherwise there is no need to play dirty games in front of her sons..

Manohar never speaks up .. he behaves like a doormat. If your partner upsets you or you feel as though you're being taken advantage of, it's imperative to make your feelings known. "It must be done in a non-whiny way. Use a strong voice, without screaming or yelling, and be firm as to what behavior you will not accept..

Manohar never uses assertive language (which doesn't mean aggressive or defensive)
"I want, I need, I desire, I can't, I won't ... is a good way to start,". Then he can be very clear about his demands and expectations. he can Make them realistic and fair. But expect to be treated fairly in return...

Manohar has to be independent. If you want your wife to treat you and respect you, be your own person ..Have your own hobbies, go out with your own friends, do your own stuff. Show that you're comfortable in your own skin and doing your own things. Don't ever appear needy, as that's a huge turn-off.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

Thanks Gayatri. Even I say the same for woman who keeps on donning in sati savitri roles and does nothing to have their identity.

There is a beautiful thing Sita tells in Siya Ke Ram about marriage. Together yet independent. Yes in a marriage there is a lot of give and take. But at the same time both partners should strive to have independent identity. They should have independent hobbies, friend circle, activities that enriches them as an individual and should give each other the space for that.

Though it is important in marriage to have such a thing, but it is important in every relation. Successful people don't control relations, but manage relations. In relations where there is control fear is the driving factor and one day it will break. In managing the direction you enable and give independent choices. Individual sets the boundary for his or her actions.