It's a woman's decision Sita

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Don't think that since I am a feminist I took this dialogue. I took it because of the way Cvs presented a woman is capable of taking decision of her own with clarity. It doesn't stop with sita, it includes Urmila too.and it represented every woman who is berated both at her home and in professional space incapable of taking decision and is asked to listen to the man.before coming to sita let us look at Urmila. Lakshman is unable to tell her his decision and she tells him his decision and her support in his decision. She says I have given you word and I know my duty.he says he has failed to give her happiness and she says she is proud of the man who will be hailed as the model brother in any time. There was no melodrama. We saw Urmila 's understanding, love and freewill in that decision of letting her husband go in his karmapadh.now sita.Look at the way she answered questions.first maryada.She takes tharamati's example who accompanied harischandra.kausalya and co silent. Sumantra asks about janaka.She says janaka will not ask and whatever she is doing is as per his teaching.if he asks tell it is sita's decision. He will understand. Now come vashistha asking her basis of decisions. And she gives the master stroke.just like the fact she is a woman cannot change, so is her decision. She owns the decision and willing to bear the consequences of same.Sita today asked woman to own their decision. Many tough things will happen. But that should not under mine her from taking decisions for herself. Suffering for the decision you took us much better than suffering for someone 's decisions.this decision bought many hardships in Sita life. But she bore it with dignity till the end
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Shruthi kind of wrote my own based on this.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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beautiful post
totally agree...
Woman is strong ...her strength is her emotion ..coming from her heart her soul...
Urmila shown by her sacrifice her duty
Siya shown by her duty n following uncertainty
both will face hardship but both didn't back out..they r strong..Epitome of Strong Woman..n they have taken their decision...
Lakshman hesitate but Urmila helps him for his duty...
Ram don't want Siya to face hardship but Siya choose it as her hevean is with her husband..she has taken decision by herself ..
its right someone else will take n suffering than better took it n face it with Dignity...
indeed Siya held her head high till end n face her decision...
as I felt Siya Urmila they r strongest women of that Era...n has lots to learn from them...
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Posted: 9 years ago
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@jayashree will read your post. Rakhi yes a woman's strength is her emotions, her empathy.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Beautiful post Shruthi. I literally had goosebumps hearing Sita's dialogue today. Today was Madirakshy's day.
She was so sure of her decision n she said it with confidence. The alternative was not acceptable to her. The women in our epics are so much stronger than our modern versions. Be it Sita or Urmila they take decisions based on the circumstances n abide by their decisions. No turning back n no regrets.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Shruthi, I am unabashedly a feminist...I just don't agree with the commonly prevalent concept and the modern connotation ascribed to it. Sita with her strong conviction, Urmila with her understanding and sacrifice, Mandavi with her 'fire' and Shutkirti with her gentleness, embody all the qualities of a woman. All these qualities are incomplete without courage and steadfastness ,and this also they had in abundance. Yesterday it was Mandavi ,today it was Sita and Urmila who took the center stage with the clarity of their convictions. Mandavi's decision to speak with Kaikeyi was based on her instinctive understanding of her husband, Urmila did the same by letting him go, and Sita by standing firm by her husband even when he did not want her to do so. Then there is the other end of spectrum with Mandodri with her wrong interpretation of a wife's duties,Ravan's mother with her extreme ambitions for her son and Shoorpanaka with her blind trust on her husband's love for her. Somehow our modern society's interpretation of a woman seems to lean towards this side of a spectrum, doesn't it?
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Agree with you Shruthi...here women chose the duty...and made the decision on it...doesn't,t matter how hard is the path...that's where the free will came into account...
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: avalonhigh1234

Shruthi, I am unabashedly a feminist...I just don't agree with the commonly prevalent concept and the modern connotation ascribed to it. Sita with her strong conviction, Urmila with her understanding and sacrifice, Mandavi with her 'fire' and Shutkirti with her gentleness, embody all the qualities of a woman. All these qualities are incomplete without courage and steadfastness ,and this also they had in abundance. Yesterday it was Mandavi ,today it was Sita and Urmila who took the center stage with the clarity of their convictions. Mandavi's decision to speak with Kaikeyi was based on her instinctive understanding of her husband, Urmila did the same by letting him go, and Sita by standing firm by her husband even when he did not want her to do so. Then there is the other end of spectrum with Mandodri with her wrong interpretation of a wife's duties,Ravan's mother with her extreme ambitions for her son and Shoorpanaka with her blind trust on her husband's love for her. Somehow our modern society's interpretation of a woman seems to lean towards this side of a spectrum, doesn't it?
Savita


Savita agree with you on Sita and Urmila's intake...they made the decision and were strong women. Mandodari...she accepted Ravan as her husband with free will...but some decisions which she made later on were expected from her or enforced out of her in the name of duty...which she accepted it but was not the free will...hence she ended up making wrong choices...


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Posted: 9 years ago
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@supriya. Mandodri did not marry Ravan of her free will ,according to what they had shown in Skr before. But the choice to get him 'amrit kalash' knowing his character was her choice and her free will.That is why free will like knowledge is incomplete and dangerous without wisdom and righteousness.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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@ Savita...may be it was exactly was not a free will to marry him...I could be wrong in that sense...but she chose the decision to save her parents...in a way she was obliging the putridharm.
But when she was forced to think of the way to save her husband or challenged to prove her Satitva...she was compelled to take action...and ended up making a wrong choice...its just that our viewing is different...😉

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