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This is so true di , I feel lot of positivity when I come to the forum and read posts here , I am able to get various perceptions and ideas .
Its true that the bad people exist in the world but its equally true that if they exist , the good exists too .
And i have seen it , experienced it
And the change shall come ,
I would have complained about people obstructing my path to live with principle but i cannot deny the fact here that there are several like me and when we get together no force can stop me .

About those gender norms thats a big problem u see , and change is slow to come but yes its again coming because society is comprised of people , of me and u if we broaden our mindset then half the work is done .
Shruthi di keep writing

Originally posted by: FAMS

Shruti & DD excellent

Wat a awesome post shruthi 👏

@sugnaya thank you dear for liking it. Let me put one more point. A man with virtuous quality always knows his maryada and will never demand a physical relation with a woman before marriage during courting period. And if he demands, a woman always have the right to say no. And if it comes to emotional blackmailing of " you don't trust me etc etc" understand something is fishy. Because there is no question of trust coming into picture during courting period for physical relation. I have heard girls telling, he asked me, how I can deny blah blah. Have a level head on your shoulders girls is all I can say. If you have physical relation before marriage from a society point of view you are weakened. He can leave you. You can cry, shout and tell he cheated me and all but in the end society will point fingers at you. You will be isolated. But the situation post marriage is different. Even if husband leaves you, you have kids, still society will be sympathetic to you, the kids will not be harassed in the society. Society will be blaming the man in a way. So understand your power. The problem with women is that they don't understand when they have power and men very well know when they have power as far as society goes. To break patriarchy the only way is to understand the rules of the patriarchy society and use the same rules to cut through it.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@sugnaya thank you dear for liking it. Let me put one more point. A man with virtuous quality always knows his maryada and will never demand a physical relation with a woman before marriage during courting period. And if he demands, a woman always have the right to say no. And if it comes to emotional blackmailing of " you don't trust me etc etc" understand something is fishy. Because there is no question of trust coming into picture during courting period for physical relation. I have heard girls telling, he asked me, how I can deny blah blah. Have a level head on your shoulders girls is all I can say. If you have physical relation before marriage from a society point of view you are weakened. He can leave you. You can cry, shout and tell he cheated me and all but in the end society will point fingers at you. You will be isolated. But the situation post marriage is different. Even if husband leaves you, you have kids, still society will be sympathetic to you, the kids will not be harassed in the society. Society will be blaming the man in a way. So understand your power. The problem with women is that they don't understand when they have power and men very well know when they have power as far as society goes. To break patriarchy the only way is to understand the rules of the patriarchy society and use the same rules to cut through it.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@vipraja no one can alone bring change. But we can try. When I write I know there are many young readers who throng my post. If atleast couple of them understand the essence and change their lives, that itself is a big thing. Through them next couple of people will change. It is a chain reaction. Negative spreads fast. But if some effort is put positive also can spread is my take.

I always have the choice of looking into what is not correct in SKR as per the original Ramayan and put my thoughts in the distortion thread. I have another option of finding out if there is something good in the episode and pen my thoughts on the same for wider audience to read. That gives me more inner peace as I share my positive knowledge with others. And for me when I write inner peace is of utmost importance as writing is stress buster for me.

Originally posted by: Suganya.S

Wat a awesome post shruthi 👏

# DayDreamers : You hav given such a wonderful perception of Logic Vs Intitution . I personally hav seen this situation many a times in ma home , and am completely convinced with ur interpretation on this part 👍🏼 Men do really have this habit of Reasoning , without which they dont even react !!!

#shruthi : ur part on courting Period , has made me to think a lot on future cirucumstances Thanks for that especially 😳 And yes , I too love expressing my thoughts in subtle way through my writing for which i m so fond of IF and its members , who have tht interest & maturity to learn from everyone😊

Nice analysis Shruti didi😃