Do you want me to remember your tears or your smile- Sita

For me in growing up years I have seen marriages and during this bidaai the bride and all the relatives crying. Then in TV and movies less said the better. They will even add some sad songs to it. As if some catastrope has happened.

First and the foremost I never believed marriage is a catastrophe and after getting married I am so sure it is not a catastrophe. Yes it is a new beginning for the girl, she is moving away from the familiar surrounding to the new family to set up a new home. And then over a period of time her sasural becomes her home.

When you step out from your home post your wedding you are keeping the first step towards a new journey. Should that journey start with tear or smile. Yes there will be so much confusions in your mind, but still isnt the journey worth a smile.

Now coming to family members. You are elders. When your daughter is going to start a new life shouldnt you be happy. Shouldnt you be the person who should be giving her courage to take up new responsibilities. Doesnt a smile on your face when she steps out wouldnt give her a confidence that you trust her enough to take up new responsibilities.

I am not asking you to laugh loud or make merry of it. But instead of crying too much and making a melodrama of the whole affair cant this bidaai be done in a soft smile. If you try it can.

I had strictly told my mom and aunties that not a single person will shed tears for my bidaai. They will send me away smilingly to the sasural. I had also decided myself that whatever I feel when I step out I am not going to cry, I will smile only.

Yes I was feeling overwhelmed, but I still managed to smile for my bidaai, so did my mom and aunts because I wanted them to smile.

Let the smile be the lasting memory for your daughter and let her smile be the lasting memory for you when you are parting, because it gives strength to understand and build the new relation equations.

But yes, even I don't like too much rona dhona, but thode se aansoon are very natural!

All well but one cannot control mothers... 😆 blame that wordless and unexpressive bond that we have with our mothers and vice versa... It always becomes overwhelming and melodramatic many times...

Like I have seen ladies cry so much on bidaai that it gives an impression of funeral and not bidaai 😆

I mean like ssly... 😕

I don't have a personal experience yet... Let's c what happens on my bidaai... That has a lot of time yet...

A special mention I loved bhargavi( sunaina) and madirakshi

( sita) today... Whatta subtle moment that was... Phenomenal!!!

And nonetheless urmila even in emotional scenes lights up the screen yaar... 😳 am loving this actress more and more...

Bharat-mandvi scene was beautiful.. I mean ssly jaise ko taisa mila hai... Both are quite timid... Mandvi worries on small things.. Same for bharat.. Bharat mandvi take jokes also ssly 😆 and lakshmila make a point to tease them now and then.. That's uber cute 😆😳

Even shatrughna- shruthkirti eyelocks were nice... Simple sweet scene that was...

I don't remember I rejoiced the other 3 couples than siya ram in previous Ramayanas on TV...

I love the screen time given to all... The makers are definitely utilising everyone effectively and I ges that has become the USP of the show...

So urmila is the vidhikarika... Will they show siya-ram marriage first and then others? If this happens, will sita be the vidhikarika from varpaksha? Can happen... But again as there are no promos and precap regarding the other three couples...

Coming to your post Yes indian soaps and movies are know for melodramatic and these kind of crying scenes are expected as they are rooted in Cv's mind to show this things😆...It would be rather surprising if there is not such crying scenes especially at haldi scene or any ceremony...😆For a mother when her daughter is getting married she will definitely be bit emotional and she cant accept of the fact that her daughter will leave her forever...So tears will be ready in her eyes and whenever she sees her daughter it will automatically gets rolled down no matter how much she is trying to control about it...i could never feel and understand this mother's feeling as im a boy😆...For me all this tears thing may sound little childish but i accepted this facility as im used to see this very frequently in my relatives houses when their daughters Bidaai ceremony happens😆...Im lucky enough as i will not experience this kind of rhona dhona scenes in my life😆

Lots of love,

Tarun

Bidaai is something where a bride has mixed feelings she will be happy to start a new journey also will be sad as she have to take leave from her beloved parents. Its natural being emotional on that moment. But not seriously rona dhona and strecthing it soo long. I think today's parents behave a bit matured so as younger generation. I have seen parents act little sad but not literally in tears as they show in movies and in shows too much😡
It is a happy moment in a girls life 😳i don't like anyone spoiling the moment with tears.
The newly wed couple are going to begin a new life and crying on that occasion seems little odd for me😆😆😆

Shruthi it is good to read someone with a similar thought process as me. After witnessing the whole' vidaai 'melodrama in my friends marriages...I requested my parents to send me without crying. My mom got my point because she had also stipulated the same at her marriage{got the info from my grand mother and shamelessly used it}. It is quite a big transition for a girl,it is better for her if she enters the house with strength and determination to make it work for her,and not with the lingering sadness of her separation from her maika!

@tarun you need not have to cry. But if your better half keeps on crying you will get exasperated. 😆😆

@Savitha happy to know you share my thoughts on this