Rani Sunaina's dilemma;sita-rama's next test

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@willina

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Rani sunaina overhears Dashrath firmly stating that Queens are not allowed to attend weddings,as per the traditions of Ayodhya...what will she do? not attend her daughter's wedding?😕

I really do not understand the logic behind this so called custom of not allowing the mother of a son or the mother of a daughter (not)attend their child's wedding, and this custom is still prevalent nowadays.

growing up a child is always more close to his/her mother, and not allowing her to witness the greatest moment in their ward's life is nothing short of a crime.

what will Sita do? since she has been shown to be very vocal about questioning wrong traditions and rituals , and so did Rama, subtly changing the wrong practices carried out with noble intentions.

hopefully they will both stop this wrongful custom together and show an alternative, and bring out a better method of implementing any noble intention that was perhaps the reason behind it all.

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There are a million things that needs to be get done for a wedding to happen, so many rituals and so many customs, we often delegate tasks, aunts,cousins ,extended families, everyone takes part in a wedding, so can the preparations for a bride welcoming ritual be not carried out by some one else, and the mom can leave the venue early or before the couple leaves the wedding venue, and do the final and the ultimate Aarti to welcome the bride in the house?

I m saying this cause in the Bengalis, it's the bride's mum who is not allowed to witness her daughter's wedding, whereas the son's mother does attend it, and she leaves early to welcome the bride in the house.

I just feel it's really unjust that a mother, whether it is the bride's or groom's , be forced to miss out on the celebrations.

I mean no mother would want to follow this ritual willingly. even in Siya ke Ram, Sumtra,Kaushalya and Keikei are not happy about it, they are getting teary eyed but Dashrath is not bothered, he simply walks off in excitement,and Kaushalya looks down dejected at her husband's lack of sensitivity

is a ritual worth it if it brings tears to a mother's eye?

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LiveLoveLaugh5

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Posted: 9 years ago

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I am so glad you made this post. What a weird custom/tradition.

The person who gives birth to you isn't allowed at the wedding 😕, what kind of parampara is this?

I wonder if the other 3 queens will attend the wedding from Ayodhya? I know historically the queens did not attend but I for once am not bothered if they distort this part of the show.

Hoping for some good change here.

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@willina

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Originally posted by: LiveLoveLaugh5
I am so glad you made this post. What a weird custom/tradition.

The person who gives birth to you isn't allowed at the wedding 😕, what kind of parampara is this?

I wonder if the other 3 queens will attend the wedding from Ayodhya? I know historically the queens did not attend but I for once am not bothered if they distort this part of the show.

Hoping for some good change here.

Raja Dashrath has been shown to have already reached Mithila, without his 3 queens, so it will not be possible for them under any circumstances to attend the wedding now.😭

however rani Sunaina overhears Raja dasharath saying to Rajrishi Janak that as per Ayodhya's customs, queens are not supposed to attend the wedding, essentially implying that sita's mom should not attend her daughter's wedding...

This is cruelty, for any mom to not be allowed to be present to witness her daughter's biggest day in life...😭

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Hi everyone from what I know the mum of the groom isn't allowed at the wedding as she is supposed to be home to get everything ready in order to welcome the bride. Even back home this custom is still prevalent but this applies only to the groom.

The bride of course needs both her parents to do the kanyadan so really Sunaina should be there with Sita for the wedding.

That's my thought let's watch what happens.

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@willina

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Originally posted by: Hema48
Hi everyone from what I know the mum of the groom isn't allowed at the wedding as she is supposed to be home to get everything ready in order to welcome the bride. Even back home this custom is still prevalent but this applies only to the groom.
The bride of course needs both her parents to do the kanyadan so really Sunaina should be there with Sita for the wedding.

That's my thought let's watch what happens.

hi Hema!

Thanks for the info...hmmm that sounds reasonable, 😊 but to me does it measure upto missing out on witnessing your son's wedding ? I Mean there are 1000 things that needs to be get done for a wedding to happen, so many rituals and so many customs, we often delegate tasks, aunts,cousins ,extended families, everyone takes part in a wedding, so can the preparations for a bride welcoming ritual be not carried out by some one else, and the mom can leave the venue early or before the couple leaves the wedding venue, and do the final and the ultimate arti to welcome the bride in the house?

I m saying this cause in the Bengalis, it's the bride's mum who is not allowed to witness her daughter's wedding, whereas the son's mother does attend it, and she leaves early to welcome the bride in the house.

I just feel it's really unjust that a mother, whether it is the bride's or groom's , be forced to miss out on the celebrations.

I mean no mother would want to follow this ritual willingly. even in Siya ke Ram, Sumtra,Kaushalya and Keikei are not happy about it, they are getting teary eyed but Dashrath is not bothered, he simply walks off in excitement,and Kaushalya looks down dejected at her husband's lack of sensitivity

is a ritual worth it if it brings tears to a mother's eye?

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Posted: 9 years ago

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bharat shatrugan still not had reached mithila, as they will leave after 2 days. I so hoped queens 2 attend their sons wedding , just imagined suddenly they got 2 know that not one son all four sons got married. I just hoped ram would had send a letter wanting his mothers 2 attend d wedding.

custom is of ayodhya not of mithila, sunaina will definitely attend her daughters marriage.

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Queens (mothers of sons) did not attend weddings in the treta yuga. This was not a ritual that just Ayodhya followed, but all of Aryavrat. SKR wrongly pointed this out as a difference in Ayodhya's customs. If Raja Janak had a son, Sunaina wouldn't have attended the wedding in the princess's kingdom.

The reason behind this custom is that the queens' main role in all the wedding festivities was to welcome the bride on her return home. They would take care of all the arrangements at their own home, and once they welcomed the bride, other post-wedding rituals would follow which they were in charge of.

The role of women in weddings was different. While a princess was still in her natal home, it was the duty of the mother of the bride to oversee all the wedding arrangements, and after the wedding, it was the role of the mother of the groom to take over. This symbolized the transition of a woman from maiden to wife.

Mother of bride was required to be in the wedding, as she and the father both performed kanya daan, but mother of groom has no role in wedding rituals so she was busy preparing for the bride's welcome party back home. This was not something she could delegate to others, as this was her job and it was considered auspicious for mother of groom, who was like Lakshmi of the home, to welcome the new Lakshmi into the family.

Not all rituals are "ridiculous". We may not like them, but they do have a reason and it's important to understand the reason without cribbing and complaining. Of course, today it's different but lifestyle in the Vedic era was very different and we have to understand that.

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Originally posted by: LiveLoveLaugh5
I am so glad you made this post. What a weird custom/tradition.
The person who gives birth to you isn't allowed at the wedding😕, what kind of parampara is this?

I wonder if the other 3 queens will attend the wedding from Ayodhya? I know historically the queens did not attend but I for once am not bothered if they distort this part of the show.

Hoping for some good change here.

This is not a regular soap opera where they will tweak the story to boost trp ..up till very recently .. The grooms Mom did not attend the sons wedding .. And the brides mom was present at the background .. So how can they show all of the quashing this custom 7000 years ago

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Beautiful post dear, too good.🤗 I have been saying this that im shocked,iwth Ayodhya's too rigid restrictions on females, But just you wait, our Sita & Ram will make the change dear, thats why they have highlighted this point which no one bothered to show earlier. I am so glad they are doing this. it is so touching..Love it..#SiyaKeRam

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@willina

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Originally posted by: deepikagupta9
bharat shatrugan still not had reached mithila, as they will leave after 2 days. I so hoped queens 2 attend their sons wedding , just imagined suddenly they got 2 know that not one son all four sons got married. I just hoped ram would had send a letter wanting his mothers 2 attend d wedding.

custom is of ayodhya not of mithila, sunaina will definitely attend her daughters marriage.

hey deepika, missed today's epi, any progress?

being how strict ayodhya is shown, I doubt it, lets see what happens...😊

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