Does marriage give man a right to demand sex forcefully?

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Does marriage give man a right to demand sex forcefully?

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Posted: 10 years ago
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Posted: 10 years ago
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never the man haa any right to force a girl
even if she is his wife..
swetiii thumbnail
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Posted: 10 years ago
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sex is not just physical intimacy
but its the way to express pure love
& love cannot b forced
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Posted: 10 years ago
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[Just curious, how many of the voters are men/women who have some experience with the subject, or is it just theoretical?

I hope it is just theoretical for OP because vague anonymous questions are not the best way to seek advice on real-life situations.

That out of the way, here is what I think...]

The wording is a bit vague. If you mean rape, why not call it rape? And no, one does not have the right to rape his wife.

On the other hand, there is plenty of room in relationships for both partners to pressurize each other on various issues, not just sex.

What is "verbal threat"? It could mean "I will kill you", or "I will take sanyas" or "I will tell your mother/friends". We may feel differently about these "threats".

IOW, it is perhaps near the outer limits of ok to forcefully demand sex, but not ok to forcibly perform it. 😊

Seriously, so much in life depends on details:

At one extreme, the couple may be having plenty of sex, but the husband is so unreasonable that he cannot take an occasional "no". I'd think, what a jerk. At the other extreme, the wife could be thinking that marriage is all about kitchen, saris, and jewelry, and the couple have no sex life to speak of. Now the guy has my sympathy.

And, as mentioned above, the "threat" in question could refer to physical harm or simply "I'll tell our friends that we never do it."

Finally, marriage is not a jail. It is ok for either partner to leave if he/she is sufficiently unhappy and unsatisfied. Of course such decisions need to be taken with careful thought, and with awareness of consequences to reputation, finances, future relationships, and other family life (eg, relationship with children).

Anyway, a thought provoking subect!

Edited by AKT.JA - 10 years ago
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Posted: 10 years ago
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My vote is no dear... Whether it is girl or wife.. Man has no right to force on her.. Sex is not relating to only pleasure but it is also showing love.. So everyone should respect women n girls..
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Posted: 10 years ago
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The woman has the right to refuse.
As a Muslim I am often bombarded with this question. Some Salafi scholars(Long story don't ask) quote some narrations and conclude that a husband can force his wife to have sex with her which is a recurring incident in the subcontinent unfortunately.

However the truth of the matter is that the woman has rights over her husband and one of those is refusing intercourse. In no shape or manner does the husband reserve the right to force himself on his wife. Because a lot of narrations state that the husband MUST respect the rights of the wife. He cannot under any condition force himself on her.

Sorry for the long comment. But for decades now, religious texts have been twisted and misused to exploit and abuse women. It is time people became aware of the truth.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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My vote is 'No'. But the question itself is vague and what really happens in marriage is more complicated.

In India, sex is still not discussed openly in families and many people don't relate in a healthy way about sex. The reason a man asks for sex to his wife in a forceful manner could be because of his limited knowledge also. Supposing the man is told by his friends, that if his wife shuts him down from having sex, it is because she believes something is deficient in him and she will get sex outside and the man believes that, how will he relate to his wife? And especially if his wife is a quarrelsome woman, what is the possibility? And here we also find there is no question as 'Does the marriage give a woman right to demand sex forcefully?' And if she finds on a day, he is not able to satisfy her, she keeps away from him, is it the previlege the woman is entitled to? Thus there are many angles to be noted in this case.

What is important is once married the husband and wife are to improve in their understanding for each other and this is important for healthy married life. Both the partners have to be more with each other, available to each other and present each other and improve being more caring, compassionate, gentle, tender and understanding to each other. That way sex with each other also becomes satisfying.


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Posted: 10 years ago
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Legally - yes.
Morally absolutely not.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: AnnaPaquinFan

Legally - yes.

Morally absolutely not.



Unfortunate fact.But true all the same.You see a lot of protest in the street regarding the rights of LGBT people or the right to kiss in public or mistreatment of animals.All valid.But the topic of marital rape gets swept under the carpet.I haven't seen any celebrity taking up this cause.I read somewhere that it is not even considered as an option for filing for divorce in India.The lawyers will always ask for another reason.

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