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This is the psychology Indian television has been following since ages. This is one of the most cliched track that has been recycled again and again from the ages of Ekta Kapoor to now Rashmi Sharmi.
Apne pyaar ko kurbaan kar dena uski khushi ke liye yaa phir uski jaan bachane ke liye, ya phir uska parivaar bachane ke liye ya phir uski property bachane ke liye... The list is endless when we try to find Why would someone be ready to sacrifice their own love for all this stupid and cliched reasons. Does it even happen in real life? Oops, sorry, we are talking about Indian Television here which is no where close to real life!!!
My parents have also taught me to love your family, your life partner and his family selflessly. Yes, they have also taught me to always think about their happiness and comfort first!! But I am sure they never meant to burn my happiness in that. And they definitely didn't mean to burn my life partner's happiness in that!!!
Swara and Sanskaar, the reason I am part of this forum and made some wonderful friends here!!
Swara, the girl who I loved for her head strong, bubbly and selfless nature.
Sanskaar, the guy who I loved for his head strong, practical and open-mind nature. Looks, don't even get me started else this post will never end😆
These two, are very deeply and crazily in love with each other and are still ready to let go of each other just for someone else who they think is "important" and their "responsibility". I don't know why would they decide on doing that because it is still risking happiness of three lives.
In the day before yesterday's episode, Swara pissed me off like no other. Why Swara Why? Your conversation with DPM made me so proud of you. Its like you were clearly saying "I do love him Bade Papa. But its Sanskaar's life and Sanskaar's decision and whoever he will chose, I will abide by it". I was so happy then. I was like yah, you go girl!! I am proud of ya... Thats actually what I wanted you to do!! But then why would you not let him speak when he actually and finally came to you to confess his feelings and accept you? Don't you remember, how much you have cried, shouted your lungs out in front of the entire family on how much you loved him and wanted to be with him, the way you begged, then why in the world would you let that chance go when he was there, right in front you? You don't believe in forced relationship right? You don't believe in loveless relationship right? Then why are you asking Sanskaar to think about Kavita again and again? Why do you think he will love kavita again? Are you in love with Laksh again? He is an adult and can make his own decision. Let him atleast speak. Instead of your constant ramblings about how Kavita is bechari and all, you could have just said "Look Sanskaar, I really love you and I do want to spend the rest of my life with you. But before you say anything to me about our relation, I just want you to think it through and be very clear of what you want so that you don't end up regretting your own decision. I don't think I would be able to handle separation yet again". I know, indirectly, you did say that. Very Indirectly. Especially, still leaving the decision on him and asking him not to think about what you think or Kavita thinks or for that matter what the world thinks. He has to decide what he wants. But you have to be confident about that Swara. And that would have been enough for the guy to break mountains for you to make sure you both are together forever!!!
Sanskaar, you made me proud in day before yesterday's episode. Your determination in the eyes was something that made me fall in love with you all over again. You knew she was lying. You knew how much you affect her and thats why you tried to cup her face with all liberty, trying to make her understand about your feelings. I loved how you asked her to look in your eyes and then speak the truth because you knew what she was doing. I was like, ooo, thats my man. Keep doing that until she falls weak on her knees. I loved how clear you are about your feelings for Swara!! You know how much both of you love each other. So deeply!!! Then why in the world would you chose kavita over Swara? Why Sanskaar Why? No, I am not asking you to fight alone. Thats not what I mean. You both should clearly fight together. I understand she wasnt letting you speak yesterday. But if you were cupping her face with full liberty, you could have just held her hand, pulled her back when she left and knock some sense in her head by clearly telling her that "Look Swara, I love only and only you!! And I have thought through and my decision of being with you is final. Now if you want to waste time by doing this, then ok, Your wish. I won't force you, I am not gonna beg like you did. NO. But if you want, you can come out of your sacrificial mode and get back with me and we both will make sure that everything goes well. I have told you my decision and now the decision is yours!!" And the girl would have came back running to you and hugged you like crazy and would have supported you with everything you did!! Instead you let her go giving an understanding look to her!! Even that look made me feel that you are still sure of what you want and you haven't let her constant ramblings affect you!! Because you never usually do let that happen to you.
The only thing you both needed was to be really head strong about your feelings for each other. Thats it.
Since I love them both so much and that too equally, I am also ready to give them some leeway as to why and what made them do what they did.
Swara, my girl, I get that you are scared the shit out. I get that you are emotionally really weak right now and won't be able to handle any type of separation if that happens again in your life. I know, that what has always happened with you. Be it with Ragini, Laksh, Shekhar or the MM family. I know you think that if for some reason if Sanskaar has to go back to Kavita after accepting you, then you will die and break down to the level that no one will be able to pick you up!! Its not that you don't trust his love, but you don't trust your fate. I get it. You are ready and think you are strong enough to accept the separation right now but not if that happens later (if any such situation arises). But sweety, instead of thinking about your fate, think about him and his love. If you tell him confidently of what you want, then he will make sure that you get it no matter what!! You will remain his priority. Just show some confidence!!! I understand this situation is so hard for you to be strong but you will have to be. Swara, Stay strong!! Gulp down your fears and stay strong!!! Don't give up. Swara, fight this battle!!! He needs you to fight this battle with him. He won't let you fight this alone!! Be the sherni that I have always wanted you to be!! You do need to come out of your god damn sacrificial mode.
Sanskaar, my boy, you are someone I have seen to be a very head strong person. And I completely understand that even a very very head strong person can fall weak or break down at certain situations. And you are stuck in one such situation. Its not that Kavita is any other normal girl. She is your first god damn love!! The girl you loved so intensely and deeply that you were ready to destroy the world for her. You spent 5 years of your life all alone, in grief, away from your family!! But finally you some light and you moved on. You and we clearly know that you don't love her anymore. Yes, you do care for her and have a very very soft corner for her. You are worried for her since she is medically unstable and want to protect her. I get it. And trust me, its not wrong. You should definitely do that. I might have done the same thing. But what I don't agree with is you agreeing to get engaged with her for her "happiness" and because you think that will make her happy, which in turn will make you happy? Are you sure Sanskaar? Because, I am definitely sure thats not gonna make either three of you happy. You don't love her Sanskaar, so you won't be able to give her the happiness that she deserves. Ok, as viewers, we can forget that we hate her because we love SwaSan so much. Lets be neutral to Swara, Sanskaar and Kavita. Lets forget the possibility of her being negative. Would I still think that is a right decision? No, I won't. You think you are gonna make her happy but she is gonna be in pain. Instead of making her going through that pain and leaving a deep scar on her heart, you should just give her that pain right now to make sure she doesn't suffer her entire life. That way, you won't suffer and Swara wouldn't either. I understand the situation was too delicate for you to think through. But Sanskaar, you could have bought some time to tell Kavita what you feel. Sanskaar, for once, your stupid, idiotic, good for nothing family was ready to be by your side. To fight for you and Swara. They just needed one hint, one hint Sanskaar, and they would have made sure you get the time to figure out how to handle this situation!!! Sigh!!
Sanskaar and Swara, you both have followed the philosophy of listening to your heart over brain and make a decision. And currently, you both are not doing that. Listen to your heart, make a decision and stand by it!! Confess to each other, unite. Don't forget "Swara ka Sanskaar hai aur Sanskaar ki Swara". Its not that you both don't know how much you love each other or don't trust each other. Then go for it guys!! Don't hold back!!
And CVs, thank you for slowly trying to ruin the happiness for me. I know more than the audience, you like to make your TRP aunties happy. And now that TRPs are high, you are gonna stretch this good for nothing track like crazy. So SwaSanians, I would suggest you to be prepare for the worse, enjoy the bumpy ride with the small SwaSan moments we would get. Don't forget, the end game is still SwaSan. Keep calm and don't panic!!
Phew, my rant session is over!!! Thank you guys for reading it and jheloing my stupid writing. You guys can share your opinions about this too. I would love to read and discuss them!!!
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Shonali!!
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