Comparison of children Bharath and Ram

I am not sure whether kaikeyi compared Bharath and Ram but I know she loved Ram a lot. But what I want to discuss is that comparison which most parents do. Why can't you be like him. He got good marks. She dances well. She is the ideal girl. He is the ideal boy. A child has their uniqueness. Instead of nurturing it parents spend their time trying to make their children like someone else. Do they understand the negativity they bring to their child with this comparison. The unique talent will be lost. Child will grow up as suppressed individual trying to satisfy parents and society in an area they don't have talent. When they can't they circumvent rules and yes we get evil from these suppressed thoughts. So as responsible parents let us refrain from this unhealthy Comparison and nurture our child to look inward than outward to solve problems

Good explanation. This is much required at this examination time.

Completely agree with you. In today's competitive world it often leads to comparisons which is wrong.

Hey Shruthi,

I just wrote a similar response about the comparison issue on Kshithi's post. Kaikeyi does love Ram but yes she did make the comparison when she told Bharat '' Why can't you be more like Ram''.
This situation is universal. I think most parents at some point of time do compare their children either with their siblings or with other children. What they don't realize is how this damages the child emotionally and psychologically . They begin to doubt their value and this in the long run becomes an obstacle on the road to live their life to the fullest

Hi Shruthi !

Good points from Shruthi and all the others here!

I agree with most of your points

But I personally believe that a healthy competition is always necessary to explore ones potentials..
Like if you have a meritorious elder sibling your parents tend to compare u with him...
It's all depends on how you take it.. One might take it positively and imbibe the good qualities of the other person.

On the other hand it might to lead to feeling of insecurity and tension between siblings or friends..

It all depends on how you perceive it..

But in yesterday's episode I don't know what to say about Kaykay and Bharat, why was he scared of his own mother, he didn't even looked jealous of Ram.. Hope they clear it in coming episodes..

@ramya was Bharath afraid because he didn't meet his mom's expectations. Aditi please read my signature. If child want to emulate someone good it is fine. But if parents force it is negative. Parents can give directions but comparison results in negativity because child is denied choice in the latter

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@ramya was Bharath afraid because he didn't meet his mom's expectations. Aditi please read my signature. If child want to emulate someone good it is fine. But if parents force it is negative. Parents can give directions but comparison results in negativity because child is denied choice in the latter

Oh okay got your point 😊

You are right every child is born with
his or her own potentials or capabilities
and have a right to make their own choices.

For instance, nowadays we see parents forcing their kids to
become engineers or doctors without even taking the
child's consent, just because some cousin or neighbour's
child is going for it :(

Hope parents understand that every one has his own uniqueness.
Unhealthy comparisons should be avoided

@adi thank you for your kind words that you like my posts. Yes I too feel Manthara would manipulate her with guilt feeling is what I also feel. See I have always wondered how a woman who loved Ram so much could change in matter of hours to stop his coronation.