Mein Darpok Hoon! Really? - Page 3

Originally posted by: I-Luv-Rashi

Okay so since last two days here on this forum has been a lots of hullabaloo about Rimi and her behaviour and people (Internet's Hindustan) has been blaming and cursing her for being weak and recessive but I've a big question for all of you. Of course All the people never speak before thinking that they're surrounded by cameras and are under scanner but they should take care of their words but what if they are really weak and scared?

So coming back to my question , how many Indian ordinary women are strong and Can fight men?? Because I personally am really scared of guys even my neighbours and all. I can't go and slap a guy who stares me on streets(like TV serial leads do or mostly reality shows give gyaan of) because I know if I'll do such things then I'll get acid thrown on my face and get r**** because this INDIA!!! Sitting behind computer screen and typing all this sh*t is really easy! But can you seriously fight guys? I'm sorry but reality is no!

and for Rimi she was talking about Rochelle and Mandana and when she generalised things she was spot on! Because guys/men/husbands/fathers have huge ego and when women go on and on about their equality it irks them. Can we really go and pee on roads or can we go shirtless in roads? Equality? Huh??

I agree with your word to some extend but I want to say I was one of those who never discrinated between males or females may be thats why i was called phoolan devi 2( in office) and goondi( by my brother) here also it was my husband and child welfare person who stopped me from bashing my son's principal as he misbehaved with me and had put false allegations on my son who was so young that he cannot differentiate between right or wrong. I am not saying that I so bold from young age its because the circumstance and situations made me so strong that now i don't care about my future you might say this as boldness but i say it the bitterness that is coming out of me which i facedin my tender age. you must have watched nisha aur uske cousin the character of nisha that is what i am but let me tell you the truth i reliate only there where i feel i am right . please sorry if you have hurt by my words and apologies every forum member if i hurt anyone feelings

Being scared is ok after all we are humans and there is always something which scares us like hell. But saying that a woman should behave like a woman was wrong. If you can't fight back or at least try to defend yourself then how will you survive in this cruel world. 😕 Of course Rochelle and Mandana are wrong no doubt here. But is this how she should have stopped them ? Putting women as the weakest and defending the bullies behind "it's there personality". So what now ? Women should not do this and that because they are too afraid that men will attack them. 😕

Originally posted by: khamosshhh

Things aren't always so black and white either. Relationships and ppl r much more complex than that. The example u have gave,not only if the wife is uneducated and dependent, but I suppose it holds true for even wives who r educated and independent who put up with such husbands. But at the same time it's not always the husband is powerful than the wife. Many a times among spouses it's the wife who's the more dominant one and takes advantage of the husband. Have seen sboth kinds of scenarios in real life.

Agree that the mentality is what needs to be changed. I have a daughter who is headstrong and loves to take panga with ppl. I encourage her when she does it with ppl in my family or friends. But I strictly warn her not to get into panga with strangers or acquaintances (male or female) as I don't know how it will be taken by them and may come off as offensive to them. I also don't allow her to go on her own anywhere. (she's all of 7 years), even not to the neighborhood shop. Call me paranoid or darpok, but I wld rather be safe than sorry. I am bringing her up as a strong person not hesitant to voice her POV, but then I don't know the mentality of the person she wld be interacting with and I wld rather she maintains her distance.

I also have a son who's very calm and does not like to take panga. In fact he's older than his sister but ends up getting hurt in physical fights as he doesn't retaliate. Have always taught him to respect ppl, man or woman and he has no pre-conceived notions abt woman can't do this and man can do this. But I also tell him to not get over friendly with girls and to maintain his distance as I don't want someone to misinterpret anything.

This Man vs Woman thing when used for convenience is a very dangerous thing. As I said in another post, when pseudo feminist use the gender card wrongly, it ends up doing a lot of damage to the genuine cause of woman emancipation and empowerment.

I know things are not always black and white but my point is I would never support a mentality which suggests a person to back down just because s/he is weak. I understand as a mother you would always be protective of your child (7 is too young and should be protected always) but I would like you to bring up your children in such a manner that they should not be afraid to protest against someone who they think is wrong just because that person is stronger than them. I agree you might be afraid that it might cause harm to them but as I stated earlier and you may call me foolish but I would never support a mentality which supports backing off just because you are weak.

no I dont agree I am strong mentally, I(personally not generalizing) live in a society which is safe. And i believe boys should be dissuaded resorting to violence either against a girl or boy!You dont go around telling girls they need to be submissive because they are week!!

Originally posted by: LoveFawad

no I dont agree I am strong mentally, I live in a society which is safe. And i believe boys should be dissuaded resorting to violence be it a girl or boy!You dont go around telling girls they need to be submissive because they are week!!