My list of Questionsssss

Hey there Ladies/ (Gentlemen?), Girls and Boys😊

Since everyone is asking them, I have a list of questions too😃. Thanks in advance to anybody who responds to them.😃. Appreciate your time.

1. If Robbie and Raunak were played by very talented, respected and acknowledged but average looking actors like a Manoj Bajpai, or Ranbir Sheory or Rajpal Yadav, would you have still had the same opinion about the respective jodis......i.e. fierce loyalty towards either Ro-Ka or Ra-Ka and would you have swooned over these couples?

2. You had a girlfriend/ boyfriend who has moved on and in the process caused great pain to you. Before you can recover, she/he ends up being your close cousin brother's wife/ husband. All three of you currently live in the same house. What would be your (a) instintive (b) emotional and (c ) practical reaction? . What you you then do?

3. You had a girlfriend/ boyfriend whom you loved, but later on parted ways. You are very close to the person's family. You then meet her/ him again after you are married. He/ She is mentally disturbed and needs attention and support. The only thing He/She can remember is the past with you, before the person took ill. What will be your reaction to him/ her?

And lastly

4. You end up marrying a person under great emotional stress or duress or parental pressure. You know that your marriage is a compromise and you just not able to get it right with the spouse. You fall in love with another person after the marriage. Your realtionship with this other person is now based on trust, understanding and respect. What would you do? If you had kids would your answers be different. If yes, why?

JW

@JR: Hey there Ladies/ (Gentlemen?), Girls and Boys😊

Hehehe i dont know abt boys or gentlemen here😆, Iam girl so Hi JR😆

1. If Robbie and Raunak were played by very talented, respected and acknowledged but average looking actors like a Manoj Bajpai, or Ranbir Sheory or Rajpal Yadav, would you have still had the same opinion about the respective jodis......i.e. fierce loyalty towards either Ro-Ka or Ra-Ka and would you have swooned over these couples?

🤣 Ohhhh noooo not at all... I like Manoj Bajpai, so I might show interest and loyalty if he plays such kinda roles. But the others, No no....

2. You had a girlfriend/ boyfriend who has moved on and in the process caused great pain to you. Before you can recover, she/he ends up being your close cousin brother's wife/ husband. All three of you currently live in the same house. What would be your (a) instintive (b) emotional and (c ) practical reaction? . What you you then do?

First, I wud try to get out of tat house. But if my parents emotionally blackmail me not to go then I wud stay in the house. But how much ever say to myself tat i have to behave practically, I wud not be able to do it wen the couple comes infront of me. So then I act instinctively without thinking of the consequences

3. You had a girlfriend/ boyfriend whom you loved, but later on parted ways. You are very close to the person's family. You then meet her/ him again after you are married. He/ She is mentally disturbed and needs attention and support. The only thing He/She can remember is the past with you, before the person took ill. What will be your reaction to him/ her?

I ll first clarify this thing with my partner abt my intentions. I ll try to convince them tat my-ex luver needs me as a frnd and so I might help her to get back to normal becos i knew her since childhood. So I ll not show my back to her but instead I will try my level best to help her recover.

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4. You end up marrying a person under great emotional stress or duress or parental pressure. You know that your marriage is a compromise and you just not able to get it right with the spouse. You fall in love with another person after the marriage. Your realtionship with this other person is now based on trust, understanding and respect. What would you do? If you had kids would your answers be different. If yes, why?

This is a complicated one. Mostly, this case depends on how the hubby thinks of u. If ur hubby also doesnt luv u and considers this as compromise then its better to talk abt it and part ways. But If ur hubby started luving u , then comes the moral obligation towards him. So u feel tat u r obligated to stay with him and u might continue to stay with him.

My answers might not be soo accurate, But I wrote wat i think i ll do in all those situations. Wonderful hatke questions JR😛, They make u think a lot abt urself😃

Krishi

Originally posted by: JWMRK

Krishu is an obligation more important than the mental well being of three people (the spouse may be better off knowing the truth rather than living in a make believe world)?

U know wat this is a very gud discussion👏👍🏼... This decision is kinda easy in boys case, they can just leave everything if they want to without thinking abt others [Iam not generalizing boys here, there are some who are responsible enuff]. But for gals,this is really difficult yaar... And tat too in India, its still a No No situation. May be its changing now slowly.

A Gal always feels obligated to both her maayka and also her sasural. She has to think of 2 familes along with their three lives. So In India, it is more than difficult to take this step of leaving the hubby and go to ur luver.

But wat u said is true, the spouse is better off knowing the truth. But u know gals naa, They think of themselves as sacrificing queens and they hide such stuff from men in the name of doing bhalaayi to others😡.

And think of this scenario, Wat if the hubby falls in luv with another gal. In this case, If he leaves his wife then wat will the wife do?

Krishi

Originally posted by: JWMRK

Hey there Ladies/ (Gentlemen?), Girls and Boys😊

Since everyone is asking them, I have a list of questions too😃. Thanks in advance to anybody who responds to them.😃. Appreciate your time.

1. If Robbie and Raunak were played by very talented, respected and acknowledged but average looking actors like a Manoj Bajpai, or Ranbir Sheory or Rajpal Yadav, would you have still had the same opinion about the respective jodis......i.e. fierce loyalty towards either Ro-Ka or Ra-Ka and would you have swooned over these couples?

If the actor is very good and powerful he will be able to enthrall audiences and get their undying support irrespective of his looks...i also think robbies power lies in the character and KPs acting....i have never been a fan of either raunaks or robbies looks. lets see, srk is not conventionally good looking but still so many people are bonkers about him and i have always liked men with unconventional looks - nasarudeen shah, maoj bajpai, ajay devgan you name them! rajpal yadav irritates me, so i dont think i would watch a serial where he plays the lead!!!

2. You had a girlfriend/ boyfriend who has moved on and in the process caused great pain to you. Before you can recover, she/he ends up being your close cousin brother's wife/ husband. All three of you currently live in the same house. What would be your (a) instintive (b) emotional and (c ) practical reaction? . What you you then do?

I would move out and perhaps minimise all contact with the cousin atleast until i got over my ex...not only would it pain me, it would be extensively uncomfortable....so the best and most practical solution would be to move out. Instinctively too, I would move out and maintain a distance with the couple....emotionally, when i see them i would probably appear very happy and busy with myself to hide the pain inside, but i would never show them or anyone else how that marriage has hurt me.

3. You had a girlfriend/ boyfriend whom you loved, but later on parted ways. You are very close to the person's family. You then meet her/ him again after you are married. He/ She is mentally disturbed and needs attention and support. The only thing He/She can remember is the past with you, before the person took ill. What will be your reaction to him/ her?

probably speak with my husband and my mom (whose advice i would ignore anyway!) and see how best i could help him without compromising my life and marriage...and probably talk to his doctor and with the help of the doctor and someone else close to the ex, explain gently that life and equations have changed.

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4. You end up marrying a person under great emotional stress or duress or parental pressure. You know that your marriage is a compromise and you just not able to get it right with the spouse. You fall in love with another person after the marriage. Your realtionship with this other person is now based on trust, understanding and respect. What would you do? If you had kids would your answers be different. If yes, why?

i would never marry someone under pressure, definately not parental pressure...i also would never get into a marriage if i thought it was a compromise...so it is difficult fo rme to answer this question...however, if my marriage did not seem to work i guess i would see why and talk to my husband to see how we could rectify it ...if i were to fall in love with someone after my marriage, i would be happy that i atleast fell in love in this life time and be content with that thought...but i would never jeopardise my marriage for something that may be a passing phase (or may not), unless ofcourse both my husband and i were truly unhappy...and it does get more difficult when you have children...if it happened after kids, i would never spoil my kids life and wouldalways put them first...having said all this, i am just too practical to let something like that happen!!!!

JW

Dhanno,

Great Questions. I have tried to be as honest as I can and answer them to best of my abilities.

1. If Robbie and Raunak were played by very talented, respected and acknowledged but average looking actors like a Manoj Bajpai, or Ranbir Sheory or Rajpal Yadav, would you have still had the same opinion about the respective jodis......i.e. fierce loyalty towards either Ro-Ka or Ra-Ka and would you have swooned over these couples?

The current RoKa or Raka jodi do not elicit any fierce emotion is me other than total disgust. I don't think any one could do any kind of justice to these half baked characters. Regarding picking different actors, as long as they suit the characters, the looks aren't that important – not to me, atleast.

PS- I am really interested to see MB play a rockstar.

2. You had a girlfriend/ boyfriend who has moved on and in the process caused great pain to you. Before you can recover, she/he ends up being your close cousin brother's wife/ husband. All three of you currently live in the same house. What would be your (a) instintive (b) emotional and (c ) practical reaction? . What you you then do?

Well most of my family & friends have a code of integrity – so I can be pretty sure that none of my cousins/friend would date let alone marry someone who caused me heartache. But if for some weird twist of fate it did happen, I would never live in the same house as them ever. No amount of arm twisting/emotional blackmailing will ever make me do that.

Also even after I get over the heartache (which I surely would – personally I value my life too much to spend pining for someone) I would maintain an emotional distance with the couple. And it would be harder for me to forgive the cousin/brother than the ex. But I would try to do all this as decently and without fuss as possible. I for sure would never make a fool of myself; have too much ego/pride to let that happen.

3. You had a girlfriend/ boyfriend whom you loved, but later on parted ways. You are very close to the person's family. You then meet her/ him again after you are married. He/ She is mentally disturbed and needs attention and support. The only thing He/She can remember is the past with you, before the person took ill. What will be your reaction to him/ her?

Hmm tough one. I would be sorry for that person but my primary concern would be protecting my current family. To be very honest, I would rather have the doctors, medical science & his family work through the problem. At the risk of sounding totally bitchy, I would not risk my present/future happiness and peace of mind for my past.

I don't think a movie like scenario where you have your spouse's blessing to help the other person get better is ever possible in real life. It just opens everyone you love to lot of hurt and insecurities. I would not appreciate anyone doing that to me, so wouldn't do that to my spouse either. To me it is represents a choice between past & present. And being the practical soul I am, I always choose present.

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4. You end up marrying a person under great emotional stress or duress or parental pressure. You know that your marriage is a compromise and you just not able to get it right with the spouse. You fall in love with another person after the marriage. Your realtionship with this other person is now based on trust, understanding and respect. What would you do? If you had kids would your answers be different. If yes, why?

OK this one is totally impossible in my case. I cannot even imagine marrying under emotional stress /parental pressure. Getting wasted in Vegas and finding myself married is just a tiny bit more believable than that (which again I promise would never happen with me). The only reason I would marry is because I want to get married.

But I do believe that all marriages require trust, understanding, respect and a lot of compromises. I do not expect marriages to be the happily ever after part. I expect it to be challenging and at times annoying – but knowing that there is someone you can rely on for rest of your life is priceless – isn't it?

And I also believe falling in love is a relatively easy thing to do. It is the staying in love part that needs a lot of work and effort. So if I am attracted to someone after my marriage, I will fight that attraction. I will do my best to make my marriage work.

But if I do realize that outside of my marriage, I have found true love and that's the only thing that would make me happy, I would try to explain that to my husband and get a divorce. (I would take a long long long time to come to this conclusion, if this is necessary). Anything else would be dishonest and unfair to everyone involved. And I am not the kind of person who can live through a farce.

And my answer would probably the same if I had kids. I would just be very very slow and careful about the while thing. I would try my best to provide them with a stable environment.

But I would never have kids, if my marriage isn't working out in the first place. I am way too practical for that.

Originally posted by: JWMRK

Hey there Ladies/ (Gentlemen?), Girls and Boys😊

noone can say you arent gender sensitive😆

Since everyone is asking them, I have a list of questions too😃. Thanks in advance to anybody who responds to them.😃. Appreciate your time.

1. If Robbie and Raunak were played by very talented, respected and acknowledged but average looking actors like a Manoj Bajpai, or Ranbir Sheory or Rajpal Yadav, would you have still had the same opinion about the respective jodis......i.e. fierce loyalty towards either Ro-Ka or Ra-Ka and would you have swooned over these couples?

I actually really like rajpal yadav he made a movie main , meri patni aur vohi? i think and the vohi part was his inabiltity to trust his beautiful wife, i thought he did an excellent job, in showing us that beauty is truly inside not out that counts.. I am a total fanatic for good acting, so facial value really doesnt hold that much water for me, so if the actor is able to move me then i'd still give them my loyalty, and the more mistakes they make the more lovable they become to me.. thats why i've always leaned more towards Robbie's character he's falliable and knows it..and admits it..

2. You had a girlfriend/ boyfriend who has moved on and in the process caused great pain to you. Before you can recover, she/he ends up being your close cousin brother's wife/ husband. All three of you currently live in the same house. What would be your (a) instintive (b) emotional and (c ) practical reaction? . What you you then do?

Its unfortunate situation and a no win one as well, but instinctivly i'd first do eveything to get out of that house espcially if its hurtin my own self to that extent i usually believe actions speak louder then words.... emotionally id be a basket case, but wouldn't show it, but rebounding is something i totally believe in, and know that although it hurts like hell today, tomorrow or the next i'll wipe my tears and move on... and as for that cousin dont expect any xmas gifts from me😆 I believe in pay back and one day i would defintely pay them back in full. dont know how but i'd figure it out after i was done fixing myself up!!!

3. You had a girlfriend/ boyfriend whom you loved, but later on parted ways. You are very close to the person's family. You then meet her/ him again after you are married. He/ She is mentally disturbed and needs attention and support. The only thing He/She can remember is the past with you, before the person took ill. What will be your reaction to him/ her?

I'm a softy at heart so yeah i'd discuss it with my husband, for i strongly believe in the bond of marriage to be more then just thinking about yourself, i luv thinking outside the box. so hopefully i'd be married to guy that i am today, I would defintely talk to his family help them get him professional help and then its their problem, sorry not that giving after all😕

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4. You end up marrying a person under great emotional stress or duress or parental pressure. You know that your marriage is a compromise and you just not able to get it right with the spouse. You fall in love with another person after the marriage. Your realtionship with this other person is now based on trust, understanding and respect. What would you do? If you had kids would your answers be different. If yes, why?

My parents and i have too strong a bond to ever pressure their daughter in marrying, for my parents dont have sons, and so they always taught us to stand on our own feet. but if i take your senario i'd say that I would marry the person my parents choose for me. As for the marriage if off the bat we dont hit it off, i'd give it sometime, and honestly give it 110 % and even then if it didnt work, yeah i'd defintely consider walking away but not for this guy that i supossedly luved it would have to be that i am not happy in my marriage. marriage should never be a compromise on luving someone, once you luv someone then yeah there is defintely compromises, i've done waay too many for my marriage and will continue to do so, as long as my husband does the same in return.. If kids are involved well then i've made my bed and i will lie in it forever, kids are the ultimate for me, no comprimising their future, unless the father is abusive, if he's like ronauk then i'd have no problem😆

luved answering your questions and i want you to answer them as well JW. 😃

take care robina

JW

Hey there Ladies/ (Gentlemen?), Girls and Boys😊

Since everyone is asking them, I have a list of questions too😃. Thanks in advance to anybody who responds to them.😃. Appreciate your time.

Hello...and ur welcome! I dont know how I'm going to respond to these questions..but since I read this post..going to go ahead and give it a try.

1. If Robbie and Raunak were played by very talented, respected and acknowledged but average looking actors like a Manoj Bajpai, or Ranbir Sheory or Rajpal Yadav, would you have still had the same opinion about the respective jodis......i.e. fierce loyalty towards either Ro-Ka or Ra-Ka and would you have swooned over these couples?

Who is Ranbir Sheory? Anyways, at first I wont be motivated to watch the show at all but if I do catch it then it depends on the storyline nd acting. If the acting is really great and same goes for the storyline, I'll be hooked no matter who is playing what character.

2. You had a girlfriend/ boyfriend who has moved on and in the process caused great pain to you. Before you can recover, she/he ends up being your close cousin brother's wife/ husband. All three of you currently live in the same house. What would be your (a) instintive (b) emotional and (c ) practical reaction? . What you you then do?

Well..hmm...firstly, nothing along those lines could ever happen to me.. so hypothetically, if something like did happen then..hmm...what sort of pain did it cause me? were they too mean/violent? or was it pain becoz of my inability to move on? Anyhow, I guess I would do the same as the others before me wrote...first instinct would be taking a firm step such as moving out..then getting my act together... let bygones be bygones..they have their lifes and I have mine. The last way to spend your life is crying over spilled milk. Past is history and one has to look forward in life and not backwards.

3. You had a girlfriend/ boyfriend whom you loved, but later on parted ways. You are very close to the person's family. You then meet her/ him again after you are married. He/ She is mentally disturbed and needs attention and support. The only thing He/She can remember is the past with you, before the person took ill. What will be your reaction to him/ her?

Let their family know whats going on and let them decide since they know whats best for their kids. Perhaps, a psychiatrist could help work things out....then you move on..lol I believe people shouldnt look into their past lives once they are happily married...it only causes trouble.

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4. You end up marrying a person under great emotional stress or duress or parental pressure. You know that your marriage is a compromise and you just not able to get it right with the spouse. You fall in love with another person after the marriage. Your realtionship with this other person is now based on trust, understanding and respect. What would you do? If you had kids would your answers be different. If yes, why?

Impossibly difficult question!! Firstly, this could never happen! And secondly, once anyone is married..they shouldnt look around for other relationships..they rather should try to make things work between them. And from the very beginning nothing is rite between u and ur spouse, then why have children? Anyways, ....i guess you should first try to mke things work between u and ur spouse but if he is the abusive kind..then it most probably means nothing much is ever going to change between you not him...and its better to leave as soon as possibly than staying with him...