If Shanti had dared to slap me...

If that evil woman would have dared to slap me in front of my locality I would have slapped her right back disregarding her age and relations. The only reason why she got to open her ignorant mouth and spout all that nonsense about Rani's chachi was that she wasn't slapped back right away.

No matter what age she is and what respect she deserves, if someone dares to raise their hand then they should be given back what they have done to other people. Maybe Kushiya and her family is scared of Shanti but why is the whole world catering to her whims??? 😡

And please don't start any thing about respecting elders and Indian values as that is only said when people have no sensible inputs to share.

^^ Haan kahe ki devi hhai ye? Y r ppl so scared of her.

And to be fair, chachi had seen a firangi publicly kiss Sarla.

I don't understand either why others outside of the family are catering to her whims and so scared of her. To be fair other people do give her a piece of their mind and they do throw a couple of insults at her on occasion- but honestly by now you would think there would be an angry mob with torches and pitchforks in their hands waiting to crucify the woman! Surely theres only so much a mass of people can take before they revolt in their common hatred of her!

Personally I think the insults and gibes that rani's chachi and sarla's SIL were stirring up were cheap shots and not classy- even if Pigtail&Co totally deserved it...If you have to insult those two stooges then do it with tact and be clever about it or you'll just end up having a common brawl on the floor with each other like a bunch of deranged animals . I don't know if the stuff Shanti said about rani's chachi is true or not- but I do know that you don't just go slapping people whenever the hell you feel like it just because you have this self-righteous idea in your pea-sized brain that youre older or better. Violence is violence. Slapping Shanti back would feel really good in the short term- Im sure we would all love to get in line!😆- but that woman needs not a heavy hand, but a clever hand to manipulate her into humiliating herself.

I agree with kajal though- respecting elders and outdated values are no justification for taking physical or mental abuse from anybody. You get as much respect as you dish out (usually) and if you can't handle being disrespected then get your act together- whether youre 102 or 16 years old! Age has nothing to do with it, character does. A younger person with a clean heart will have a world of wisdom to teach a person ten times older than them who is filthy hearted. This idea of age and being respected for that on purely that merit is laughable to me- there are a lot of insane and/or cruel people much older than me- I aint gonna be touching their feet or praising hymns to them and debasing myself just because they happened to be born before me- and those are members of my "family"! Respect is earned, not a right.

It's important to know n stand up for what is right, Even when u look up to a person, be it ur mom or anyone else for that .

Thank you Raadhni 😊 And I also can empathise with what you are saying. Both my parents instilled in me what I consider to be good values. They infact both encouraged me to talk about such things, especially my dad. I can still remember from a very young age talking about taboo subjects like sexuality (being gay/straight etc), drugs, nature of politics, divorce, sheesh even aliens! 😉 My point is they encouraged me to think outside of what is considered "normal" or "accepted" because life isnt so black and white. There ARE fifty shades of grey in between 😉 and its worth exploring that from a young age before people who are stuck in their old fashioned ways can begin to brainwash you into rigid ideals of right and wrong. Its just not that simple. Both of them even taught me to question THEM! I was specifically encouraged to question them and discuss with them anything that didnt "feel" right to me. I wasn't allowed to go gallivanting at two in the morning- but I was allowed to speak up, air my concerns, put my opinions forward and sure enough there would on most occasions be a healthy and mutually beneficial compromise. My parents have graciously told both myself and my brother that its not just children who learn from their parents- parents have many things to learn from their children if they shut up for two minutes and actually listen, really listen to what they are saying. And we've both been blessed with that kind of respectful upbringing- respect travels both ways- not just from child to parent or elder. So I totally get what you are saying. I have even gotten into huge huuuge fights and arguments with (mostly) my dad- but it was always worth it because without that you wont get to a mutual understanding of anything. You HAVE to speak your piece, you have to be brave enough to air your thoughts and needs otherwise what you have isn't a relationship with that person but a dictatorship. You teach people how to treat you- if they believe they can get away with telling you how to think and behave time and time again then you are basically teaching them to treat you like an animal essentially.

I guess thats why Im not feeling as "much" sympathy for Preethi as maybe people would like me to. Ive been scared of my dad giving me a few slaps- but Ive spoken my piece anyway just because Im a human being, Ive always known I deserve to have my own thoughts about life- not spoon fed the recycled crap from ancient history. Sometimes I got the slap and sometimes not, but I never regretted it because in a strange way it made us closer. Forged from the fires of hell and all that 😉 you have to take risks to make headway. You cant just expect to be cowering in a corner and things to change for the better or for someone to come and save you.

But I still get it- Preethi has just taken blow after emotional and mental blow in that house. The only person who supports her is Nimmi- not even Shivam I have to say. The man is turning out to be a crappy husband as well as brother- turning into Raghav with a few minor differences. Still remember how he let Amit speak to and literally physically threaten Nimmi just after the wedding.

With Preethi- I wish she would just risk it, you know? Approach her dad no matter how scared she is, just bite the bullet and go for it and make an emotional plea. Most dads cant bear to see their daughters completely broken down. If she could just show him how she feels and talk to him about what she needs- even if he slapped her- when the dust settles he will think about it. He would feel guilty just like he did when he grabbed Shivam's collar- he isnt evil, just ignorant and moronic. But he would at the very least just think about what she has said to him. I dont know- anything! Just dont give up on yourself like that- rage against the dying of the light, you know? Do something-anything...just not nothing. Thats what annoys me about her. Shes even told Nimmi not to let anyone destroy her- I wish she would take her own advice because she obviously knows better.

And Raadhni, you should be proud of yourself for standing up to others who would hurt you or your family. Its an incredibly brave thing because it isnt easy and I know from personal experience. I have myself put people in their place for ever insulting or demeaning those I love or me- not just friends but my family too. I have never been able to keep my mouth shut when it comes to speaking the truth and protecting those I love- its gotten me into trouble with other members of the family and lots of head shaking but my parents and those who are worth it have always stood by me- and thats real family 😛 And honestly Im the sort of person, even if they didnt stand by me then I wouldnt change my values or morals to suit them. Again its gotten me into trouble not falling in line with other people's values 😆 but at least you can look in the mirror and not see a farce, right?