Originally posted by: LizzieBennett
I just wrote a reply to another post on this topic, so pasting it here:
I could relate to her pain and anger yesterday, but today I was shocked at the accusations she hurled at Kabir without even an iota of proof. This is the same girl who thought the world of Kabir, would stand by him against the whole world, even against her mom, but now she's unwilling to even hear him out and assumes the worst of him? How could she believe that the man she loves and was about to marry would be such a cad? Did all her love and admiration for the man only hinge on that one factor..of him being her dad's supporter?
They showed us flashback scenes of Ananya thinking back to the bomb incident and that only brought her more pain and anger? She didn't melt at the courage and determination of the man to save her or die with her?
I know trust once broken is very hard to rebuild, and this was a truth that affected Ananyya very deeply, but all I'm saying is he should be given a chance to speak up and present his side. I'm not even saying that she should forgive him! Make him suffer, fine..but at least hear him out! What if it had been Armaan who had done something wrong? Wouldn't Ananya have given him a chance however hurt and angry she may have been? Why can't we expect her to do the same for Kabir?
To add:
I can't help but feel that Ananya's love for Kabir is tinged partly by hero-worship, partly by infatuation, and partly by physical attraction. His love for her seems more evolved and on a higher plane than hers for him. I don't know how much of her love hinges on the fact that Kabir supported her dad when everyone else turned against him. It certainly seems to have started that way. The admiration, the respect, the fangirling, the stubborn refusal to hear anything wrong about him...all this speaks of extreme hero worship. Thus, the placing on the pedestal and saying things like "you're perfect" without realizing the pressure she's putting him under or the inadvertent projection of her own desires of what she wants him to be, on him. Thus when he fell from her eyes, he fell badly.
Does Ananya really love Kabir, the flawed, imperfect man or does she love the idea of the perfect man that she has of him? I really can't answer that.
Ananya Loves kabir deeply, otherwise she would not stand by him at tough times(e.g. his sordid past with tarini, and the handkerchief burning scene) she supported him throughout, and it takes a lot of conviction to do that
However, the problem is that the foundation for her love is hero worship. which is why this situation has become so messy. She cannot stand that kabir fell from the pedestal she placed him on, and that he is not her superhero. of course he hid a very important truth from her, so he not entirely blameless either. It's a tricky subject because both are wrong to a certain extent, hence it is difficult to choose a side.
Ananya's reaction is justified but let's be honest that this kind of behaviour will not sustain a relationship. Interestingly, she realizes that there maybe another truth behind that email but that does not matter to her only truth for her is that kabir lied to her, didn't speak out against the injustice done to her father and that SK was murdered. Ananya has done similar things before as well but it's time she learns to solve a problem like an adult. otherwise this will cause more problems in the future and kabir cannot keep govelling for a chance to explain everytime. so which is why I hope kabir takes a step back, she needs to learn some things on her own. enough of handing her everything on a silver platter.
to add, I would have accepted if Ananya accused kabir of being money hungry but involving shreya was just tacky
Edited by pomegranate - 9 years ago
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