Stating my opinion! - Page 2

Originally posted by: neet06

Thank you for putting your opinion across and I am sure a lot of others may have the same opinion as you do too.

With all due respect, however, I tend to disagree. Especially since we are talking about how things would have worked out in a real life scenario. My biggest issues are:

A) Sneha is the head of the Mathur family now. Amaya is not old enough or mature enough to make such huge decisions yet. Transferring the responsibility and onus of keeping the family together, looking after the family's honor and happiness should be Sneha's responsibility - not Amaya's! As a daughter, Amaya's role is to support her mom in times of need but not to become her mom's mom. Parents are supposed to protect their children or make them strong enough to face adversities and not the other way round. By making Amaya feel that it is her responsibility, there is a role reversal of sorts going on here. And that is wrong. When Amaya finds it about Sumitra's threat to GC, the first and foremost thing she should have done is confide in Sneha or someone older. Amaya's step is not going to bring happiness to anyone. She is only creating new problems to avoid an old problem that will come out one way or the other. You can say she wasn't thinking right and was doing whatever she could to save the day, but that's the whole point, when you can't think right, you just don't just impulsively take a decision that would ruin so many lives!

B) The other thing I really really don't understand and cannot accept is - these girls are educated, modern (and I mean it in the sense that they are supposed to have a broader, more open minded view about the world) and yet, they calmly accept all the crap that Rama's family doles out. I understand Sneha doing it because she thinks Rachu really loves Rama and is willing to put up with it all for the sake of her daughter's happiness. But Amaya? She knows Rachita doesn't love Rama and has agreed to this wedding only for the sake of the family. How then does she think it's acceptable to put up with the Gupta women's nonsense? It's almost like making a case in favor of dowry harassment. Today she wants the haveli, tomorrow if she continues this and harasses Rachita, would that be acceptable too?


C) What was the worst case scenario here? The pics of Rachu and Rama getting leaked? The weddig getting called off because Rachita's paternity was questioned? The smarter move would've been if the Chaubey-Mathurs called off the wedding themselves and if Amaya had gotten Rama's mom arrested for demanding dowry (she wanted the haveli, didn't she?). If Rama's mother made a hue and cry abt Rachita's paternity, ask her for proof. What proof does she have other than Dev's words? And what proof does Dev have other than what Rudra heard? And who is Rudra? A thug! Who would trust him? With the wedding getting called off by the Chaubey-Mathurs, on solid grounds (demanding dowry is still a punishable offense the last time I checked) and the whole of Banaras would've appreciated the Mathur-Chaubeys for taking a stand.

But instead of that, what has happened? In an effort to save the family's honor, Amaya has only dragged it further into the mud. Now the whole city would be talking about saali listing after her jija and snatching away her sister's happiness and how ill brought up the girls are! I bet that's going to make GC super happy isn't it when he comes back from the hospital?

It all comes back to making Amaya feel as if she is super responsible and capable of taking care of and holding the whole family together when she isn't ready for it. She is way too young and way too immature. What she did cannot be justified in reel or real life.

What bothers me most about such tracks is the fact that there are so many young, impressionable minds watching these shows. The makers bring such twists to attract more TRP aunties but forget there are scores of youngsters they've gotten hooked to their show through their love stories. And they are giving the wrong message about taking drastic steps and ruining peoples lives and making an absolute mockery of marriage. What society thinks should not govern your life. What is right should happen. Putting up with the ridiculous tantrums of the groom's side somehow, anyhow just so you can get the daughter married off is indirectly saying that the daughter is a burden. If Rama's mom would have seen pictures of Rama and Rachita getting cozy would she have begged the Chaubeys and Mathurs to get Rachita married to Rama? The fact that GC did that and was in a way glorified only shows how our society views men and women so differently. Because ladki ki izzat is family's izzat and a ladka can get away with anything and everything.

We can say it's because Rachita herself admitted to being in love with Rama that this whole situation arose. But again, why did she do that? Because again, the girls felt responsible for protecting and helping their mother. Goes back to my point about role reversal. Instead, why couldn't they show the girls asking for time to find out who is behind all this? If the pictures did get published, people would've talked but they would've gotten over it too, eventually. Would you trade a lifetime of happiness that you deserve to quieten some gossipmongers? Sneha didn't do that! She chose Dev and chose to run away with him. When Dev did not turn up, she was afraid of the consequences yes, but again, she took a risk and ran away with Rishi! But I know that's too hard a concept to digest in TV land so I am pretty okay with Rachita's decision at that point of time. But I am not okay with Amaya's decision!

Sorry for the rant! Those are my two cents. Please feel free to disagree! 😊

Originally posted by: neet06

Thank you for putting your opinion across and I am sure a lot of others may have the same opinion as you do too.

With all due respect, however, I tend to disagree. Especially since we are talking about how things would have worked out in a real life scenario. My biggest issues are:

A) Sneha is the head of the Mathur family now. Amaya is not old enough or mature enough to make such huge decisions yet. Transferring the responsibility and onus of keeping the family together, looking after the family's honor and happiness should be Sneha's responsibility - not Amaya's! As a daughter, Amaya's role is to support her mom in times of need but not to become her mom's mom. Parents are supposed to protect their children or make them strong enough to face adversities and not the other way round. By making Amaya feel that it is her responsibility, there is a role reversal of sorts going on here. And that is wrong. When Amaya finds it about Sumitra's threat to GC, the first and foremost thing she should have done is confide in Sneha or someone older. Amaya's step is not going to bring happiness to anyone. She is only creating new problems to avoid an old problem that will come out one way or the other. You can say she wasn't thinking right and was doing whatever she could to save the day, but that's the whole point, when you can't think right, you just don't just impulsively take a decision that would ruin so many lives!

B) The other thing I really really don't understand and cannot accept is - these girls are educated, modern (and I mean it in the sense that they are supposed to have a broader, more open minded view about the world) and yet, they calmly accept all the crap that Rama's family doles out. I understand Sneha doing it because she thinks Rachu really loves Rama and is willing to put up with it all for the sake of her daughter's happiness. But Amaya? She knows Rachita doesn't love Rama and has agreed to this wedding only for the sake of the family. How then does she think it's acceptable to put up with the Gupta women's nonsense? It's almost like making a case in favor of dowry harassment. Today she wants the haveli, tomorrow if she continues this and harasses Rachita, would that be acceptable too?


C) What was the worst case scenario here? The pics of Rachu and Rama getting leaked? The weddig getting called off because Rachita's paternity was questioned? The smarter move would've been if the Chaubey-Mathurs called off the wedding themselves and if Amaya had gotten Rama's mom arrested for demanding dowry (she wanted the haveli, didn't she?). If Rama's mother made a hue and cry abt Rachita's paternity, ask her for proof. What proof does she have other than Dev's words? And what proof does Dev have other than what Rudra heard? And who is Rudra? A thug! Who would trust him? With the wedding getting called off by the Chaubey-Mathurs, on solid grounds (demanding dowry is still a punishable offense the last time I checked) and the whole of Banaras would've appreciated the Mathur-Chaubeys for taking a stand.

But instead of that, what has happened? In an effort to save the family's honor, Amaya has only dragged it further into the mud. Now the whole city would be talking about saali listing after her jija and snatching away her sister's happiness and how ill brought up the girls are! I bet that's going to make GC super happy isn't it when he comes back from the hospital?

It all comes back to making Amaya feel as if she is super responsible and capable of taking care of and holding the whole family together when she isn't ready for it. She is way too young and way too immature. What she did cannot be justified in reel or real life.

What bothers me most about such tracks is the fact that there are so many young, impressionable minds watching these shows. The makers bring such twists to attract more TRP aunties but forget there are scores of youngsters they've gotten hooked to their show through their love stories. And they are giving the wrong message about taking drastic steps and ruining peoples lives and making an absolute mockery of marriage. What society thinks should not govern your life. What is right should happen. Putting up with the ridiculous tantrums of the groom's side somehow, anyhow just so you can get the daughter married off is indirectly saying that the daughter is a burden. If Rama's mom would have seen pictures of Rama and Rachita getting cozy would she have begged the Chaubeys and Mathurs to get Rachita married to Rama? The fact that GC did that and was in a way glorified only shows how our society views men and women so differently. Because ladki ki izzat is family's izzat and a ladka can get away with anything and everything.

We can say it's because Rachita herself admitted to being in love with Rama that this whole situation arose. But again, why did she do that? Because again, the girls felt responsible for protecting and helping their mother. Goes back to my point about role reversal. Instead, why couldn't they show the girls asking for time to find out who is behind all this? If the pictures did get published, people would've talked but they would've gotten over it too, eventually. Would you trade a lifetime of happiness that you deserve to quieten some gossipmongers? Sneha didn't do that! She chose Dev and chose to run away with him. When Dev did not turn up, she was afraid of the consequences yes, but again, she took a risk and ran away with Rishi! But I know that's too hard a concept to digest in TV land so I am pretty okay with Rachita's decision at that point of time. But I am not okay with Amaya's decision!

Sorry for the rant! Those are my two cents. Please feel free to disagree! 😊

Originally posted by: Miran

Brilliantly expressed. I'm sure you've echoed the thoughts and sentiments of many. Another serious point is this - there is a show on Life OK channel called Savdhaan India, which always warns you to be careful of such illicit behaviour. They always encourage you to have the courage to fight back against these sort of things. So by Star Plus claiming that these types of tracks are necessary just makes a mockery of truth and justice.