Fiction work is open to people's interpretations.
How people interpret a work of fiction depends on their mindset.
It is quite clear for Anandi it is Singhs who come first then Jagya.She learnt to accept Jagya as her husband because of her love for Singhs.
She did not give divorce to Jagya because she didn't want Singhs to suffer.She signed divorce papers without even pausing for a second when Dsa put the papars in front of her.It had more to do with what Singhs wanted and less to do with what she wanted.
She did not want him back in her life but she forgave him for the sake of Singhs
She got him to agree for third marriage because that's what Singhs wanted and it is they who decided they will get him to agree to re marriage just like the way they made Anandi agree to it. So she used the same tactics on him which the family used on her
She tried to train Sanchi to be Singh's bahu and not Jagya's wife
She was hesitating so much because she didn't want Singhs to suffer for what Jagya done.
How much more proof is needed to say that for her it is Singhs who matter most?
When it came to Shekhars it is always Shiv who came first.