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Had been trying to put this off my mind but I seem helpless hence putting it up ... Arav ! The most vulnerable child of Nachiket Khanna and Ragini Patel !
In 18th June episode Ms. Basu decided to address our concern about Arav being in Jail and parents enjoying their life with other kids and relationships. I am so unable to accept this reason of NOT SEEING AARAV IN JAIL by either of the parents and especially the mother who brought him up... it is indeed a big shock for me and I simply demand from an explanation from the talented writer for such a brilliant and unique reason justifying the mother's pain OVER her responsibilities...
How a mother can just simply turn her back and not meet her kid even once in LONG NINE MONTHS OF LONELINESS in prison ? Just because she could not gather that courage to see her son in Jail ! Just because it would have hurt her more if she would have seen her son in that condition !! Just because she would have broken as she could not help her kid in that situation !!! THIS IS UTTER NONSENSE and NO mother can be this much self engrossed that she just simply can't see what her kid needs at that very moment ! HOW O HOW ! Imagine the condition of that kid for once... no matter he committed mistake out of his stupidity or Neil's irresponsibility or Ragini's bad parenting or whatever be the reason HE IS A KID that too just 17 yr old ! He was emotionally broken , was on the verge of killing himself out of guilt due his failure in life's all perspectives plus he had just lost his love of life in his own arms , no matter how silly or stupid that teenage love was, it was love for him... even if we witness some random accidental death on road, it becomes difficult for one to forget that haunted sight for days... how on earth is Arav the poor child going to get over all this??? Who is to support him??? Daddy packed his bags and ran to US... Mother couldn't see beyond her own misery and grief and hence no one I mean NO ONE went to see him in these nine months !!! Commendable 👏 👏 👏
It was not about Nachiket and Ragini this very time ! For once just for once couldn't they just see beyond their own self and their own status with each other ? Just for the sake of that child ? Who expect divorced couple to get back to each other after this long separation ! Very few cases TBH are observed but that is not because they are dying to be in each other's arms once again but because they realize what mistakes they did in past and at what cost ! Here they both do realize their mistakes and accepted and apologized too , BUT the cost they paid for 15 long years of separation i.e. their kids, they both just once again failed to realize that ! Because IMHO these two are so self engrossed that they can't think about anything but they themselves ! Mr. Khanna can't see beyond his own hurt that he gets from Ragini and same is for Ms. Patel ! If they had to separate they had no compulsion on their decision but who says you cannot help your kids with their issues mutually even if you are divorced?? OR is there a law that you can only help your kids if you are married and together otherwise you just can't talk to eachother about anything ??
Someone needs to tell the writer that Arav's issue was not just a twist to bring in story of Nachiket and Ragini to get TRPs... it is about that kid who suffered from something terrible and needed support from his family... it was about telling the society how to deal with such kids and such situations . But here Ms. Basu chose to split the parents to never see the child who must by now be dead from inside ... seeing no one from his family really coming to see him when he is all alone in detention , no matter if it was his fault or not , he must be waiting for his parents , his siblings , his family to visit him and assure him that they are his support , they will let him overcome all this ... but here no one visited the poor boy but Dr. Aman (if I don't bother myself with his intentions or anything seeing him only from the eyes of Arav's family who consider him saint) then that is very kind of him, but Who the hell is he to Arav? Was Arav even close to him emotionally ever before?? In all those 15yrs even when he missed his father terribly??? NO ... then how can he seek comfort by his presence?
Ragini and rest of the family can come to know that he is alive in that rehab center through Aman and THAT WAS IT ? A mother , a sister , a grandmother's responsibility is over?? NO it certainly is not... He needed his mother's assurance , his dad's support from the very moment he stepped in that rehab center and here he got none for 9 months...and trust me 9 months are not small that you show on Thursday that he went to Jail and on Monday it is 9 months later It is actually more than 23652000 seconds and when once alone you even tend to count milliseconds and nanoseconds of life too ... How on earth is that Rehab center going to turn him in good person when he must be feeling abandoned by his parents? What sort of punishment is that mother trying to give to his child? Isn't that better that they kill him once rather than he dying every second of his loneliness!!! The pain of this boy is unimaginable ... passing each second , minute , hour, day , week and now months... Is he even alive???
Why couldn't Ragini as a mother in this particular case kept her own hurt and pain aside to help her son cope up with his misery and depression ... not only that he was jailed , he was feeling like a loser already and JUST BECAUSE HIS MOTHER COULD NOT MANAGED TO HAVE COURAGE TO SEE HIM IN JAIL, she did not bother to visit him once in nine long months ... plain ridiculous ... utter butchering of Ragini as mother ... and here we were demanding her kids to show some affection and respect towards her... how on earth will they do that if the parents will run away like this from them in times of need just because they can't see anything beyond themselves ! Beyond their own hurt !!! All that kids need in their bad time are their parents and specially a mother ... it is only Ragini who needs her chipkoo Aman Sir in times of need (that too because Thepla Ben is so useless ) and hence she thought that CC will be good enough for Arav too ...
Super Dad Mr. Khanna disowned him publicly once and for all... and mother, she just cries looking at his pictures, now how on earth is that going to help your kid? Did you ever try to think that if you being 40 something can't overcome the situation how will that poor kid be able to do that?? If as a mother all you want is good for your kid, isn't helping him coping up with grief part of that? Yet you are so so so hurt that you didn't miss a chance to wear that ring on your finger!!! Whatever be the reason... Even if I agree to the reason about her being broken and wanting to end her misery and because Nachiket left her in her bad times once again , if she can think about herself WHY can't she think about her kid? How can this not occur to her once that her little boy who just celebrated his 17th birthday few months back is in much need of her!!! No Mother on earth can do that but here in BT land and that too only when NB is wearing the head chef's cap...
And again if Ragini couldn't gather that courage couldn't anyone else from the family go and see him?? That Thepla Ben proudly announced that she has not got a chance to see Arav yet in 9 long months nor did Nishi the most selfish of siblings... This is just WOW ... Bingo to entire family and here we were trying to find excuse to defend Ragini and Nachiket turn by turn in our discussions...
Ragini was indeed a better parent than Nachiket Pre Leap and even Post Leap Nachiket's act as super dad was not making any sense to me considering his arrogance of running back to US leaving Arav in Jail... No matter how much hurt and broken they both had been , as a parent that time was not to cry over spilt milk rather support their kid, who was certainly the one most effected and broken from all that happened... and that is not just for Ragini , that goes for Neil too whom I hardly find correct in any situation but yes this one being the gravest of all as they both should at least have learned something from their past mistakes... but here they are worst than their own teenage kids. No matter if we justify Ragini being dead inside or a new person altogether, or whatever we call it, she is a mother and a mother always see beyond herself and take pains in life for her kids even if she is on death bed... How on earth can this mother who was dedicated to her kids throughout her life turn so selfish that she chose her comfort , her own escape route from hurt and pain over her kid's need !!! or whatever you had to do still I would say 9 months are too long ... way tooo long for not going to see your boy in jail who by now is just 18 in my books, can't really say about writer and her calculations...
So far Aagham is the only character in this serial which talks some sense but I doubt he will continue doing that in future considering the talent of the mahaan writer !
So it took just one episode's one scene to convert Ragini's character as mother in utter nonsense... And what to talk about Mr. Khanna and his obedience towards his love of life... HE is an exemplary husband who just don't know how to say NO to his wife every time she asks to leave her . He just packs his bags and leaves . Brilliant . In this case when mother is shown this courageous how can dad fail in this exam Rest for engagement and its being called off, NeiRa and their reunion, or anything else nothing really matters anymore till the time they come up with some logical and sensitive track... which is not possible in this century unless they change the team altogether
And with that Mr Khanna and Ms Patel have undoubtedly won the marathon of worst parents with flying colors !
Shiv Shakti
