Traditional household Vs Modern household - Page 3

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

agreed and agreed .. and hence I said initially NO generalization.
The fact is, some moms sit at home after they have children, and kids do not get messed up, the reason being my mom is a person of substance. I am sure many of us were raised by similar moms ( i was).. but that doesn;t mean we should start glorifying all women sitting at home to raise their kids, since they may be screwing up their job anyway for reasons mentioned earlier. Whereas, it is not necessary that all working women are screwing up their children- for some reasons discussed above.

ok Ma'am, heard you point on generalization, but why not? 2 -3 rd generation folks are mostly grow in similar setup and see the value, it's a proven arangement from decades, ok, since we are going with a series of misintre.. today (yes, u can also blame hot thai lunch, I had😆) want to clarify, with traditional setup and modernization am okay with either spouse opting to be a homemaker. Women being homemaker have done wondes pofessionally, men can also..infact they have an edge(something to talk about in parties..i did this and that). There is no question of messups(s* ups), its the zeal to finally make the family sucessfull. You might find my thoughts weird but that me, sorry if I sounded offending😳

cost of day care- it is not about money.
it is about woman being someone by herself, not just the wife of XYZ for a substantial period of time, before boredom hits. There's a reason why some of us choose to stand on our feet before marriage and stay that way after, instead of starting a career with husband's money, mercy / luvvv- and then justifying it by glorifying their family-responsibilities. Some can do both, some screw up both and some do one better than the other. Nobody needs to be glorified / judged.

See the value here in traditional setup VS Modern setup (men or women homemaker), Boredom?? its way less of an impact to family then both spouses toiling hard during the day, being frustrated from the work, dropping/picking kids from various classes fo grades, coming home and wanting Indian food, at the end sometime together, Hello!! its 1AM go to sleep, chaki starts fo both spouses at 7 AM.Well frank inputs would really help folks here to plan thie lives..

and in modern times, the way i am, i justify the modern household, not the traditional- that i say is my personal choice and i dont recommend it to all women. some are just born to watch tv, paint nails, brush hair, shop and wear make-up whole day 😆.. oh, they look adorable though😳.

well no reaction here, just a 😊

Imp note : 'R' key on my PC is not working right, adding to my typos😆 Please bea with it.

Originally posted by: raj5000

ok Ma'am, heard you point on generalization, but why not? 2 -3 rd generation folks are mostly grow in similar setup and see the value, it's a proven arangement from decades, ok, since we are going with a series of misintre.. today (yes, u can also blame hot thai lunch, I had😆) want to clarify, with traditional setup and modernization am okay with either spouse opting to be a homemaker. Women being homemaker have done wondes pofessionally, men can also..infact they have an edge(something to talk about in parties..i did this and that). There is no question of messups(s* ups), its the zeal to finally make the family sucessfull. You might find my thoughts weird but that me, sorry if I sounded offending😳

I did not find them wierd / offensive at all. These are yor thoughts and experience / observation of examples around you. As said earlier, I unfortunately have encountered home-makers who are tv-watchers whose kids need to get out and grow in better social environmnet for their actual and better growth..
all my working (always been working) colleagues on the other hand have great kids. that's where my vies arise. most of my very accomplished cousins also come from family with 2 working parents. seen not a single mess-up child till date in fact whose mom was working. in fact, my aunt who widowed at 29 and raised 3 sons on her, worked and took care is one of the best mom examples i know :) i also am sorry if i sounded rude at any point. i see you and i have encountered different households probably.

it is about woman being someone by herself, not just the wife of XYZ for a substantial period of time, before boredom hits. There's a reason why some of us choose to stand on our feet before marriage and stay that way after, instead of starting a career with husband's money, mercy / luvvv- and then justifying it by glorifying their family-responsibilities. Some can do both, some screw up both and some do one better than the other. Nobody needs to be glorified / judged.

See the value here in traditional setup VS Modern setup (men or women homemaker), Boredom?? its way less of an impact to family then both spouses toiling hard during the day, being frustrated from the work, dropping/picking kids from various classes fo grades, coming home and wanting Indian food, at the end sometime together, Hello!! its 1AM go to sleep, chaki starts fo both spouses at 7 AM.Well frank inputs would really help folks here to plan thie lives..

like i said, it could affect few households. not all women are super-women, but some indeed are 😃. i know few in forum even forget RL, who have not taken years of break in careers. Their kids are great! Their tiredness is clearly not affecting their work/ kids/ relationship. so why assume one way or the other?

and in modern times, the way i am, i justify the modern household, not the traditional- that i say is my personal choice and i dont recommend it to all women. some are just born to watch tv, paint nails, brush hair, shop and wear make-up whole day 😆.. oh, they look adorable though😳.

well no reaction here, just a 😊

LOL •aj 😊 & also noted that the•e was a p•oblem with you• • key 😆😆.

well, last but not the least- to avoid going in cicles, I see your point dear and I know you see mine. Different people, different experience, different needs, different expectations, different women, different jobs, different places..

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

Imp note : 'R' key on my PC is not working right, adding to my typos😆 Please bea with it.

well, last but not the least- to avoid going in cicles, I see your point dear and I know you see mine. Different people, different experience, different needs, different expectations, different women, different jobs, different places..

😆😆😆 thanks for skipping the r and making the response humo*ous 😆

@hightlight.. Wallah!! 😆😆 ek sey badh key ek 😆 nah kiddin Ma'am, I appreciate you respecting my POV as I do your's... dekhtey hai how life turn out... all the best to both and all of us here 😊