I've discussed this on various posts time and again, so I am not going to type it out. Shall post my thoughts on the CCTV idea here. But before that I'd just like to say that after long a track has come in YHM where everyone has point of views and in a way everyone is justified.
I get Ishita totally - She wants to be a mother to Adi in every way now, since he accepted her. She's vary about his every act because ONE he has taken a huge step of breaking apart from his earlier life and making a decision of being a part of theirs. TWO Adi has been known to get influenced, do wrong things without good judgement and also had pyscholigical issues. So her protective instincts are not entirely wrong, just the way she's using is.
Raman is wrong in being way too lenient but I do see where he's coming from. He's trying to be a friend to Adi and so far Adi's only just made one mistake so he sees no reason to hound him. He's scared of losing the blooming bond between Adi and himself and even with the family and tries to create a feeling of trust and friendship so that Adi is not scared to own up his mistakes and also is aware of what his boundaries are.
Parenting is hard and this conflict is totally real and natural.
Coming to the fight that shall air tonight. I as usual detest Raman's words (unless they finally do conclude it well) BUT I don't blame him for being angry. His words are wrong and offensive but his anger is not. Putting Spycam's are just not necessary in the current situation.
Just posting what I wrote on other posts down here too.
I agree with everything said in regards to why Ishita needs to be a Bad cop. It's perfectly all right and totally apt that she is the balancing force between both the parents. And I get why she is protective and worried. Her intentions are noble definitely and there is no doubt on her love for the child. But the way she has taken and the reasons for which she is taking extreme steps are not entirely justified. Keeping a strict watch on the child for his betterment and to restrict him is alright but putting a CCTV in his room will lead him to feel that he is not trusted.
A child at his age in my opinion should be spoken to as a friend. Sitting down with him and telling him that what children at his age end up doing and what it results into and asking him if he wants the same. More importantly the child should be made to feel that he is trusted, so that his conscious is alert and he thinks twice about what his parents would feel if he made a mistake.
Coming to Raman, his words are hurtful and in NO WAY justified, whether we say its unintentional or said in an impulse. BUT is his anger really that wrong? Adi is a growing teen. Yes he is bound to stray and thus a watch is necessary, but by being so possessive won't they end up distancing the child whose just started to bond with them. I find Raman's way a little more relatable if not entirely correct. Like you said Adi has just taken a huge decision by cutting Shagun out of his life and accepting a new family. So like Ishita thinks that could still affect his mind, Raman thinks that being so protective would stifle him. He is being approachable and friendly to make him more comfortable in his surroundings. And at this point though the parents need to be careful because of his history (suicidal tendency, psychological issues, criminal offence etc) he also needs to be assured that his parents trust him. Showing trust will be more beneficial for Adi than to imply that he's being watched.
If you've observed I always end up coming to Ishita's defense but this time I can't because what has been shown reminds me of my own personal experiences. I've been through rough phases mentally ( low on confidence, easily stressed) and at such times the more faith my parents showed the stronger I became. But whenever I thought or heard of them being doubtful my confidence in myself dipped to new lows. So although Ishita is in every way justified in her worries and her intentions are absolutely noble, the way she has chosen is very very very wrong and for me nothing justifies it. And hence if the family or Raman is angry at her, THIS only time I do not blame them.
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