Mina, second time's the charm...I loved the post, joy to read and though I don't see it your way, good read!
Responding to the post from
earlier:
Abhi is apparently handling the situation in his own way, but it's a way that does not involve using the truth as his foremost weapon. It's a way that does not involve openly taking responsibility for his choices and their consequences. It's a way that seems most intended to preserve the image that everything is fine - and I have a major problem with that.
Mina, he's never been shown to be the beacon of truth, so why the expectation now? As I said in the EDT, one thing Abhigya have done consistently is hide things and lie to Dadi and Ma to save them from pain and see them happy. If they together and individually upheld the image of a happy marriage for so long, why the expectation of truth from Abhi now? And what is Pragya doing? isn't she taking a 100 different routes than the truth? Is she taking the path of truth and righteousness for us to expect the same in Abhi? I'm asking the question because we all see the side we want to see but they are really operating in similar ways- two peas in a pod.
The reason why it's difficult to accept Abhi "playing the hero" at the last minute is because even when Abhi does all the right things to fix a situation, he always has an eye out to preserving his image in front of Daadi. His reason for hiding the pregnancy truth and his marriage truth from Daadi doesn't seem to be concern for her health - yes, she collapsed during MMS time, and he made threats to Pragya around the about "if anything happens to my Daadi because of you" - but lately all I've tended to hear from him is "I can't see Daadi cry" and "I don't want Daadi to be hurt" and "Whoever hurts my Daadi, I'll return the favour to them." Nothing about concern for her health, only concern for her feelings.
I would like to ask what's wrong in being the hero? He made it clear to Pragya from the first night where his priorities lay, he was in this marriage for Dadi and he would ditch her after Aliyah got married to Purab. She played along for her Ma. If he wants to preserve his image by leading this double life that will come apart like it is now, isn't it his choice? And just like it his choice, she has always had a choice to leave and yet she has stayed due to Ma. In this situation, it would be sweet if Pragya played the hero but she's too busy playing the villain. I hope it's a ruse and she was in on some plan all along. Abhi has always been self preserving, this concerns his bread and butter, his reputation is at stake so I fully expect him to defend himself. if he doesn't it would be a surprise.
It's great that he loves his Daadi and doesn't want to see her hurt. It is not great that he constantly chooses to preserve a false image of himself in front of her by dealing with his problems in a back handed way and never admitting in front of her that he's made wrong choices. He doesn't want to disappoint Daadi, he doesn't want to hurt her by showing that he's done things she would disapprove of.
But he has done those things. He did marry Pragya for revenge, despite thinking it was wrong. He did stay married to her after finding out it was a misunderstanding, without ever once reevaluating the nature of their relationship. He did stay with Tanu - or accept Tanu staying with him, if you prefer - and use her to make Pragya feel bad and to keep her at a distance from him over all these months. He did put Pragya and her family and Suresh through the wedding circus, completely disrespecting their dignity and their appeals for understanding, in service of his bigger plan to catch Aaliya.
Yes and he's made it clear he is doing it, why he's doing what he's doing and his truth with Tanu. I always believe every individual has a choice at any given moment to make a difference to their lives. Pragya has begged Abhi not to reveal anything to her mother or throw her out of the house due to Ma. Did she not have the choice to leave? I am not suggesting or excusing his behavior, but when you say he has done something, the other person has a choice on how to react to a certain situation. She chose to stay. Yes, he shoved Tanu in her face, he did despicable things but did she have to stay and take it? She stayed due to Ma- a false representation of herself that she was happy, didn't want to hurt her by getting out of the marriage. My recurring theme here is it takes two to tango and one to leave. But he's a good man who has made some god awful choices that have hurt other people, and in my opinion the only fair way for him to pay for those choices is to own them. To own his mistakes. To acknowledge that he doesn't deserve untainted adulation from Daadi or anyone else. To regret what he's done, and be ashamed of it, and to see disappointment reflected in the eyes of those who expected better of him - and then forgive himself once he has experienced remorse.
The thing is, Daadi is still going to love him if she knows about all this. She is going to understand his weaknesses, she is going to understand why circumstances made him choose the way he did. She is not going to be broken by these truths. She'll be disappointed, but she'll get over it.
It seems like Abhi is the one who can't stand to face her disappointment. And that's what makes his "hands off, on my own schedule, don't expect me to tell you what I'm doing" way of dealing with this pregnancy so incredibly infuriating to me.
His reasons for handling his problems his way always boil down to making sure that he doesn't have to deal with Daadi being hurt by his behaviour, even when his Daadi-unapproved behaviour is the root of the problem.
Abhi's always been the fixer, solutions to problems one way or the other, hook or by crook. He owned up to his mistake with Pragya when he thought he was dying. I just don't see his character owning up to anything unless he needs to salvage a situation or his deathbed or CVs have a remorse track lined up 😆. He is going to take the path of the least collateral damage for all his plans. And yes, all his plans involve not hurting Dadi. So...that's where I'm coming from with my Abhi critiques on this track. Until he openly takes responsibility, his choices won't be good enough for me. He's Abhi, so he might never openly take responsibility, but he'll still be the one to fix the problem and get the credit. The way this serves the lie of his image in front of Daadi is what I really can't get over or forgive.
Well Pragya in this track was given the chance to be a hero, she chose to be a villain. Her choice again. I don't see why he can't be the hero to protect himself. The way I see it, he's not the only one protecting his loved one from finding out the truth and pretending in the marriage 😊
Edited by deefan - 10 years ago
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