Cultural Difference: what to do?

well certain happenings in my life have caused me to write this..i usually am i silent reader but i would loveeee it if you all coul reply to this

well our culture and customs dont exactly allow us to go out or have gf's or bf's. this applies more to some than others, especially really traditional people, ok so a girl likes someone and that person likes her too but she cant say yes to him becouse of her family. she knows that if she seriously loves him and later there broken apart by the family it will kill her

on the other hand she doesnt want to just listen to her parents and marry someone she doesnt love and later regret it..and if she does go with someone she loves, then comes the whole badnami chakkar..where everyone starts talking and u ruin the ezat of ur family..

so what is a girl to do? is there any safe way to work this out..some way thats fair for everyone? is this fair to the girls and guys out there? if u had to pick between finding ur true love and ur family who would u pick and why?

and im talking about being with someone when u are of age like in ur early 20's when ur ready to be married..im not talking about teenage relationships..coz i agree thats a littel too early to think about all this stuff..for some ppl atleast

Hi Blah! here are few similar topics we discussed, just see if it helps

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Debate : Is it right to force kids born country not of their parental origin to enforce cultural values of originating country?

I say no no it was parental choice to give birth and raise kids in country that have diverse cultral values. Don't force children to have cultural values or originating country. 1. You are inculcating rebellious nature, based on country / culture of country where they are getting raised. 2. Let the kids decide whats best to adopt? they know the best ways to survive remember the day when parents themselves were FOB's.

so what is a girl to do? is there any safe way to work this out..some way thats fair for everyone? is this fair to the girls and guys out there? if u had to pick between finding ur true love and ur family who would u pick and why?

I dont see what is true love ? ? and how do you find it ? ? 😕
being a girl, and cultured, is it not difficult to go hunt for true love. you wouldnt get a guy who carries, i am ur true love sign. searching 1 among the whole lot, is like meeting them , dating them, spending time with them, loving them, accepting them, etc etc......and if not finding them right after a period of time, then breaking up and concluding he was'nt my true love...... Is this not against the culture and family izzat... and when you find your true love, will you be worth of him ? ? after going through all those boys. literally.

well, i would definately pick my family , and not run behind someone who i think is my true love, 😊
In such serious matters like marriage, i simply believe that god has destined a person , so what does it matter your parents search for him or you search in the wild, the guy who is destined will not change, neither his love for you. so why not give your parents the responsibility which they can anytime handle it the best. 😃

and besides, Love after marriage is truly, true 😳

I think in Asian culture totaly different,We give much value for family relationship, stay together,respect elders,bro-sis relationship,with grandparents advices etc etc...All thing sometime make us confuse but If Love happen, lovers make their own world, they rules the kingdom without sward,Falling in Love with someone it natural,its happen every where,Communication is importent thing, and understand the situation,Sacrifise also part of love....

I think now a days keeping the indian culture lot of love+arrange marriage happening...its a good sign. 😃