Do boys have it that easy?

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Posted: 10 years ago
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Boys also dont have it that easy.

Young boys are employed and exploited in embroidery factories cramped in small rooms, overworked and ill treated and many of them were rescued.

Young boys are also employed mostly in cracker making units often killed during explosions.

We see young boys employed in small hotels, retail and grocery shops, dhabas and often ill treated and beaten.

Boys are also expected to marry off their sisters, take care of their parents and in the process are made to discontinue their studies and dreams.

Young boys are also sodomised, exploited sexually.

Jagya was pampered by DS in a perverted fashion while he was often punished by his father. When Jagya wanted to pursue medical studies, he was not allowed by his dear DS. When Jagya chose Gauri, he was subjected to ostracisation without giving him even a miniscule chance or benefit of doubt because they thought a good balika bahu was a desirable wife too. They thought from anandi's point of view. If they had only sent anandi for higher studies and convinced her that her husband did not belong to her anymore.
And then Jagya was forced to consider remarriage and also with Sanchi unquestioningly because Sanchi belonged to anandi's sasra. When he chose Ganga, all hell broke loose.

Kundan's case is different. He knows only how women are treated, slapped and controlled. He is seeing how his parents give him special treatment. He is not at all punished for mistakes which should be part of unbringing. A perverted parenting. He has full freedom and that freedom is as long as he follows their way of living. If he starts showing the least humanity, he will be labelled as namard by his parents. He is also seeing how his bua's husband is being treated with contempt for being nice. Nimboli gets torture which may make her or break her while Kundan gets treatment which may make him an animal and a criminal. That is why juvenile boys and girls are treated leniently for crimes by judges.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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yes for boys it not easy they have also pressure whether in office or in home but in bv serial cvs did not show hard life of childgroom .in bv cvs show easy life of child groom they dont show any pressure on child groom .since cvs has not shown hard life of child groom hence in bv child groom life is very easy in comparable to child bride .



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Posted: 10 years ago
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I don't think Singhs saw it only from Anandi's perspective.
Long before they got to know about Jagya Gauri - they felt alienated from Jagya.
He totally disconnected himself emotionally from his home family and village.
Jagya felt ashamed of his rural background,family background of agricultural roots, his mother's illiteracy along with his child marriage and unpadh gawar wife.
He felt ashamed of his very own identity or else he wouldn't have changed his name, made up a story about his family coming from Jaipur his mother helping his father in family business.
All this he did way before he fell for Gauri.
Child marriage and being ashamed of his gawar child bride was understandable but the rest is unacceptable.
They have shown a parallel - Lal Singh - who was not ashamed of his humble rural background not so well educated parents and not ashamed to admit that he was married in childhood and his beendini is unpadh.
So we cannot attribute everything to his upbringing.
Post his education Lal Singh wanted to come back home and take care of his parents where as Jagya even before his parents got to know about Gauri he told them that he is planning to settle in Mumbai never once gave a thought to his family or who will take care of them.
People keep saying that Anandi hid J's lie. Sh did tell them that he introduced her as Nandini a distant relative of his and was ashamed of her illeteracy.when the truth about her tenth board exams came out.
Not everything about Jagya can be attributed to his upbringing. If it is the question of role models - Did he not see how much his father respected his wife didn't he learn anything from his parents successful marriage where there is love and mutual respect? They were not as educated as he is but they knew a woman's place in the family and society.
Bhairon Singh was not well educated then how did he know how to treat woman with respect?

I don't think everything should be attributed to family ground society and upbringing.

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Kundan - He has bad examples before him. A decent man who respects woman is treated like a namard by his father. true. But this decent man also came from the same background as Akhera and Kundan.How is that he respects his wife's wishes and Akhera doesn't?
Harki Devi doesn't dare to question the men of the family Nandini who grew up in the same family questions Kundan. How is that possible? I think it is more to do with inner strength and innate sense of what is right and wrong that made them different.
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Child labour and children being exposed to evil practices there it is poverty which pushes them into things.
But here also it is still girls who are MORE vulnerable than boys.Sexual abuse against girls is much much more common than it is against boys.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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If boys are pushed into work at a young age so are girls who are sold off as domestic helps and worse sold off into flesh business and what not.
They too have a bad life
Child labour affects adversely irrespective of the gender of the child.
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But in case of girl child and boy child the discrimination happens within the family too.
So many of my friends who are paediatricians tell how parents seek medical help at the earliest possible in case of a boy child and how they delay getting medical help in case of a girl child.
If the parents don't have means to give good education they chose the best possible school for boys and for girls any old school will do.
Boy's education is a priority while girl's education is a luxury they cannot afford.

So many other instances we do come across.

While poverty is unkind to both boy and girl but traditions and society often discriminate between boys and girls that is fact.

It is not just India but in every society cutting across times races and cultures as well as religions.


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Posted: 10 years ago
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Bhairon Singh and Basant Singh both were brought up by the same Kalyani Devi . Then why were they so different from each other?
Putting everything that shapes a boy on the upbringing is not right.

If upbringing is the only thing that decides the way a person's character shapes up then why people are so busy criticing that little girl for the pranks she pulled?
Isn't she as small as the two boys?
It is nothing but finding ways to defend a boy.Society often does that . When it comes to a boy
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Posted: 10 years ago
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in bv serial none of child groom work in hotel they never do any child labour work none of child groom take responsibility to marry his sister .none of child groom is deprive of studies .none of child groom is shown to leave his study and then taking care of family business .

bv cvs has never shown child groom facing any big difficulty .at least in bv child groom are allow to study and play which r basic requirements for any child .wheras child bride deprive of study there r not even allow to play infact they r force to eat left over food of child groom they r force take heavy school bags of child groom while child groom to school since , child groom are allow to study they can play they r not force to do family business that is why child groom life is easy in comparison to child bride .whatever child bride face difficulty due to child marriage in comparison to that child groom never face that difficulty

since bv cvs has not shown child groom facing any big difficulty so it is very hard to feel bad for child groom .


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Posted: 10 years ago
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even when nandu was secretely going godown checking business account leaving his school then somone told nandu that in ur age study is most important ,look after family business is not important at ur age .so here nandu at such tender wanted to family business but none of singh family told nandu leave ur study and look after family business .every body in singh family want nandu to complete his study and then he can do family business

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