Balika Vadhu 23 March 2015 Written Update - Page 2

People are busy praising Mannu He is a star Such sensible kid At same criticizing Mannu's father as if he does not know his responsibilities towards his son and wife and needs to realize them then Mannu is Anandi's upbringing 😲Mannu is upbringing of same Jagya and Ganga 😆and Mannu is only a 2.5 older to Abhi and 3.5 to Shivam does not feel like Abhi because unlike Abhi he does not have any tiff with shivam where he sometimes crosses the line and father is forced to scold him Don't think Jagya is being extra strict This much strict every parent is towards their child if i cross the line in misbehavior then my parents will too scold me Scolding is only a last way for a parent to control his child if he does not listen politely All the time Jagya has scolded Abhi he deserved every bit of it

and here center of problem is not at all communication gap or Jagya's way of dealing with his son here or he is preferring shivam over Abhi errr can people show me one such situation ?Of course cannot because this a totally false blame The center of problem is Anandi and her failure to control shivam Anandi accepted shivam is at equal fault in all messes with Abhi then why she does not control him ? The kid commits mistakes and boasts around i am the best i am never at fault everyone's favorite then who should control him ? Jagya or Anandi ? of course Anandi and she does not do that properly Ha she even did not say to him much about how he left the school and end up putting his life in danger? Abhi is corrected by his father but shivam ? should Jagya correct him or his mothe?r Shivam commits mistakes and still boasts around to be the best and everyone's favorite Now who should control him ? Jagya or Anandi? Anandi if Anandi starts putting her son in limits Abhi's most of the problem will be solved that he has developed misunderstanding in him that everyone favors shivam because they don't scold him for his mistakes

if all fault is Jagya's here He does not know how to balance then Abhi should be having problems with Mannu as well because Mannu does not get scolding by father? because unlike shivam Mannu has no tiff with Abhi and Abhi is too young to understand Jagya's stituation as why he does not scold shivam This makes Abhi feel his father is favoring shivam over him and shivam boasts in the house i am the favorite kid of this house If Anandi starts putting him in limits and correcting his behavior This whole problem will be solved

if Jagya does not know how to balance between kids and his responsibilities then his both own kids would not be having such healthy relationship Problem is one kid in the house , who equally makes fuss with Abhi yet his father is forced in such situation he cannot scold him No matter how much Jagya explains to Abhi and shower love on him to make him believe you are most important person for me in the world This problem in Abhi will not be solved until shivam is not corrected by his mother

P.S Mannu was counting here shivam 's virtues only to make peace between Abhi and Shivam and make Abhi see shivam can also be good not because shivam is angel and flawless kid Of course he cannot count his flaws to fuel this fight so people who are assuming Mannu is declaring shivam as complete angel and its always Abhi's fault must understand the scene first

By the way those who were blaming Abhi he left shivam deliberately in school to put his life in danger must have got answer to their false blame he did not even imagine Shivam will do this He only thought he will come home late That was his prank Shivam put his life in danger on his own because of his stupidity It was not Abhi's fault

Originally posted by: jermey1

By the way those who were blaming Abhi he left shivam deliberately in school to put his life in danger must have got answer to their false blame he did not even imagine Shivam will do this He only thought he will come home late That was his prank Shivam put his life in danger on his own because of his stupidity It was not Abhi's fault

What Abhi did was a simple prank He only wanted him to come home late from school , he couldn't have imagined that Shivam would run out of the school like that Those who were blaming Abhi he put shivam's life in danger wonder where they are now Really wanted to quote that person and ask her now what you will say 😛Abhi did not leave him in some jungle . thrown him in well , mixed poison in his food that he should be blamed for putting his life in danger He only left him in school

Shivam acted this stupid then its his mother's fault who did not even teach him some common sense Anandi who teaches all others kids self defense techniques and teaches them how to handle situations if her own son take such stupid risks then its Abhi's fault or Anandi's who did not teach her son important lessons of life ? Its totally Anandi's fault Her weakness as a guide to her son

Blaming Abhi here was like some day shivam cuts his hand with a knife and we count knife at fault who cut little baby shivam How dare the knife do this Who brought this knife at home fault is of that person not of mother who did not teach the son its not correct to play with knife ?and even what Shivam did Anandi was more worried about Shivam not doing his homework than asking him why he left school at all?

i agree Center of problem here is Anandi's weakeness in dealing with shivam for his mistake and the over confident kid who thinks he is never wrong Jagya asks his son for his misbehavior Anandi ? what she does Did she even ask him why he left the school like that which was totally wrong He put his life in danger because of his own acts ?

Two kids in same house fight with each other one is asked to behave firmly by his father the other kid is asked to behave by his mother like this he says whatever ... i am the only good boy Now Jagya cannot correct shivam he has to deal with him in some limitations as he is not his son but Anandi's son Anandi does not deal with him correctly and this is affecting Abhi he thinks since no one says much to shivam therefore everyone favors him more than him

Regarding Jagya needs to realize his responsibilities towards his son and wife LOL and where he wronged both ? Never seen him preferring Anandi over Ganga anywhere therefore Ganga has no problem with Anandi at all

Regarding son where he has preferred shivam over Abhi ? He does not scold shivam because there is a reason behind it that Abhi don't understand and what Jagya is gonna explain to him ?He is nothing to me Poor fatherless kid staying in our house we have to be kind to him ? Who is Anandi actually and what relationship she and shivam have with BH ?Will Abhi understand this all complicated web of relationships now ?

if Jagya is not doing his responsibilities correctly then Mannu who is labelled as star is not Anandi the greats upbringing but his Both Abhi and Mannu share a good relationship when even siblings have rivalry with each other if parents fail to balance between kids but same these kids don't have

Don't know why Jagya is accused of failing to balance between shivam and Abhi because never for once seen him preferring shivam over Abhi Brought one thing for shivam forgot about Abhi or Mannu so ? Just because he does not scold shivam when he crosses the line People i guess want him to do that ? Abhi's problem will be solved if shivam great mother start controlling his behavior when she thinks he is at equal fault as of Abhi then why not control him ? Didn't see her doing that appropriately thats why he shows off i am everyone's favorite in this house and never at fault and this shivam's misunderstanding is affecting Abhi too as he has developed a misunderstanding All including his father are biased towards shivam and think he is only one at fault which he does not know is not true

Jagya thinks Anandi controls shivam but Anandi ji how she is controlling shivam is having no effect on shivam at all Even when he is fault he has guts to say i am always right its always Abhi's fault This only shows Anandi's poor way of dealing with him

How Jagya can be faulted he is too nice to shivam? Then what we expect him to do ignore Shivam a fatherless kid living in same house with him and sees him on daily basis loving his children Abhi and Mannu have their mother yet Anandi lovingly make tiffins for them not that Jagya or Ganga have asked her so Anandi will be faulted for this by same people she is being too nice to Abhi and Mannu?so how Jagya is declared at fault that why Jagya is too nice to shivam? He is nice to him does not mean he is preferring him over his children He is dealing with shivam in limitations when he commits mistake He did ask both shivam and abhi to behave when they were fighting in holi but if he does not scold Shivam and shivam ji is mistaking that and boasts off in front of Abhi he is everyone's favorite Then isn't it Anandi's problem to clear her son's misunderstanding its not such case ?

How Jagya can be blamed he is too strict on Abhi ? Where he is too strict on Abhi ?If child continues to misbehave and does not listen politely then it is the last way for parent to scold him so that he gets a lesson that if I will do this I will get scolding so to save myself from scolding I won't repeat this mistake and Jagya so far have only scolded Abhi when he does not listen politely and deserves scolding so why he is faulted he is too strict on Abhi when Abhi is only scolded by him when he crosses the line and deserves to be dealt firmly

And here the problem is Abhi commits mistakes gets ticked off by his father firmly Shivam does a mistake and still shows off I am extremely good boy never at fault I am everyone's favorite because others don't scold me and he does not bother much about mother who did try of make him see his mistake at sandwitches yet shivam did not see his mistake at all and proudly said I am never at fault? This must be going on since 11 years and when Anandi accepts Shivam is equal responsible for all fights with Abhi then Abhi is dealt by his parents but why shivam so called good boy The sharp intelligent kid The example of great upbringing still have this attitude I am never wrong Its always Abhis fault I am always good to him He is always rude to me which is not true ? Its not Jagya's fault if shivam's mother does not control and correct him in proper way If she starts doing this Abhi will get alright because he will get the point what he wants to prove that he is not only one at fault because shivam too is at fault

Lack of proper commuincation is not the problem between Jagya and Abhi the way i see neither i agree with this criticism of Jagya he needs to realize his responsibilities towards his son and wife when i dont see him faulting in that anywhere He is not overtly strict on Abhi but scolds him only when he deserves Jagya is not preferring shivam over abhi neither ignoring his child in his sympathy towards shivam

If Jagya is not doing his side responsibilities correctly towards his children then Mannu and Abhi will be having problems in their relationship as well Mannu is only a 2.5 year older to Abhi would be feeling same like Abhi , if Jagya is failing to balance between his kids then these both kids will not be having such good relationship so how fair is that to blame him he is not balancing between his responsibilities and needs to realize them ?

There are two kids in the house who have no relationship with each other who are having tiff with each other and both are equal fault and Anandi too accepted shivam is at fault too

Mannu here wanted to make peace between shivam and Abhi thats why trying to tell Abhi of shivam's goodness while Anandi herself knows shivam is at equal fault then why she does not control him? Shivam is not Jagya's own child so Jagya cannot afford to scold him even when it is shivam's mistake . While Abhi is Jagya's own child, so he can scold him when he crosses the line which he is doing and this thing hurts Abhi, because he gets scolded for his mistakes while Shivam does not and goes mostly scot free It is Anandi's responsibility when it comes to Shivam to keep her child in check. and according to me she is failing in that that is why this problem in Abhi is arising because shivam mostly goes scot free even when he commits mistake He never apologizes to Abhi , shows off in front of him he is the best , favorite kid in the house , even count its always Abhi's fault not mine ?Anandi failed to make him see his mistake when he ate up Abhi's sandwitches , she did not interrogate him for carelessly leaving school like this and putting his life in danger ? It was not Abhi's mistake shivam acted so carelessly ? But Anandi did nothing How irresponsible?

Her son is not milk washed and commits enough mistakes yet she fails to correct him and he keeps blaming Abhi All is his fault while Abhi gets scolding for his mistakes How he won't feel bad seeing shivam getting scot free for his mistakes? while its his mother's duty to correct him ?

and what Jagya is suppose to communicate to shivam Who is shivam ? please tolerate him as Shivam is a fatherless child, nothing to mine I have no capacity to scold Shivam even if he commits mistake , but please son trust me your place is yours. I am completely yours . your place no one can take but please develop patience in yourself to tolerate shivam as i am in this situation i cannot scold him as he is not my son and my situation is also like this I cannot ignore him because that will be burden on me i am ignoring this fatherless kid in my house

This is expected from Jagya to tell his son ?and this will solve his problem ? Never because the root cause which has caused this misunderstanding is shivam does mistake and is not dealt for it and he keeps growing over confident he is never at fault He was even telling his mother i am a good boy it was always Abhi's fault now it is not Jagya's responsibility to show shivam mirror here It is Anandi's responsibility Jagya leaves Shivam on Anandi but what Anandi do she either ignores Shivam's blunder like here or either her way to deal with him is so weak he does not care at all . High time Anandi gets in action and control the behavior of her son then most of Abhi's problem will be solved He will automatically start seeing shivam 's blunders are not ignored he is not only one declared at fault

I am amazed Anandi she is not seeing either with her staying in Badi Haveli , her son's responsibility is forced on Jagya head . With shivam staying in his Jagya is forced to foster her child He cannot ignore shivam that will make Anandi and shivam feel bad and unwanted people in the house but Anandi of course cannot see that neither she controls her son in proper way Abhi is not a bad boy His problem is shivam who also messes with him but even when he complains to Anandi about shivam's acts yet he does not realize his errors then whose fault is this Jagya or Anandi To me totally Anandi's

Anandi's irresponsibility blame comes on Jagya How sweet ?

Anandi if is so responsible towards her son then first she should take responsibility of her son on her own instead of forcing it on her ex husband's head by putting him in such situation that she along with her fatherless kid staying in same house with him ?

Second it is declared lack of proper communication is center of problem between Jagya and Abhi Really? then what Jagya is suppose to communicate to Abhi Please son understand my situation i am in a situation i cannot scold that fatherless kid neither can ignore him because i am forced in such situation so please understand my understand and learn to bear him trust me i have not given your place to anyone

so people want Jagya to communicate that to his son and this will solve Abhi's problem as Jagya will be telling Abhi why he cannot scold shivam and shivam can continue to take wrong advantage of others leniency to him since they are forced not to say much to him because he is not their son and also a fatherless kid staying in their house they leave him to Anandi to check but Anandi does not do that properly and shivam thinks he is king of the house everyone's favorite , never at fault and have i am always right attitude no matter he is at fault?

Jagya loves his son a lot His both children share a good relationship with each other Problem is only and only Anandi's kid because he is not controlled by his mother therefore he continues to act he is the best all is Abhi;s fault He said that in front of his mother even after committing a mistake eating Abhi's sandwiches He plays basket ball in the house and Anandi does not even stop him for that These games are not supposed to be played inside the house Abhi is asked not to play inside the house by his father , even Mannu and Nandu were now it is Jagya's responsibility to stop Shivam from doing so while his mother continues to be sleeping ?How Abhi won't feel bad seeing all this ?

Anandi failed to make Shivam realize his mistake when he ate up Abhi's food without asking permission from anyone if she would have made him apologize to Abhi How Abhi won't feel lighter that shivam is made to realize his mistake

Shivam carelessly leaves the school and Anandi gave him no scolding for carelessly leaving school ? Let alone scolding, she didn't even interrogate, but she very quickly confirmed with Shivam that yes Abhi was wrong. How Irresponsible of Anandi?

Its only Anandi's failure to control her son fueling up this problem and Abhi only sees all declare his fault while shivam keeps roaming like he never do any mistake Jagya thinks Anandi control him but how much she controls him it is pretty visible from this episode she did not even bother to make him realize his mistake while Abhi never even imagined he would carelessly run out of school like that He only left him to get late not run away and put his life in danger Now this is Jagya's responsibility to correct him No. Its Anandis and because of her failure to control her son others child is getting affected and misunderstanding his own parents