Ragini's kids!!!

Hello guys,

Yes, she has been a little negative with her children. She is actually always lost in her past. When she got separated she should have told herself that she would live in her future not in her past. But she is living in her past. Also, Nishi would have never went to her father for help if she got enough support from her mother. Also, the falling in love at such young age. It is actually true. We learned it in literature that people who lack parent love often try to find it outside.

Good points.

Originally posted by: poetic

Good points.

I would like to point out one thing though - Ragini never asked Nishi not to marry out of love. She requested her to wait for a few years and complete her education first, and then get married to Jignesh. it's not as if she didn't support her daughter. Her stance may be out of the fact that she herself had married at a very early age, and her entire world had collapsed by the time she was in her mid 20s. It was her experience and not her no support to her daughter.

Yes, she could have not forced Aarav to say sorry to Ranbir, who is actually a fake. But Shilpa herself has chosen Ranbir and Ararv is just behaving like a little boy asking for his favourite toy from his Mother. Aaron's seeking Nachiket's advice is absolutely justified, even if his parents are separated. But his lamentation that nobody understands him at home is way too much, I feel. Ragini, inspite of being a singleMom, has tried to prove for her share of the family, given the constraints.

yes, she has not moved on from her past, but has not compromised her family. The very example being that Nishi and Aarav do not bear hatred for their Father. In contrast, Ranbir bears immense hatred for his Mother and is willing to destroy his Mother's happiness and his younger Brother's happiness just tot make revenge. What could be more wrong? Yes, N may not have probably sewed venom, but Pam did.

If R feels like he suddenly lost his Mother for no fault of his, Nishi should also feel the same for her Father and bear a grudge within.

And yes, I still feel Aarav could have waited for some time more. And could have approached N alone, when others were not around. R had had to be tough because she was being both a Mother and Father at the same time, while for Nachiket, Pam was filling in upto certain extent.

Children of single parents, especially Mothers, are usually so protective and understanding of their Mothers, in real life.

Great points. And Ragini has been shown as loving to both kids, she may not be very demonstrative but she is definitely not shown as withholding love, several scenes with Nishi and a couple with Aarav too. No loving scenes of Neil with his kids except Nishi.

And one cannot blame the behavior of the kids on the parents, to some degree, yes, nurturing plays a great role but parenting alone is not enough to motivate the kid to behave in a certain fashion. Aagam or Aarav could never behave like Ranbir, hurting their sibling to get back at their parent. Nishi would never get back at her dad by hurting Suhani. Ranbir is just a bad enough apple that circumstances swayed his innate leaning towards being able to do bad things to the extreme. Neither Neil nor Ragini can be blamed entirely for all the faults of their children.

Yes, they have both been lost in the past, it has affected the way they relate to their children and to the rest of the world, they are withdrawn, frozen so to speak in terms of emotions. Yet, neither has shirked their duty, neither have not given love or support when needed.

Ragini walked in on Aarav manhandling Ranbir and asked him to aplogize, it is Aarav's sister's wedding, Ranbir is a guest and Aarav should not be pushing Ranbir around physically however evilly Ranbir is behaving. Nothing wrong in that, she cannot control Ranbir, she can control Aarav, she does not want a scene at Nishi's pag phera and she is ensuring that by asking Aarav to apologize and back off.

As for teenage unrequited love, if she is harsh with Aarav, she needs to be, being a Majnu at 16, not interested in studies, insisting on marrying Shilpa who does not love him but prefers his brother, definitely needs some tough love. That is what Ragini gave Aarav. Nishi will learn too the hard way that married life with Jignesh is not a bed of roses. Her dad is not going to come running to help her, it will be Ragini's problem again.

Interesting topic and discussions!